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I'm in school off & on working toward having enough education to get a job I really like regardless of how little it will probably pay.

I laugh at myself easily. I'll probably laugh at your little oddities easily too so, please, try not to be offended. Let's get together for some good-natured ribbing and necking.

I get around by walking, riding my bike, & taking the bus pretty much everywhere, and I think it's awesome. I realize that making the necessary repairs to my car would make those cold, late nights when I need to get to work a lot easier, but a comprehensive public transit system would be even better all around.

I was a really 'good girl' growing up, so I break out of that shell a lot for fun. But, yeah, really I'm still a "good girl." suck.

I like intellectual people who work with their hands.

My sister's in town, along with my nieces, and I enjoy having them nearby, but otherwise I'm not very close to my family. I wish I saw my nephew in Manhattan more. For the past few years I've been trying to build a make-my-own family of close friends, and there are a few I love dearly. I push myself to be social & involved in a few large circles of friends/acquaintances to keep me interested & out there meeting people, some of whom I'm able to have meaningful conversations with.

Oh yeah - I go on tangents.

I recently started working for an in-home care provider helping out elderly & sick people and kids with developmental challenges. It's nice to have a job where I feel good about the work, but it pays shit, so I'm looking for something more to supplement it.

This fall, I moved into this great little studio in an old house with a cellar and giant yard on the side. I built a firepit and started doing some serious vegetable gardening; I'm hoping to get more serious about gardening/farming when the weather warms up again, and hopefully do some canning for next winter when it rolls around!

I crochet, sew, knit, and can make all kinds of other handicrafts, so recently I decided to jumpstart a "Stitch'n Bitch" group here in Lawrence (completely age/gender/etc inclusive!). We're gonna have our first meeting Sunday January 4th (3pm) at the Eastside People's Market (12th & Connecticut), so anyone interested in learning, sharing, or just crafting with others is welcome to come. If that sounds like fun but the time/date doesn't work for you, drop me a message and I'll make sure we find a time to accommodate everyone.

I absolutely love the outdoors; I think some people see cities & economics & all that as the real world and the great outdoors as something fun to experience as a weekend getaway. I am exactly the opposite. But no worries! I still like weekend getaways (to the city! or roadtrips!).

Don't assume that because I'm chubby I'm not active. How many miles did you walk/bike today?

I'm generally artistic (paint, draw, etc.) and creative (write, cook, etc.) and I like similar people. You don't have to tell me you like my creations if you don't - honest feedback spawns growth & development. I like to sing, sometimes seriously in my good singing voice, sometimes seriously goofball like I'm a children's show host.

mmmm.... the power of nonverbal communication.

I feel passionately, but I also think my first priority is to think rationally. I wish everyone felt that way. The practice of scientific investigation is the single best skill anyone can learn, regardless of whether or not you feel the need to make scientific proof the foundation for everything you believe. I think a little balance is good there.

I'm a serious feminist. That doesn't mean I want to burn my bras or that I hate all men, but I do expect you to realize that my genitals don't really say anything about me as a person. I'll know within a few minutes whether or not we have any chance of being friends or more or if I should just give you a list of suggested readings and call it a day. "I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat, or a prostitute." - Rebecca West. I hate being seen as a stereotype of the angry dyke, ‘cause I’m not, but people might occasionally mistake me for that because, yes, I do like women (among many genders), sometimes I am yelling in an angry mob of picketers, and no - I don't generally shave my legs or other areas women are apparently "supposed to." (I am neither a child nor a reptile - mammals have hair, especially noticeable in the adult stage.) Anyway, I'm usually smiling if there's reason to. My feminism takes on more of a humanist approach, and goes far beyond just fighting for women. “If you have come here to help me, you are wasting your time. But if you have come because your liberation is bound up with mine, then let us work together.” – Lilla Watson. If you're a basically decent human being who either agrees with me or can at least respect my perspective, we should get along. Otherwise? Really, please don't bother.

I am incredibly feminine in an intimate setting and, if you show you can respect me as a human being outside of the bedroom, you just might be able to enjoy my fabulous gifts inside that arena. I like lazy mornings in bed, cuddling & making out, talking about things like what it would be like to be a fish, or how exactly to go about building a working wind turbine from junkyard finds. As with anything else, it is possible to get satiated on this activity, at which point I often like to read or get out of the house. I like playing cards & board games and anything interactive. A friend started up a Star Wars role-playing game (all girls!) but then had to move to the other end of the country, so I'd definitely be up for something like that again. Yay collective story-telling! I’m actively turned off by excessive video-game playing: seriously, get out of the house!

As far as friends go, I can handle just about any personal philosophy that is egalitarian, values liberty, and allows for change. I expect a bit more from intimate friends & partners. The ability to agree to disagree on some things is powerful, and I can have complex conversations more easily than most. “Nothing in life is to be feared. It is only to be understood.” – Marie Curie

Lastly, perspectives on spirituality can make a difference with intimate partners or close friends, so here's a little recipe for Spirituality a la Fenchurch: in a large pan heavily seasoned with christian (make sure to wipe out any residue), simmer a double serving of agnostic. In a separate bowl combine a fair amount of buddhist and pagan until it begins to resemble native american core beliefs - slowly add to base until the agnostic is infused with acceptance, self-awareness, and love for earth & the universe and any close-minded atheist or bigoted christian/monotheist flavors are negligible. Sprinkle in random bits of many humanist philosophies to taste. Serve on a bed of introspection & self-evaluation with scientific proof & reasoning liberally drizzled on top.~ I am philosophically against American Protestant ethics, especially when they create a tendency toward workaholism, stoicism, prudery, and bigotry. I'm okay with other people's gods (so long as they're benevolent or at least fun) or complete lack thereof (provided they're accepting). Building bridges of communication is much more important than walls of division. Don't try to convert me, though.

