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Father_Sky

62 Petaca, NM Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 44–70
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Aug 9
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Other
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
A little extra
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
5/21/14 I'm getting disinterested in this site. I get mostly problematic matches. Age inappropriate among them. To be blunt, I am not interested in a romantic connection with someone less than 65% of my age. If you are a much younger woman and see I have visited it is because your picture without your age is on my feed. I'm sure you're lovely and wonderful but...
I am not interested in a romantic connection with someone who self identifies as christian, catholic, orthodox anything (jewish, islamic, or the various eastern European.) On the other hand, if you are a non believer and want to speak of your non-belief every day I get tired of it too. If you have a deeply personal sense of spirit and don't have to reveal your depth all the time I would be most happy with you.
I am not interested in any wrong wing slobberer (followers of Faux News and the ilk.) I am not interested in anyone who believes in the inherent goodness of the democratic party either. OKC continually sends me pictures of way too young women and those with less than 70% match; usually these are in the aforementioned list. I don't know how to fix the broken algorithm. I even get men looking at me. Hi guys, no, not interested but good luck, i'd dance at your wedding.
Also, if you don't say much in your profile or answer any questions how can I know who or what you are. A photo isn't enough. If you haven't read my profile how can you think you want to communicate with me. I ask for more than a, Hi, how are you." Please reference something buried deep within and give me at least several (coherent) sentences. If you are a 50% match and don't say anything don't expect a response.
I know women get a LOT more interest and many men don't care about the match numbers. They look at a picture and want to take the plunge even at 20%, or that's what women friends tell me. I get discouraged even with the 99%ers here. What about it those who are reading this, do you have the same off match numbers and age inappropriate links sent to you too?


Since I posted the above (15 minutes ago) I have been visited by a 35%, a 43%, a 63% and a 55% match all self identifying as those with whom I state I'm not interested in a connection. See what I mean? Why are we popping up on each other's pages? How is the algorithm to be fixed?


OK, here is the essay

This is a long essay carefully crafted to separate those with potential from those without. I write about who I am and what I do and don't desire. Being a complete and whole person I am a patient man and not desperate. For even more information go to "the two of us" and answer some questions. I have answered over 2800 (wheew.) All of them with direct honesty. This is another self operating filtration system. Although many questions are silly and poorly phrased there are enough good ones to serve us well. I am liking the process.
Many people just don't read this through, I don't blame them; it is a lot of info. One point I want to make up front and emphatically clear is I am not interested in a relationship or meeting with anyone whose faith precludes any other system of belief. This means: those who subscribe to exclusive faiths such as any fundamentalist or assertive Christianity (this includes Catholicism & Orthodoxy) or Islam or Zionist Judaism (even secular) do not interest me. Also cultists who believe I can be converted to their POV (this includes followers of Ayn Rand, Joseph Smith/Brigham Young, Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, L.Ron Hubbard, and their ilk. All delusional; and their devotees can be dangerous) please do not waste either of our time. If I knew you outside this forum I would certainly have coffee but if the discussion drifted towards this you would not be happy with me, I promise.
Those whose beliefs don't exclude the possibility their system of belief might have gaps in its logic are welcome. Sorry to have to put too blunt a message but I am tired of people who, when told I don't have the same system, are shocked by my apostasy. The word religion means, "That which binds us together." There are over 41,000 groups of people whose self designation is "christian" in the US. Most of these feel if you belong to one of the others and not their's you are going to hell. This is definitely exclusionary; not inclusive.
I'm eclectic in the paths I've studied (not necessarily followed) and from which I draw wisdom and solace: Buddhism, Hinduism, Taoism, Gnosticism, Animism, Shamanism, and many mystics from diverse traditions; of course, the philosophers from many schools of wisdom. I'm interested in the direct experience of spirit, not theology. One of the proudest moments of my life was when I heard Pat Robertson had declared me "irredeemable" after a discussion where I drove holes in his fallacies so wide you could sail an aircraft carrier though them.
You are free to believe or practice whatever you choose of course but please don't try to convert me to your system of belief. Even a hint and I'm out the door. Oh, I might go to a service if I find the practice interesting (I don't find any of the above listed interesting) but it would be out of respect for you, not from belief. I'm not gonna be believing in the infallibility of your myth, ever.
I don't think atheism excludes a sense of "spirituality".
By "spirituality", I mean having the sense or experience of awe, wonder, magnificence, majesty, inspiration and transcendence - whether through meditation, creative acts like art or music, human endeavors like architecture or the space program, the epiphany that comes with scientific understanding, or natural beauty.
This way of thinking about "atheistic spirituality" does not include "actual spirits" or "things metaphysical".
I think a "sense of spirituality" is something shared by all humans and was coopted by religion to serve dishonest and nefarious agendas.
I am a devout Iconoclastic Catalyst, a Humanist of the Secular Persuasion. I believe the way we treat people (including ourselves,) the planet (including other life forms) is how we can be judged; by ourselves and others. At the same time I support the individual search for truth and meaning as I respect the individual understanding of spirit. Pogo is my guru. A recap: Those who subscribe to a faith that precludes others' spiritual truths or any system which doesn't value diversity in philosophy probably won't be happy with me. Have common spirit instead of dogma please. Thank you for understanding.

