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30 M Washington, DC

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Last Online
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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm an intelligent man who is cultivating my heart.

Where are the gay men who haven't rolled out of the cookie cutter factories? (The typical athletic, gay-frat-jock bores me to tears. If this is you, please PLEASE skip over me. I am not for you.)

Looking for love in all the wrong places... Looking for love with men who are already in love - with themselves. No one can break through your sad sad world.

I am a contemplative, a romantic, and a peaceful recluse.

I am an imperfect human animal just like every other human animal. I am a homo sapien because I do not deny wisdom.

I am an optimist because I do not deny pessimism. I am happy because I do not deny sadness. I am serene because I do not deny anger.

My fields aren't all roses and dasies. They are potted with holes that fall into the deepest darkness.

I have a carefree and spirited (and sometimes crude and lewd) sense of humor, and I can also be very dark at times. If you can't enjoy such things, we will not get along. With me, you will discover a real person, not simply someone who will always make you laugh and bring you only pleasure - although I am that too.

I still believe in magic, even if we only make it for ourselves.

I still believe in love too... Although anymore it's treated as the most obscene four letter word... Unrequited love is the hardest love to bear, and the easiest to pass off under the most superficial guises or in the most ignorant fashions. (You are ruining your heart when you deny the love you had for someone who didn't reciprocate it.)

Beauty, meaning, and aesthetics mean a lot to me, as do healthy, loving, and close relationships with others do too.

I am eccentric. Empathetic, but eccentric. I live my own life regardless of what anyone may think of it.

I am nocturnal. My sun is the moon.

I am a bookworm. You'll find me reading a book sooner than skiing

I very much share the spirit and soul of the 18th century. I am of the enlightenment as much as I am of the romantic era.

Details of my personal life are reserved for private messaging.

MBTI Type: INTJ. Enneagram: 4w5 sx/sp. Taurus Sun, Sag Rising, Moon/Merc/Venus in Aries and Mars in Scorpio.

"Perhaps this sounds very simple, but simple things are always the most difficult. In actual life it requires the greatest art to be simple, and so acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the acid test of one’s whole outlook on life. That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy – all these are undoubtedly great virtues.

But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yea the very fiend himself – that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved – what then? Then, as a rule, the whole truth is reversed: there is no more talk of love and long-suffering; we condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide him from the world; we deny ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves, and had it been God himself who drew near to us in this despicable form, we should have denied him a thousand times before a single cock had crowed."

(C.G. Jung, CW 11, Psychology and Religion: West and East, Chapter V, “Psychotherapy or the Clergy,” § 519-520)

Note: This should be required reading for everyone on here. The psychological detriments of hooking-up:

And on the ruinous effects of materialistic beliefs on relationships:
What I’m doing with my life
I have two jobs...

Working extraordinarily hard and making many sacrifices for a literary project I've been working on since 2007 and which has a very uncertain chance of success. But it's coming along WONDERFULLY, and I couldnt be happier with it. And the other is the lovely money-job.

I had a full ride to a private university and I left it behind the end of my sophomore year in order to work on my writing and to give myself an education.
I’m really good at
Seeing behind everyone's mask. I have quite the skill which parallels Hannibal Lecter's own capacity for seeing through other. Don't believe me? You are welcomed to test me. I will tell you the good and bad.
The first things people usually notice about me
I can be quite fun, quite kind, or quite serious.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books (Fiction): Odyssey, Divine Comedy, Paradise Lost, Faust, Frankinstein, Wuthering Heights, Oedipus Trilogy, The Bacchae, Treasure Island, Robinson Crusoe, Candide, The Rape and the Lock, Romance of the Forest, 1984, Animal Farm, The Phantom of the Opera, Romeo and Juliet, Titus, The Wall, The Catcher in the Rye, Epic of Gilgamesh, Pride and Prejudice, Elmer Gantry, Don Juan, and many many more

