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Fenchurch42

34 F Lawrence, KS

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 21–99
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:22pm
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
Height
5′ 4″ (1.63m)
Body Type
Jacked
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
When drinking
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Medicine
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Sign Language (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly), Arabic (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I think I've been in Lawrence just long enough to have formed an opinion on every social injustice there is. I think "intersectional as fuck" would aptly describe me. Also, perhaps existentially angsty. I'm trying to grab some joy by the horns and ride it into the sunset, and I don't object to partners in this glorious blazeout to the end. Heck! Humanity might even pull through yet.

I really dig people who want to put their minds and bodies (esp: hands) to good use, hopefully all simultaneously too. Nobody's perfect (or maybe we *all* are?) and I can be as lazy as the next person, but the desire is important. It's a big turn-on.

I'm in the middle of some transition, I guess; living off my bike, working a farm, crashing with friends when I come into town. I'm trying to figure something out - something that will bridge gaps and synthesize the many elements of life, find some praxis - and I hope I get to do that before I have to go back to the grind and get all distracted. [Update: effective August 2013, I'm back in town & back at the grind. I'm a little distracted and doing my damndest to stay focused without getting all tense about it.]

Here are a few tidbits for your perousal:
I can haz math.
I do *not* have a 0.7 WHR.
I probably walk and bike more than a lot of people you know.
I'm teaching myself the mandolin.
I'm usually smiling if there's a reason to, and my laughter is contagious.
The junk in my trunk loves to funk, and I shake it like a salt shaker.
Nonverbal communication is my favorite form of communication, but I agree it can leave room for confusion.
I adore bonfires and the great outdoors; yes, even with heat & bugs & snow & ice.
I understand that with edible weeds everywhere, most people participate in food not lawns without even realizing it. bwahaha
I am a hardcore, 3rd wave(-type) feminist, and I don't shave what I think makes more sense not to. smooth isn't the only soft.
I like to play rough. and soft. really, i just like to play. and nap. Um... I just realized that makes me kind of like a dog. which is weird, because I'm so much more of a cat person.
As far as friends go, I can handle just about any personal philosophy that is egalitarian, values liberty, and allows for change.
I think the concept of purity is bull-shit, unless we're talking about water.

y ahora, algo completamente diferente:
Hola! Necessito practicar mi Español. Quieres ayudame? Trece años de la lenguaje, mas o menos, pero nadie con practicar. Vees? y me gusta bailar! les gusta? Si, soy una gringa, pero puedo baile, verdad!

Tambien, me gusta los artes, musica, libros, y muchas cosas afueras. Amo mi bicicleta. Quiero viajar mas.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
figuring it out. living it. working. napping when possible. looking for someone to share a long conversation, walk, hug, or kiss with. engaging myself in a community meeting most other people wouldn't subject themselves to. fixing my own bike. camping.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
farting 'A' papers out my ass. eclectic interior design. thinking. grammar, punctuation, and spelling. just being my own eccentric self at the oddest times. figuring it out. dissecting arguments. seeing through fear. enduring things long past the point I should quit. jamming sticks & pipes into the gears of life. re-evaluating. militant biking & growing things. making people laugh without meaning to. fitting a lot of layers under a coat. using more words when you'd rather have less, and fewer words when you were expecting more. amateur etymology.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Either that I'm full of life, or a little quiet; depends on the day. Sometimes strangers notice I was singing or dancing and then stopped awkwardly when I noticed them noticing. Or, if you're a jerk, you might've noticed I was the chubby girl at the party; in which case, don't talk to me. Also, you might've noticed the dirt under my nails. Or that I'm actively attracted to and supportive of polyamorous pansexual normativity. Or maybe it was just my bright pretty eyes, lovely messy blonde hair, and big warm smile.

("We'll see what you're made of by what you make of me." -Ani DiFranco)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
hm. too many favorites, so here's some random stuff:

I'm reading a book about lesbian class histories right now. It's amazing. I've read a lot of books on sex, gender, history, and travel ethnography. William Least Heat Moon rings my bell. I really liked "Beloved."