A caveat: I have a reaction to many perfumes; I am sensitive to many of the neuro-toxins and chemicals used in many of the 'newer' scents and makeup. I (and many others) get spinning headaches when exposed to some. These scents can desensitize the olfactory ability of those wearing them which requires a heavier application just so the wearer can smell themselves. If your perfume precedes you by 3 feet or more I can't be next to you for long. I just can't be around the way most makeup smells or tastes; including lipstick (most eye makeup is ok to me but toxic to you) now with the research finding lead in lipstick maybe you should re-consider the use. I realize this puts me outside the box for many out there reading this but I also don't want to waste your time. You really don't need makeup, really; liberate yourself and stay healthy.
Now the substance
I believe friends are Nature's masterpiece. Spirit and ideas have more beauty than things. I can be immobilized by a work of art or a brilliant philosophical concept; a passionate and brilliantly performed movement within a symphony; a sonata, a pas de deux or a boogie woogie piano solo can transport me to an alternate dimension. I am in search of revelations of the mysteries, epiphanies as it were, in the concrete and ordinary world. Constructs of my explorations as filtered through my active internal synesthetically-inclined world(s).
I have tried to teach my children that mediocre or disdainful people gossip about people; average people talk about possessions and exceptional people talk about ideas. This is a guideline I try to follow. I strive to live by actions and not be defined by mine or other's words.
I am interested & opinionated but not a dogmatic or proselytizing man (well, maybe a little, but I will try to persuade from logic, facts & heart; never just blind faith.) I can be convinced that I am wrong and apologize.
I move to my own rhythms & dance the wild rumpus soulfully, solely and on rare occasions, solipsistically...
I have been told by many friends that I am the calmest person they know.
I try to behave like wherever I am is the small town where I will live for the rest of my life. This doesn’t mean I am reticent or withdrawn or not occasionally outrageous but respectful. As a high self monitor I will always be outspoken with my beliefs, joys, and concerns; for silence is the voice of complicity. I am a fearless advocate of stray dogs, bullied kids and the downtrodden-in-general. I've loved deeply in my past and am not afraid to do so again (but somewhat leery after 2 divorces.)
Vegetarian but don't proselytize.
I listen to every point of view and honor the source even when I vehemently disagree. There does, however, come a point when further discussion is not fruitful.
I am highly political and active about it. I hosted a progressive political talk radio show on public radio in Santa Fe until my views got to the operations manager of "Free Speech Radio".
I strive to be creative, understanding, compassionate, kind, self-reliant, nonjudgmental (well...I make a real attempt), respectful, adaptable, expressive, curious, sensual, passionate, & loyal. I don't criticize what I don't understand (I do make a serious attempt at understanding.) I will always be forever young & self-confident (vs. self-absorbed or cocky.)
Cheeeez, I sound like a Boy Scout with Bob Dylan, Ram Das, Pogo & Noam Chomski as Scout Leaders.
I like to make music and talk with friends old and new well into the wee hours. I am not an accomplished musician but have fun playing anyway.
Because I believe most play involves friendship as most friendship involves play of one sort or another. A playful attitude is what I'm talking about here; the sense of awe and wonder that a child brings to new friends and experiences. I am a magnet to children and dogs. Kids seem to know when the respect offered is true. They also instinctively know that pain shared is diminished and pleasure shared is magnified. Dogs always know your truths that cats don't care about (not to diss these great feline companions.) Kids and dogs both show their joy. I like that.
I'm invariably polite to the wait staff and tip well to boot. Someone who is nice to you and mean to the wait staff is not a kind person. Kind is an always attribute.
I will give you direct eye contact. I will write poetry or build a treehouse for you or bring flowers for no special reason except my appreciation of your essence. I will wash your hair with the most amazing scalp massage you have ever had, bar none and your feet with a life changing foot massage.
I'm always up for a road trip to nowhere or anywhere.
I spend most winters (2-4 months) on the west coast of Mexico just inside the Tropic of Cancer (think the same latitude as Havana, Hawai'i, Timbuktu, Gujarat, Mandalay, Guangzhou, and Teipei; not Cabo, well the same latitude but across the mouth of the Gulf of California.) where the average daytime temp is 24 - 28C. The birds there are spectacular (I am a serious birder.)
I nurture the hell out of people I care about. I have kind green eyes. I'll read to you in bed. I smile readily, laugh freely and dance when I am moved (with or without music that anyone else can hear.)
I appreciate the evolution in a person as the chrysalis bursts and the imago is realized. I will recognize that you are different than me and appreciate that difference with support and encouragement.
I would seduce you
with the sound of first fruit
dropped in an
otherwise empty pail,
with the blush
of berries on the
bottom of the box,
and the insistent flutter
of a hummingbird
wing in flight,
with the rainbow blink
of bubbles
so close they sting the eye
with colour
in one wet expiring sphere
of startled light.
In the interests of full disclosure; being with me isn't exactly like a day at the beach. I’ve been told I am a walking contradiction but I prefer to think of it as being multifaceted. I require prolonged silences as well as intense communication.
My dear friend and ex-wife writes this about me: When people ask me to describe Tom I just tell them to think of a hot ice cube, deafening mime, an ephemeral mountain. Slow lightning, liquid sound, tropical tundra and spherical needles. What really gets the idea across is when I suggest a tiny skyscraper, desiccated seas, annual sunsets, a domesticated earthquake, or silky stucco. He loves like a tender hurricane; a gentle, peaceful, passionate and calm warrior. Always ready to laugh at his own foibles. He can bring a little Tom Waits into your Joni Mitchell life.
I don't get this "Enemy" filter. I recognize some folks might have issues with each other but to assume they would be enemies is presumptuous at best. You have to be pretty mean to me to be my enemy, I promise. We might not get along but this doesn't make you my "enemy". If you do wish to become my enemy you won't prosper at it, I promise.
Wow, I just looked at my "personality " ratings. They are pretty spot on; I am more of almost everything I care about (except arrogant, I try not to be arrogant) than anyone I have seen, I mean really, more categories than I thought they had!

