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Father2

52 M Danbury, CT

My Details

Last Online
Aug 19
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Job
Science / Engineering
Income
$150,000–$250,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, and wants more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Short version profile:
Tall, athletic, cheerful, well read, well traveled, successful, tolerant, conservative, committed Christian, and traditionalist. (And exceptionally modest, of course.) I am here for marriage and children. I am looking for a true partner for my life.

(I realize conservative Christian and cheerful/tolerant don't fit the stereotype; judge for yourself from my question answers. It may be that my tolerance is impacted by the fact that I came to Christianity relatively late in life, so I tend not to be judgmental.)

Long version:
After reading lots of profiles, I find that the most interesting ones are those with lots of personal information and a strong sense of humor. At the moment, this one has lots of information and not enough humor, but I consider it a work in progress anyway -- it is still changing regularly.

I am on this site solely to find a marriage partner. However, I find various sociological aspects of the site fascinating, so I do tend to ask people lots of questions, including people who are not a likely fit. If you are here because I sent such a question, but I don't fit one of your specifically mentioned criteria, you don't have to point out we are not a match -- I always read the profile and all of the questions before I send a message. (Actually it is only all of the questions if you have answered less than 1000, otherwise I sample. :-) The most questions I have seen someone answer was about 2500, but I am told that there are people who have answered over 10,000.)

I have been divorced for several years from my first wife, after 20+ years of marriage. (Since this is a hot button for some, let me add that it was not because of infidelity on either side.) I remain on good terms with both my wife and my (now adult) children.

I recently realized that one of the things I really enjoyed about married life was raising children. Women close to my age would only be potential partners for adopted children; while I have no objection to adopting children, I do (possibly immodestly) feel that my natural children are more likely to be special. So I am looking for someone who may or may not already have children, but is interested in having more. For marriage, naturally.

I don't smoke, drink, or do drugs (hard or soft). I am religious, and I think it is important for children to be raised in a religious environment, even when/if they later decide they are not interested.

My job allows me considerable flexibility in where I live, so location is not especially critical. I work for a large technology company.

My children are adults now. I have one of each (boy/girl, easy/difficult, scientific/artistic, and various other categories), so I have useful experience in a wide variety of situations.

I would be happy to adopt any children you have.

While children are obviously important to me, the reality in any family is that the relationship between the parents is the most critical. I am looking for a true life partner, not a baby momma (by analogy to "baby daddy"). I consider romance important, and believe that "date nights" for the parents are important. Joining your life with another takes attention and time -- but anything less than a true joining impairs both the marriage and the family.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Sociological research. (Sounds better than saying I am using an on-line dating service, doesn't it?)

Other than that, I enjoy my life, with an interesting job and plenty of time to travel. And given that I have no particular ties to the area I am currently living in, I have widened my search for a partner and will worry about where we will live after I know what matters to her.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Puzzles of all kinds, both created ones such as Sudoku and crossword puzzles, and real life ones. Solving the real life ones is what I do for a living.

Talking to people, both in person and on-line. Try it and see. :-)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That should be obvious after reading my profile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read more than go to shows. I tend to read a book or two a week on average. I read lots of science fiction, but many other kinds of books also. My profile picture (the full size version) has enough detail so you can see some of my reading material. For shows I tend to favor dance and musicals. I have seen lots of movies, just because I get bored on long international flights. As a result, I have seen a lot of the current fare, but coverage is spotty. And I like most ethnic cuisines, including particularly Thai and New Mexican, as well as most standard American fare.

I am a fan of both "Pat the Bunny" and "Fox in Socks". And I greatly enjoy "Eres tu mi mama", even more than the original. In a slightly different age range, I like the books by Tony Hillerman and Georgette Heyer.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
There is very little I could never do without, which I suspect is true of you also. Do you doubt me? Use my test: ask would I give up the use of my hands for the rest of my life to keep (or keep doing) this thing. There are a handful of things that still qualify, but I think they are obvious.

Now that I have that out of my system, let me answer a slightly modified question: What six things would you have to think about the longest before deciding that hands are more valuable? It may take me a while to get to six, but I will add as I think of them.
A sense of humor about life
Love -- not just romantic, but love of others
Chocolate -- the world would be a drearier place without chocolate
Laughter -- especially the joyful laughter of little children
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
OKC has recently changed their matching algorithm, in ways that seem bizarre. I am attempting to get my answer settings fixed so the algorithm finds the people I am actually interested only. In the meantime, I am reading a lot more kinds of profiles, which is at least informative.

The importance of a shared sense of humor in relationships. People can bond over disliking the same things, but the long term impact of that seems bad. Bonding over finding the same things ridiculous, however, seems to lead to a more upbeat relationship. And you can trust that there will never be a shortage of material to enjoy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out at the bars drinking and practicing Game. Didn't I meet you once a couple of years ago? Oh wait, I don't drink.

I did mention my sense of humor can be somewhat dry, didn't I? Although I am not sure the topic of Game is all that funny, since it seems to be doing bad things to the marriage pool. On a more serious note, a comment for those who understand the terminology. This profile seems to attract alphas who are looking for betas. That is not terrible, since I am okay with an alpha partner, but I am not a beta, and dominance games don't work well with me.

On a more positive note, I recommend "The Five Languages of Love" to anyone who is looking for a marriage partner. It deals with how people differ in the ways they perceive love, and it expanded my world view, which is the strongest recommendation I can give a book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Since everyone else seems to make this a very short section, I thought I would make it one of my longer ones. Of course, since I am something of a privacy nut, that means it is not precisely secret stuff.
But it should give you some more insight into me anyway.

You may notice that the Education slot in My Details is empty. This is because I have multiple graduate degrees, in different fields, and I couldn't figure out how to capture that fact. I am not an education snob, in the sense that I require anyone I date to have a similar level of education, but I do have broad interests and deep knowledge in multiple areas. I would hope to find someone who loves learning new things and having new experiences as much as I do. Note that the flip side of this is that if you do have great credentials, but don't read much, I won't be impressed. I grew up around very highly educated people, and learned early that credentials alone don't mean much.

On a completely different topic, I am a playful, fun-loving, tolerant, committed Christian. This seems to be a mix that confuses some people, so I thought I would expand on it a bit. Let's start with tolerant committed Christian. I don't actually care if a potential partner is a member of my church, or is even a Christian, either initially or ever. While some Christians feel converting others is a prime mission in their life, my view is that conversion is actually done by the Spirit -- my role is helping those looking for direction and providing the kind of example that makes others want to find my secret to a happier life. On the other hand, my partner will need to be active in my church even if not a member, since I attend regularly and spend time on church activities even outside the normal worship hours.

As those who attend church regularly know, there is a portion of the church going population that feels that religion is a very serious business, and should be treated that way. My label for such people is the dour members. They can be good people, in fact admirable in many ways, but they make being a Christian look like such hard work.
I prefer to think of being a Christian as something joyous, and I want that to be obvious in my life. This means I find humor everywhere, and I am very likely to tease people about just about anything, especially if they seem to have lost the sense of joy in life here on Earth. Look around -- life can be glorious!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–38
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I am happy to talk with anyone, and I respond to all messages.

I am currently going through a phase where Winston Churchill quotes are of great interest to me. Feel free to send me any favorites. Examples:
"When you're going through hell -- keep going."
"Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm."
I am also fond of "You can rely on Americans to do the right thing -- after they have exhausted all the alternatives" even though the provenance is doubtful.