Films/Movies: I'll watch pretty much anything without a lot of pointless violence, and I'll even watch that sometimes. TV is bad for you, though, and I like to be around people who don't use it much. Still, I like old movies and actors cause I grew up on them. And stupid tv can be fun, especially with a beer.

what kind of music do i like? Good music. all genres (yes, even rap, country, and opera). and sometimes the bad stuff is pretty good too. I wish I could say the best music is what you make yourself, but I'm not quite there yet. The junk in my trunk loves to funk, and I shake it like a salt shaker.

Thai Siam's curry or tofu pad thai, Raw Whole Milk.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the great outdoors, sleep, nutritious food & clean water, fires, hugs, & intimate conversation. I'd prefer internet access too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People and the future. How I can go about becoming the next Thomas Paine or Leonardo Da Vinci minus, y'know, the penis. Or maybe with the penis! :P Free-floating in space. Animals and if any more of them on this planet will ever become fully sentient. That 'religious' does not necessarily equal 'bigot,' but the disturbing number of times both labels equally apply to people. Whether or not I will be a good parent, or if I will end up being a parent at all. Red paisley. What I'd think of me if I met me, and if I would immediately recognize myself. Cosmic entropy, and if this whole human condition is worth it. Language. Rolling around in bed & kissing someone I have great affection for. Breasts. Hips. Lips. Hardwood floors. Why people can't just be more rational and less traditional, or even just more creative. That friend who lives overseas, or across town, or on the coast. Combinations of the colors green & blue. Sometimes just green by itself. The phospholipid bilayer makeup of membranes. If guys I like will ever get past the fact that, yes, I look & come off like a dyke & this is because, yes, I sort of am one and, no, that is not supposed to in any way emasculate you. Gorgeous red hair and deep turquoise eyes. Men riding bikes without shirts. Population economics and natural selection. Hauntingly beautiful songs and images. Dark brown velvet. Curves, lines, and graphing paper. Colored sharpies. What the deal is with cops and other people with obvious control issues who are given dangerous levels of power. Focusing on my breath. If at any given moment, I am being the best, most true-to-myself-and-others version of me I can be. If, when I'm thinking about someone I've felt strong connection with, they might be thinking about me too and, if so, if it's possible that doing so forms intense pockets of energy, or wavelengths, or little wormholes in the fabric of a spiritual world, or just static electricity. Just being happy with life. Half-thinking in Spanish (or french or italian or japanese or..) If there is any way to effectively find other sapiosexuals. How to smash the global capitalist patriarchy. What the birds are saying.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
relaxing. That could mean anything, and is probably dependent on:
(1) finances
(2) weather
(3) social appetite

My interests are diverse. Suggest something.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I kinda like smelly armpits. Not all the time, just more often than you'd think.

and I pretty much always burn that first piece of french toast.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
I'm looking for mature, intimate relationships, regardless of whether that's for friendship, love, or sex. Mature people understand that it's okay to be a big kid: swingsets, trampolines, and making funny faces are not just the domain of 8 year-olds. If you understand consent and don't think jealousy is romantic, I'd like to meet you. Take your time, enjoy the scenery, and try to be friends first & foremost. I like to explore and experience the world, so please do not message me if little things 'freak you out' all the time or you frequently use the phrase "I am afraid of/scared by..." to describe infantile/ignorant aversions to food, animals, or other things that disrupt your comfort bubble; conversely, if you find that shit annoying, please go right ahead and drop me a line. I value both testing my limits and breathing easily.

More specifically, I enjoy big hearted, class conscious, thoughtfully engaged people who move actively somewhat regularly. I also like earthy and kind, but like Anne of Green Gables said "I wouldn't want [to be with] somebody really wicked, but I think I'd like it if [they] could be wicked, and wouldn't.” A little mischief is good. Introspective &/or metacognitive are necessary tools for conversation, but life just wouldn't be as fun without a healthy dose of 'shooting the shit,' so hopefully you are equally adept at both.

I consider myself pansexual/omnisexual/pomosexual (aka queer), so I don't care what sex (or gender) you are. (Please, please, don't ask me if I'm here primarily to meet men or women; there *are* stupid questions, and there *are* more genders.) I'm attracted to gently masculine and sensually maternal people. I'm somewhere between polyamorous and a "serial monogamist" - how a relationship works out is always open for discussion so feel free to discuss it.

I’m a hugger – are you?