I am perceptive, aware, ingenious, resourceful, and adept.

I use my considerable powers for good.
Metaphors Be With You.

What I am looking for:

I can always use a(some)friend(s).
My curiosity of the human experience isn't limited to dates or bed partners. My hopes and desires are not pre-scripted but fluid and accepting. I believe relationships are based on chemistry and communication not checklists and expectations. However, I am aware of several things that do and don't work for me (I have been married twice.)
As far as an age range: I don't want to date someone half my age and there is no one twice my age. I am at an age where most women even 10 years older seem to have settled into certain patterns which preclude many activities I enjoy. At 10 years younger there are definite cultural interstices. Many women 20 years younger are mature and vibrant and have hit their stride in their personal exploration also with something to discuss. 30 years (half my age) younger are certainly lovely to observe but rarely a true cultural affinity ... except in the historical sense. Plus I don't want to date my daughter. 40 years younger they are children with whom I have no interest except as an intellectual/artistic mentor/friend.
I often use a Woodstock (Mid 1969) birth date as a cut off date for even considering more than a coffee conversation but this is not a hard and fast rule..

I Hunt For A Sign Of You

I hunt for a sign of you in all the others,
In the rapid undulant river of women,
Braids, shyly sinking eyes,
Light step that slices, sailing through the foam.

Suddenly I think I can make out your nails,
Oblong, quick, nieces of a cherry:
Then it's your hair that passes by, and I think
I see your image, a bonfire, burning in the water.

I searched, but no one else had your rhythms,
Your light, the shady day you brought from the forest;
Nobody had your ears.

You are whole, exact, and everything you are is one,
And so I go along, with you I float along, loving
A wide Mississippi toward a feminine sea.
~ Pablo Neruda

I seek a being imbued with grace and dignity. (Dignity does not mean being aloof. You can be dignified while in the middle of a snowball fight or dripping sweat on the trail. It’s an inner thing.) One who knows the truth of her beauty and will let me remind her. I am Loyal to friends and family & expect the same in return.
Maybe through this exploration I might find a friend to qualify as a lover, maybe not. Making love is more than 'sleeping together'. These activities can include cleaning the house and cooking together or smelling the conifers at 3,200 meters during a hike.)
I believe a serious relationship involves play. A reasonable libido is a beautiful aspect of life. This is a subject to be explored more in depth when the leisure of personal contact is established.
Traditional relationships don't seem to be the path for me. By this I mean I (She) don't (doesn't) need a physical presence all the time. I (she) have (has) other relationships and friendships. A woman with men friends is fine; I have woman friends. LGBT friendly and accepting is important also.
Is there someone with a multi-cultural awareness, appreciation, sensitivity & respect who is reading this? I spend a fair amount of time immersed in different cultures whose rules aren't instinctive to most euro/afri/asi-americans. There are at least 50 distinct living (First Nations) cultures in the 4 corners region, many more if you include Oklahoma and Northern Mexico. These have very ancient spirit roots deep in the land. The more you learn the more you realize you don't know. Someone who travels by my side has to honor the differences and respect the differently sophisticated lives of my friends.
Are you independent with a respect for others independence? Do you have a youthful attitude combined with a sense of joy in the wisdom gained from growing older while staying forever young? Do you understand the necessity of prolonged silence as well as intense dialogue?
I want to meet someone who will, when asked, give me honest criticism of my writing & art as well as my behavior...
A multi-faceted enigma whose games are gentle and sweet as ripe mangoes dripping on my tongue? A work in progress who is in the never ending process of realizing her enormous potential?
One who lives near or far, a journey is a major part of a process. Athleticism is a plus but not necessary, I hike and bike some but still sport a little paunch. I like to go to the wilderness, could be on horseback; hot springs are the gift of creation!
Are your fears or phobias manageable? (Preferably not with pharmaceuticals but that is negotiable.) If you have a pill, cocaine or heroin issue, well, you know you need help. Seek it. Not from me.
Sorry to be repetitive but I get messages from people who are in denial about how they describe themselves in their profile. I am not interested in a relationship or meeting with anyone whose faith precludes any other system of belief. This means: those who subscribe to exclusive faiths such as any fundamentalist or emphatic Christianity (this includes Catholicism & Orthodoxy) or Islam or Zionist Judaism (even secular) do not interest me. Also cultists who believe I can be converted to their POV (this includes followers of Ayn Rand, Joseph Smith/Brigham Young, Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh, and L.Ron Hubbard. All delusional and dangerous) please do not waste either of our time. Those whose beliefs don't exclude the possiblity they might be wrong about their system are welcome. Sorry to have to put too blunt a message but I am tired of people who, when told I don't have the same system, are shocked by my apostasy. You are free to believe or practice whatever you choose of course; please don't try to convert me to your way of thinking. I am a devout Iconoclastic Catalyst, a Humanist of the Secular Persuasion. At the same time I support the individual search for truth and meaning as I respect the individual understanding of spirit. Thank you for understanding.

