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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
May 31
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Thai (Okay), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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There were mainly two rules to my childhood: 1. Change into your play clothes 2. Don’t go farther than Mom can yell. It was a big backyard with plenty of mud and fun.

As Calvin would say, “If your knees aren’t green by the end of the day, you seriously ought to re-examine your life.”

High school was for athletics, clubs and friends. The success I enjoyed there still contributes to who I am now.

But in college, I was determined to find myself. I wore ragged Goodwill clothes when it was cool to wear A&F. There was poetry, philosophy and politics. There was the depression one feels when mourning the loss of youth.

In a desperate plea to do something outside of a hopeless cubicle, I hopped on a plane and taught English in Bangkok for three years. Southeast Asia became my backyard; there were still dirty knees but there was also weird food, ancient history and a perspective you can’t get being bound by our united states.

I returned for a MA in Psychoanalysis and turned my idealism to save the world into a concerted effort to make a small difference one person at a time. I consider myself very fortunate to do work that I find meaningful and engaging.

Now, I’m on OkCupid. *pause* Cambridge is my backyard now - and my play clothes are for rock climbing, reading, hiking, yoga and meditation.

But when I meet someone like you, I promise I’ll dress up. :)
What I’m doing with my life
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I direct a program at a non-profit dealing with children's mental health. I've heard the call (and sometimes the occasional voice).

Also, I live in a Zen Buddhist community. It's a different lifestyle and I'm grateful for that.

Ultimately my life, professional and personal, is oriented around human development. I lead a contemplative lifestyle. I'd like to share that with someone.

(Read: I'm super uptight. Help!)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Observing. Questioning. Reflecting. Growing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once asked a girlfriend what was different about me on the first date compared to the other guys she had dated and she said, without hesitation, that she could tell I was "genuine."

Then she said, "but I'm with David now. Goodbye."

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lately I've been reading magazines: this month's Esquire is dedicated to a discussion of gender in culture - it's refreshing to have the topic appear in this context.

I just enjoyed an article in the Economist about the future of higher education in the US - namely it's excellence vs equity challenge.

Movies: Somewhere, The Visitor, Big Lebowski, Man on Wire, Vicky Christina Barcelona, Her, Stranger than Fiction, Jiro Dreams of Sushi and documentaries in general.

Music: Bonnie Tyler - "Holding Out for a Hero" - infinite loop.

Food: I got a grill for Christmas.

Places: My old apartment in Bangkok, the frog pond behind my childhood home, Central Sq. (I said it), Angkor Wat
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
As long as it seems like an adventure, I could suffice with little.

Apparently my love life is an adventure.

What brings you here? :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What influence, if any, what I do, say or think has on my mind or the minds of others.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
My week is pretty demanding - I found that yoga is a good way to unwind. Prana Power!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think masculinity means getting up out of bed in the middle of the night when there's a crash in your girlfriend's kitchen.

I'm ready this time.
You should message me if
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You'd like to swap intellectual conversation and intrepid adventure for playful affection and goofy-filled shenanigans.