Not long ago, I took about a year of intentional celibacy to get a better handle on some personal things. It definitely helped. Getting my feet wet in the dating & intimacy pool again, I've noticed how dependent people are, how little they understand consent & the beauty of both patience & self-restraint, and how much jealousy & possession is out there. If these don’t tend to apply to you (or you’re actively working them out): HELLO. To everyone – please – take your time, enjoy the scenery, and try to be friends first & foremost.

I'm looking for mature, intimate relationships, regardless of whether that's for one night, 3 months, 6 years, friendship, love, or sex. Mature people understand that it's okay to be a big kid: swingsets, trampolines, and making funny faces are not just the domain of 8 year-olds. Please do not message me if little things 'freak you out' all the time or you frequently use the phrase "I am afraid of/scared by..." to describe aversions to food, animals, or other things that disrupt your comfort bubble. I value breathing easily.

About who I'm looking for: open-minded, progressive, engaged people with rational minds who move actively somewhat regularly. I tend to like kind and earthy, but like Anne of Green Gables said "I wouldn't want [to be with] somebody really wicked, but I think I'd like it if [they] could be wicked, and wouldn't.” If you're quiet & instrospective (& share enough of my views that I think you're a generally decent human being), I will like you. Hell, if you're just *introspective.* I consider myself pansexual/omnisexual/pomosexual, so I don't care what sex you are. (Please, please, don't ask me if I'm here primarily to meet men or women; there *are* stupid questions.) Looks are important only in as much as I happen to find you attractive & you do a reasonably good job taking care of yourself. I'm primarily looking for friends who could be more and are okay with staying just friends if that's how it works out. I'm somewhere between polyamorous and a "serial monogamist" - how a relationship works out is always open for discussion. Drama queens and regular emotional extremists need not apply. I like to be balanced & see the world either in shades of grey or color; if you are the 'black & white' type, you WILL annoy me.

I’m a hugger – are you?
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figuring it out. living it. napping.

farting 'A' papers out my ass. eclectic interior design. thinking. grammar, punctuation, and spelling. just being my own eccentric self at the oddest times. dissecting arguments. seeing through fear. enduring things long past the point I should quit. re-evaluating. militant biking & growing things. making people laugh without meaning to. fitting a lot of layers under a coat. using more words when you'd rather have less, and fewer words when you were expecting more.

Fuck, I don't know. Definitely depends on the person.

the great outdoors, sleep, nutritious food & clean water, fires, hugs, & intimate conversation. I'd prefer internet access too.

People and the future. How I can go about becoming the next Thomas Paine or Leonardo Da Vinci minus, y'know, the penis. Or maybe with the penis! haha.. Free-floating in space. Animals and if any more of them on this planet will ever become fully sentient. That 'religious' does not necessarily equal 'bigot,' but the disturbing number of times both labels equally apply to people. Whether or not I will be a good parent, or if I will end up being a parent at all. Red paisley. What I'd think of me if I met me, and if I would immediately recognize myself. Cosmic entropy, and if this whole human condition is worth it. Language. Rolling around in bed & kissing someone I have great affection for. Breasts. Hips. Lips. Hardwood floors. Why people can't just be more rational and less traditional. That friend who lives overseas, or across town, or on the coast. Combinations of the colors green & blue. Sometimes just green by itself. The phospholipid bilayer makeup of membranes. If guys I like will ever get past the fact that, yes, I look & come off like a dyke & this is because, yes, I sort of am one and, no, that is not supposed to in any way emasculate you. Gorgeous red hair and deep turquoise eyes. Men riding bikes without shirts. Population economics and natural selection. Hauntingly beautiful songs and images. Dark brown velvet. Curves, lines, and graphing paper. Colored sharpies. What the deal is with cops and other people with obvious control issues who are given dangerous levels of power. Focusing on my breath. If at any given moment, I am being the best, most true-to-myself version of me I can be. Just being happy with life. Half-thinking in Spanish. If there is any way to effectively find other sapiosexuals. What the birds are saying.

relaxing. That could mean anything, and is probably dependent on:
(1) finances
(2) weather
(3) social appetite

My interests are diverse. Suggest something.

I think your mom is hot.

*If you fit the description of who I'm looking for. *If you think I'd be fun to talk to AND you are fun to talk to & able to hold your own in a conversation. (Don't message me because you're bored. I am not here solely for your entertainment.) *If you feel like it, and you trust that feeling. *If you like getting out for concerts/shows, movies, exhibits, bike rides, or anything in that vein and would like to do that with me. *If you have a random survey question you'd like my answer for. *If you actually read this entire page beginning to end before looking at my pictures page. [in which case, you deserve some sort of medal.] (*If you actually started singing 'picture pages, pictures pages, it's time to get your picture pages...' either in your head or under your breath after that last sentence) *If you're feeling happy, laid-back, open, & a little like cuddling up to someone and would enjoy being around someone else who's feeling the same. *If you've noticed me noticing your profile a few times and are ready to break the ice. *If you practice good oral hygiene, like making out, find me attractive, live nearby, and we have a match percentage of 80% or higher. *If you sort of know me and thought we've ever had 'a moment.' *If you are an open, accepting person. *If you can sit quietly with someone and enjoy it.

Oh, and if you're a friend or a friend of a friend, always go ahead and message me.