All that being said if a creative, intelligent, perspicacious, lively, witty, curious, honest, persevering, articulate, passionate, opinionated, quirky, intense, loyal, radiant and self reliant (not necessarily in that order) woman with her own interests and a sense of humour (she'll need one, I tell puns) appears magickally through this endeavor the better for me (us).
Other than that...Will you dance the Wild Rumpus with me?
I never saw a wild thing
sorry for itself.
A small bird will
drop frozen dead
from a bough
without ever having felt
sorry for itself.
D.H. Lawrence
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Developing a new media business for implementation in the 2014 - 2013. I have been writing script revisions for some producers/directors but this is on hold while I am busy with previously mentioned. I develop large scale non-profit fundraising programs. Much more
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am a polymath and as such my proficiency encompasses a wide variety of skills.
Try my foot massage on for size; it can change your life.
... and my cooking ... my cooking.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Large solid man with ultra-short hair and a beard. Kind eyes, warm smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Music
My tastes are eclectic and of unlimited variety. This list is only the beginning. This is mostly American music of the 20th century, I don't have Specifics of the Beatles, Rolling Stones, Gram Parsons, Hundred Year Flood, Tha' Musement, Django, Public Enemy, American "Modern" Classical, and many more here. That is cause I live with these guys all the time. I will add some of those here in the future. I spent 5 hours listening to Tango and Rumba this morning. African Highlife is a favorite too. Opera, Classical, Jazz, Balaphon, Gamelon, Sitar, Shakuhacki, Koto & Samisen, Cajun, Aymara flute, Mariachi.
You want more? I got more:
ADAGIO FOR STRINGS, SAMUEL BARBER
AIN'T THAT A SHAME, words/music FATS DOMINO (1955); as performed by FATS DOMINO
ALEXANDER'S RAGTIME BAND, words/music IRVING BERLIN (1911); as performed by IRVING BERLIN
ALL OR NOTHING AT ALL, words/music JACK LAWRENCE/ARTHUR ALTMAN (1940), as performed by FRANK SINATRA and HARRY JAMES & HIS ORCHESTRA (1943)
APPALACHIAN SPRING, AARON COPLAND (1944)
AS TIME GOES BY, words/music HERMAN HUPFELD (1931)
BACK IN THE SADDLE AGAIN, words/music RAYWHITLEY/GENE AUTRY (1939); as performed by GENE AUTRY
BLOWIN' IN THE WIND, words/music BOB DYLAN (1962)
BLUE MOON OF KENTUCKY, BILL MONROE (1947)
BLUE SUEDE SHOES, CARL PERKINS (1956)
BODY & SOUL, instrumental version by COLEMAN HAWKINS (1939)
BORN TO RUN (LP), BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN (1975)
CHORUS LINE (musical), music MARVIN HAMLISCH/words EDWARD KLEBAN (1975)
COAL MINER'S DAUGHTER, LORETTA LYNN (1971)
CRAZY, words/music by WILLIE NELSON, performed by PATSY CLINE (1961)
DJANGO, music JOHN LEWIS; performed by MODERN JAZZ QUARTET (1955)
DREAM A LITTLE DREAM OF ME, GUS KAHN/WILBER SCHWANDT/FABIAN ANDRE performed by Kate Smith (1931); revived by Mama Cass Elliot (1963)
DRUMMING, STEVE REICH (1971)
FIDDLER ON THE ROOF (musical), SHELDON HARNICK/JERRY BOCK (1964)
FINE & MELLOW, words/music BILLIE HOLIDAY (1940)
FIRE AND RAIN, words/music JAMES TAYLOR; as performed by JAMES TAYLOR (1970)
FOGGY MOUNTAIN BREAKDOWN, music EARL SCRUGGS, performed by EARLE FLATT/ LESTER SCRUGGS and THE FOGGY MOUNTAIN BOYS (1949)
4:33, JOHN CAGE (1952)
GIVE MY REGARDS TO BROADWAY, GEORGE M. COHAN (1904)
GONE WITH THE WIND (film score), MAX STEINER (1939)
GOOD VIBRATIONS, THE BEACH BOYS (1966)
GRACELAND (LP), PAUL SIMON (1986)
SWORDFISH TROMBONES, RAIN DOGS, FRANKS WILD YEARS (1982, 1984, 1986), TOM WAITS
GRAND CANYON SUITE, FERDE GROFE (1931)
GREAT BALLS OF FIRE, JERRY LEE LEWIS (1957)
THE GREAT PRETENDER, THE PLATTERS (1955)
GUYS & DOLLS (musical), FRANK LOESSER (prem. 1950)
HELLHOUND ON MY TRAIL, ROBERT JOHNSON (1937)
HELLO DOLLY (tune), words/music JERRY HERMAN; as performed by LOUIS ARMSTRONG (1964)
HIS EYE IS ON THE SPARROW, words/music C.D. MARTIN/C.H. GABRIEL; as performed by MAHALIA JACKSON (1958)
HOOCHIE COOCHIE MAN, words/music WILLIE DIXON; as performed by MUDDY WATERS (1954)
HOUND DOG/DON'T BE CRUEL, words/music JERRY LEIBER/MIKE STOLLER; OTIS BLACKWELL/ELVIS PRESLEY; as performed by ELVIS PRESLEY (1956)
I GOT RHYTHM, GEORGE & IRA GERSHWIN (1930)
I WALK THE LINE, words/music JOHNNY CASH; as performed by JOHNNY CASH (1956)
I WANNA BE SEDATED, THE RAMONES (1977)
I'M SO LONESOME I COULD CRY, words/music HANK WILLIAMS; as performed by HANK WILLIAMS (1949)
IN THE MOOD, words ANDY RAZAF, music JOE GARLAND (1939), performed/recorded GLENN MILLER & HIS ORCHESTRA (1940)
(GOODNIGHT) IRENE, words/music HUDDIE LEDBETTER (LEAD BELLY) and JOHN LOMAX (1950), as performed by THE WEAVERS
KIND OF BLUE (LP), MILES DAVIS (1959)
KING PORTER STOMP, JELLY ROLL MORTON (1924)
KO KO, CHARLIE PARKER (rec. 1945)
LA BAMBA, words/music WILLIAM CLAUSON; as performed by RITCHIE VALENS (1958)
LET'S STAY TOGETHER, words/music AL GREEN/WILLIE MITCHELL/AL JACKSON; as performed by AL GREEN (1971)
LIGHT MY FIRE, THE DOORS (1967)
LIKE A ROLLING STONE, BOB DYLAN (1965)
A LOVE SUPREME (LP), JOHN COLTRANE (1964)
MACK THE KNIFE, words MARC BLITZSTEIN (after BERTOLT BRECHT)/music KURT WEILL; as performed by ELLA FITZGERALD (1960)
MAYBELLENE, words/music by CHUCK BERRY, RUSS FRATTO, and ALAN FREED; performed by CHUCK BERRY (1955)
MOOD INDIGO, DUKE ELLINGTON (1931)
MY FAIR LADY (musical), LERNER & LOWE (1956)
MY FUNNY VALENTINE, music RICHARD RODGERS/words LORENZ HART (1937)
MY GIRL, words/music by WILLIAM ROBINSON and RONALD WHITE; as performed by THE TEMPTATIONS (1965)
NIGHT & DAY, COLE PORTER (1932)
A NIGHT IN TUNISIA, DIZZY GILLESPIE (1946)
OKLAHOMA! (musical), RODGERS & HAMMERSTEIN (1943)
ONCE IN A LIFETIME, THE TALKING HEADS (1983)
ONE O'CLOCK JUMP, COUNT BASIE (1938)
OYE COMO VA, words/music TITO PUENTE (1963); recorded by SANTANA (1971) & Angelique Kidjo (2010)
PAPA'S GOT A BRAND NEW BAG, JAMES BROWN (1965)
PEGGY SUE, words/music JERRY ALLISON/BUDDY HOLLY/NORMAN PETTY; as recorded by BUDDY HOLLY (1957)
PORGY AND BESS, music GEORGE GERSHWIN/words IRA GERSHWIN/DUBOSE HEYWARD (1935)
PSYCHO (film score), BERNARD HERMANN (1960)
PURPLE HAZE, JIMI HENDRIX (1967)
RAPPER'S DELIGHT, SUGARHILL GANG (1979)
RESPECT, words/music OTIS REDDING (1965); as performed by ARETHA FRANKLIN (1967)
RHAPSODY IN BLUE, GEORGE GERSHWIN (1924); orchestrated FERDE GROFE (1926)
ROCK AROUND THE CLOCK, words/music MAX FREEDMAN and JIMMY DE KNIGHT (1953); first recorded by BILL HALEY (1955)
ROUND MIDNIGHT, music THELONIUS MONK (1946)
(GET YOUR KICKS ON) ROUTE 66, words/music BOB TROUP (1946); performed by NAT KING COLE
ST. LOUIS BLUES, words/music W.C. HANDY (1914); as performed by BESSIE SMITH SHAFT (single), ISAAC HAYES (1971)
SHOWBOAT (musical), HAMMERSTEIN/KERN (1927)
SING, SING, SING, words/music LOUIS PRIMA (1936), as performed by BENNY GOODMAN & HIS ORCHESTRA at Carnegie Hall 1938
SINGIN' IN THE RAIN (film musical), words/music ARTHUR FREED/NACIO HERB BROWN (1952)
SITTIN' ON THE DOCK OF THE BAY, words/music OTIS REDDING and STEVE CROPPER (1968); recorded by OTIS REDDING
SMELLS LIKE TEEN SPIRIT, NIRVANA (1991)
STAND BY YOUR MAN, words/music TAMMY WYNNETTE and BILLY SHERRILL (1968); as performed by TAMMY WYNNETTE
STARDUST, words MITCHELL PARISH/music HOAGY CARMICHAEL (1929)
SYMPHONY OF PSALMS, IGOR STRAVINSKY (1948)
TAKE FIVE, music PAUL DESMOND (1960); recorded by DAVE BRUBECK
TAKE MY HAND, PRECIOUS LORD, words/music THOMAS A. DORSEY (1932)
TAKE THE A TRAIN, BILLY STRAYHORN (1941), performed by DUKE ELLINGTON ORCHESTRA
TALKING BOOK (LP), STEVIE WONDER (1972)
TAPESTRY (LP), CAROLE KING (1971)
THIS LAND IS YOUR LAND, WOODY GUTHRIE (1956) TOM DOOLEY (traditional), arranged by DAVE GUARD (1958); as performed by THE KINGSTON TRIO
THE VELVET UNDERGROUND & NICO (LP), THE VELVET UNDERGROUND (1967)
WARNER BROS. CARTOONS, music CARL STALLINGS (1940s & 1950s)
WE SHALL OVERCOME, words/music ZILPHIA HORTON, FRANK HAMILTON, GUY CARAWAN, PETE SEEGER (1960); believed to have originated from C. ALBERT TINDLEY'S 1901 Baptist hymn I'LL OVERCOME SOME DAY
WEST END BLUES, words by CLARENCE WILLIAMS/music by JOE OLIVER (1928); as performed by LOUIS ARMSTRONG AND HIS HOT FIVE
WEST SIDE STORY (musical), LEONARD BERNSTEIN/STEPHEN SONDHEIM (1957)
WHAT'D I SAY, RAY CHARLES (1959)
WHAT'S GOING ON, words/music by AL CLEVELAND, MARVIN GAYE, and RENAULDO BENSON (1970); recorded by MARVIN GAYE
WHITE CHRISTMAS, IRVING BERLIN (1942); as performed by BING CROSBY
WILDWOOD FLOWER, CARTER FAMILY (1927)
WIZARD OF OZ (film musical), words E.Y. HARBURG/music HAROLD ARLEN (1939)

TV Shows:
Shudder... I can't commit myself to watching a show. I will watch some movies and science stuff when I find out about it. Obviously there were some well written/directed/acted shows but scheduling my time around most of their inanity just never took hold. I am a (not so) secret baseball fan and will watch some occasionally. I will watch TV shows on DVD when a season is complete.

Films
A quick list of just a few of my favorites, As above, You want more? Oh Yeah, I got'em. Again the vast majority are 20th Century. I have a few from the 21st Century also:
Rashoman, Ran, Dreams, Seven Saumurai, Hidden Fortress, Derzsu Uzala (Kurasawa)
Macbeth, Chinatown, Repulsion (Polanski)
Belizaire the Cajun (Pitre)
Branded to Kill (Seijun Suzuki)
Film [Aka Samuel Beckett's Film] (Alan Schneider)
Pull My Daisy (Robert Frank & Alfred Leslie)
The Flavor of Green Tea Over Rice (Yasujiro Ozu)
Sherlock, Jr., The General (Buster Keaton)
Bob le flambeur, Le Samourai (Jean-Pierre Melville)
Performance (Nicolas Roeg & Donald Cammell)
Walkabout (Nicholas Roeg)
Don't Look Back (D.A. Pennebaker)
Point Blank (John Boorman)
Waking Life (Linklater)
Accattone (Pier Paolo Pasolini)
The Story of the Last Chrysanthemums (Kenji Mizoguchi)
Spirited Away, Pricess Mononoke Hayao (Miyazaki)
They Caught the Ferry (Carl Th. Dreyer)
Crimewave (Sam Raimi)
The Evil Dead (Sam Raimi)
Videodrome (David Croneberg)
Village of the Damned (Wolf Rilla)
Il sorpasso (Dino Risi)
The Big Heat (Fritz Lang)
They Live by Night (Nicholas Ray)
Pickpocket (Robert Bresson)
Faster Pussycat! Kill! Kill! (Russ Meyer)
Out of the Past (Jacques Tourneur)
Un Chant d'amour (Jean Genet)
Ghost Dog, Down By Law, Mystery Train, Night On Earth, Stranger Than Paradise, Year of the Horse, Dead Man (Jim Jarmusch)
Raging Bull (Martin Scorsese)
Apocolypse Now(Coppola)
Love Streams (John Cassavetes)
On Top of the Whale (Raúl Ruiz)
Dead Ringers (David Cronenberg)
The Road Warrior (George Miller)
Toute une nuit (Chantal Akerman)
Do the Right Thing (Spike Lee)
The Hit (Stephen Frears)
The State of Things (Wim Wenders)
Nosferatu (Murnau)
Nosferatu, Aguirre the Wrath of God, Fitzcarraldo, Secret of Martin Guerre, Invincible (Werner Herzog)
Days of Heaven (Terrence Malick)
Picnic At Hanging Rock, Year of Living Dangerously (Peter Weir)
Red River (Howard Hawks)
Seventh Seal, Jules & Jim, Wild Strawberries (Ingmar Bergman)
Grand Illusion (Jean Renoir) Casablanca, Citizen Kane, Bridge over the River Kwai, Lawrence of Arabia and Many Many More

BOOKS
I have been asked by many of my close friends for a reading list. This is a difficult chore for me; I grew up in a bookstore and have been a serious reader since I was 4. This is a short list of important books I have read and recommend. I don't agree with every author's philosophies but every one of these books has contributed to my development.
There are so many more and this list does not always reflect my current reading tastes. I might expand on this some time. I also read plays and screenplays.
Nonetheless, for what it's worth:

Chinua Achebe Things Fall Apart
Douglas Adams The Hitchhiker's Guide
James Agee A Death in the Family
Maya Angelou I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings
Anonymous The Anglo-Saxon Chronicle
Anonymous Beowulf
Isaac Asimov Foundation
St Augustine Confessions
Jane Austen Pride and Prejudice
James Baldwin Go Tell It on the Mountain
William Blake Songs of Innocence and Experience
Robert Bolt A Man for All Seasons
Boswell The Life of Dr Johnson
Emily Brontë Wuthering Heights
Charlotte Brontë Jane Eyre
Pearl Buck The Good Earth
Albert Camus The Stranger
Willa Cather My Ántonia
Miguel deCervantes Don Quixote
Raymond Chandler The Big Sleep
Geoffrey Chaucer The Canterbury Tales
Anton Chekhov The Cherry Orchard
Agatha Christie Murder on the Orient Express
Arthur C. Clarke 2001: A Space Odyssey
Wilkie Collins The Moonstone
Wilkie Collins The Woman in White
Joseph Conrad Lord Jim
Robert Cormier The Chocolate War
Bernard Cornwell Arthur Trilogy (Winter King, Enemy of God, Excalibur)
Stephen Crane The Red Badge of Courage
Dante Allegheri Divine Comedy
Charles Darwin On the Origin of Species
Jean de Brunhoff Babar
Choderlos de Laclos Les Liaisons Dangereuses
Alexis de Tocqueville Democracy in America
Daniel Defoe Moll Flanders
Philip K. Dick Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep?
Charles Dickens Great Expectations
Charles Dickens David Copperfield
Emily Dickinson Poems
Fyodor Dostoevsky Crime and Punishment
Sir Arthur Conan Doyle The Complete Sherlock Holmes
Theodore Dreiser An American Tragedy
Daphne du Maurier Rebecca
George Eliot Silas Marner
TS Eliot Murder in the Cathedral
George Eliot Middlemarch
T.S. Eliot The Waste Land
Ralph Ellison Invisible Man
Ralph Waldo Emerson Essays
Diderot, et al L'Encyclopédie
William Faulkner The Sound and the Fury
Henry Fielding Tom Jones
Orlando Figes A People's Tragedy
F. Scott Fitzgerald The Great Gatsby
Gustave Flaubert Madame Bovary
EM Forster A Passage to India
Benjamin Franklin The Autobiography
Sir James Frazier The Golden Bough
James McDonald Frazer The Flashman Series
Sigmund Freud On the Interpretation of Dreams
John Galsworthy The Forsyte Saga
Edward Gibbon The Decline and Fall of the Roman Empire
Winston Churchill A History of the English-Speaking Peoples
William Gibson Neuromancer
Malcolm Gladwell The Tipping Point
William Golding Lord of the Flies
Kenneth Grahame The Wind in the Willows
Robert Graves I, Claudius
Robert Graves Goodbye to All That
Robert Graves The White Goddess
Graham Greene The Power and the Glory
Dashiell Hammett The Maltese Falcon
Thomas Hardy Tess of the D'Urbervilles
Thomas Harris Red Dragon
Nathaniel Hawthorne The Scarlet Letter
Ernest Hemingway For Whom the Bell Tolls
O Henry Stories ("The Gift of the Magi The Ransom of Red Chief etc.).
Herodotus The Histories
Hermann Hesse Steppenwolf
Patricia Highsmith The Talented Mr Ripley
Thomas Hobbes Leviathan
Homer The Iliad and The Odyssey
Langston Hughes Poems
Ted Hughes Collected Poems
Victor Hugo Les Miserables
Zora Neale Hurston Their Eyes Were Watching God
Aldous Huxley Brave New World
Henrik Ibsen A Doll's House
Henry James The Turn of the Screw
Henry James The Portrait of a Lady
James Joyce A Portrait of the Artist as a Young Man
James Joyce Ulysses
Franz Kafka The Trial
John Keats Poems
John Keats Odes
John F Kennedy Profiles in Courage
Arthur Koestler Darkness at Noon
DH Lawrence Sons and Lovers
Jerome Lawrence Inherit the Wind
T.E. Lawrence Seven Pillars of Wisdom
John leCarré Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy
Harper Lee To Kill a Mockingbird
Elmore Leonard Killshot
Primo Levi If This is a Man
Sinclair Lewis Babbitt
C.S. Lewis The Lion the Witch and the Wardrobe
Richard Llewellyn How Green Was My Valley
Niccolo Machiavelli The Prince
Thomas Malory Le Morte D'Arthur
Thomas Mann The Magic Mountain
Christopher Marlowe Dr Faustus
Gabriel García Márquez One Hundred Years of Solitude
Karl Marx Das Kapital
W. SomersetMaugham Of Human Bondage
Peter Mayle A Year in Provence
Carson McCullers The Heart Is a Lonely Hunter
Herman Melville Moby-Dick
Arthur Miller The Crucible
A.A. Milne Winnie-the-Pooh
John Milton Paradise Lost
Margaret Mitchell Gone with the Wind
Nicholas Monsarrat The Cruel Sea
Toni Morrison Beloved
Pablo Neruda Collected Poems
E. Nesbit The Railway Children
Flannery O’Connor Wise Blood
Patrick O'Brian Master and Commander
Eugene O'Neill Long Day's Journey into Night
George Orwell 1984
Tom Paine The Rights of Man
Boris Pasternak Doctor Zhivago
Dave Pelzer A Child Called 'It'
Robert M. Pirsig Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
Jean Plaidy The Plantagenet Saga
Edgar Allan Poe Short stories
Edgar Allan Poe The Murders in the Rue Morgue
Marco Polo Travels
Chaim Potok The Chosen
Proust A la recherche du temps perdu
Philip Pullman His Dark Materials
Ayn Rand The Fountainhead
Arthur Ransome Swallows and Amazons
Erich Maria Remarque All Quiet on the Western Front
Mary Renault Alexander Trilogy (the Arthur Trilogy also)
Edmond Rostand Cyrano de Bergerac
Philip Roth The Human Stain
Jean-Jacques Rousseau The Social Contract
J.K. Rowling Harry Potter
Steven Runciman A History of the Crusades
JD Salinger The Catcher in the Rye
Carl Sandburg Abraham Lincoln
Dorothy L Sayers The Nine Tailors
Simon Schama Citizens: A Chronicle of the French Revolution
Maurice Sendak Where the Wild Things Are
William Shakespeare Hamlet Sonnets King Lear
George Bernard Shaw Pygmalion
Mary Shelley Frankenstein
Richard Brinsley Sheridan The School for Scandal
Nevil Shute A Town Like Alice
Upton Sinclair The Jungle
Delia Smith How to Cook
Alexander Solzhenitsyn One Day in the Life of Ivan Denisovich
Sophocles Oedipus Rex
Muriel Spark The Ballad of Peckham Rye
John Steinbeck Of Mice and Men
Robert Louis Stevenson Treasure Island
Harriet Beecher Stowe Uncle Tom's Cabin
Lytton Strachey Eminent Victorians
Suetonius Lives of the Caesars
Jonathan Swift Gulliver's Travels
A.J.P. Taylor The Origins of the Second World War
William Makepeace Thackeray Vanity Fair
Henry David Thoreau Walden
Thucydides The History of the Peloponnesian War
J.R.R. Tolkien The Lord of the Rings
Leo Tolstoy Anna Karenina
Leo Tolstoy War and Peace
Anthony Trollope The Barchester Chronicles
Lynne Truss Eats, Shoots and Leaves
Barbara Tuchman A Distant Mirror, March of Folly
Ivan Turgenev Fathers and Sons
Mark Twain Adventures of Huckleberry Finn
John Updike Rabbit series
Armando Valladares Against All Hope
Vasari Lives of the Artists
Jules Verne Twenty Thousand Leagues Under the Sea
Virgil The Aeneid
Voltaire Candide
Carl von Clausewitz On War
Robert Penn Warren All the King's Men
Evelyn Waugh A Handful of Dust
Evelyn Waugh Sword of Honour trilogy
H.G. Wells The Time Machine
Eudora Welty Collected Short Stories
Edith Wharton The Age of Innocence
TH White The Once and Future King
Elie Wiesel Night
Oscar Wilde The Picture of Dorian Gray
Thornton Wilder Our Town
Tennessee Williams A Streetcar Named Desire
ThomasWolfe Look Homeward Angel
Virginia Woolf To the Lighthouse
William Wordsworth The Prelude
Herman Wouk The Caine Mutiny
Richard Wright Native Son
John Wyndham The Day of the Triffids
W.B. Yeats Collected Poems
Howard Zinn People's History of the United States
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Reading/writing materials
Reading glasses
Broad brimmed hat
Fresh local plant based food (garlic)
Warmth
Water
Lists
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Reading, writing, theatre, music, expanding the crack in the cosmic egg, finding dragons, or out having a beer or glass of wine with friends.
I don't do typical.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I mistype "teh" for "the" and keep my finger on the shift key too long so "the" can be "THe" way too often. My feet don't smell bad even if my body gets whiff after a day's labour.
I know deep secrets.
Please say something other than: "Then it wouldn't be private" or "I'll reveal it later." The operative word in the question is "willing". I'm sure there is something not too embarrassing but revealing about your psyche or person upon which you can expound.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Any of this resonates, I don't intimidate you, and you think it's so crazy it might work. Probably it is best if OKC thinks we are 80% or better match; if you think this is incorrect please let me know why. The age thing is just a guideline also. If you think we have potential as friends or lovers I'm willing to listen to your ideas no matter what the age. Please do go over some of the questions in the "about us" section. You can learn a lot more about my thoughts there. Again, I am not desperate and am perfectly content within my insularity if need be, I have great friends. Rather a solo flight than crashing and burning with the wrong person (again.) If you desire a friendship with someone who complements your life, instead of completing it (read: you're not needy & smothering).
I won't kick you in the butt like the guy who pissed you off so don't treat me that way and I won't treat you like one of my exes.
If you do write please spend a few minutes and perhaps reference something I have written. I don't have time for a 70% match who writes and intuits we would be good together for no discernible reason or someone who just writes "hello" and wants me to begin the conversation so they can react. A photo (within a few years) is required if you want a reply.
Please don't write if you think sarcasm is a valid form of communication; irony is fine (in fact irony can be magickal; please note the definition of irony is not anything unexpected) but sarcasm is deliberately cruel.

sar·casm (särkzm)
n.
1. A cutting, often ironic remark intended to wound.
2. A form of wit that is marked by the use of sarcastic language and is intended to make its victim the butt of contempt or ridicule.

irony (ˈī-rə-nē )
n.
1
: a pretense of ignorance and of willingness to learn from another assumed in order to make the other's false conceptions conspicuous by adroit questioning —called also Socratic irony
2
a : the use of words to express something other than and especially the opposite of the literal meaning
b : a usually humorous or sardonic literary style or form characterized by irony
c : an ironic expression or utterance
3
a (1) : incongruity between the actual result of a sequence of events and the normal or expected result (2) : an event or result marked by such incongruity
b : incongruity between a situation developed in a drama and the accompanying words or actions that is understood by the audience but not by the characters in the play —called also dramatic irony, tragic irony

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