Theoretical Quantum Physics, Symbolism, Comparative Religion, Mythology, Jungian Depth Psychology

Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Heraclitus, Plato, Bertrand Russel, C.G. Jung, James Hillman

Religions/Spiritualities/Mysticism: Alchemy, The Eleusian Mysteries, Mithras, Kabbalah, Orphism, Zen, Taoism, Egyptian Religion, Greek Mythology, The Christian Saints, Hinduism, Sufism

Fairytales. The real ones, not the ones that have been cleaned up by Disney

Movies: Romeo and Juliet (1996 - and still is and has been my favorite movie since it came out in the theaters when I was 12) Titus, Amadeus, A Royal Affair, Big Fish, Immortal Beloved, Jane Eyre, Requiem for a Dream, Dark City, The Matrix, Chicago, The Black Swan, Angels in America, Tess, Great Expectations, Shakespeare in Love, Mulin Rouge, The Others, The Merchant of Venice, The Hours, Titanic, The Secret Garden, The Indian in the Cupboard, Mulholland Drive, Bram Stoker's Dracula, Wolfman, 30 Days of Night, Halloween, Donny Darko, Seven, Jacob's Ladder, Dawn of the Dead, Zombieland, Inglorious Bastards, Flowers in the Attic, Dangerous Liaisons, The Libertine, Quills, Sweeney Todd, Sunset Boulevard, Child's Play, The Exorcist, The Happening, Rosemary's Baby, Nightmare on Elm Street, Candyman, The Lost Boys, IT, Silence of the Lambs, The Mist, The Crazies, Blindness, Storm of the Century, Fargo, Master and Command, Gladiator, Pirates of the Carribean, Poseidon, Nightmare Before Christmas, Dumbo, Bambi, Cinderella, 28 Days Later, Doubt, Shaun of the Dead, 30 Minutes or Less, Alien, Hannibal, Bad Grandpa, Super Bad, Dog Day Afternoon, 300, Pineapple Express, Phantom of the Opera, The Tempest... Lots lots more

Shows: The Vikings, Spartacus, Rome, The White Queen, Tudors, Walking Dead, The Borgias, Mad Men, Deadwood, Carnivale, Battle Star Galactica, Game of Thrones, Boardwalk Empire, Bleak House, American Horror Story, X Files, Twin Peaks, South Park, That 70s Show, Dead Files, Ghost Lab, Ghost Adventures, Alley McBeal, The Practice, The Drew Carrey Show, Alfred Hitchcock, I Love Lucy, The Golden Girls, The George Burns and Gracy Allen Show, All in the Family

I am becoming a huge fan of obscure documentaries that I can find only on Youtube

Music: RADIOHEAD, Hauntingly beautiful choir music, Mozart, Bach, Beethoven, Faure, Vivaldi, Verde... requiems... Synth-Pop, British Rock, Vitamin String Quartet, Kronos String Quartet, Phillip Glass, The Cranberries, Depeche Mode. Sarah McLachlan, Lana del Ray, Linkin Park, Coldplay, Clint Mansell, Yeasayer, Butch Walker, (I do NOT like diva music, not Gaga, Beyonce, Aguliara, or any of them)

Games: Silent Hill, Resident Evil, Uncharted, Bioshock, Skyrim, The Last of Us, Tomb Raider, Metal Gear Solid, Red Dead Redemption, Assassins Creed, Dead Island, Super Mario

Food: Indian, Thai, Japanese, Greek, Chinese, Italian
The six things I could never do without
My family, basic needs, my project, my MacBook and iPhone, exciting things to experience or study, everything beautiful and lovely
I spend a lot of time thinking about




Quantum physics


How during the Trojan War no one listened to Casandra.

How America is a crony-run corporate oligarchy and no longer a true democracy.

How men on here list their religion and then say they are laughing about it. And why if they are laughing about it do they believe it?

How PC is killing objective sociological observations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Typically I'm in a cafe reading. Then either to a club for gin and tonics or home to a bottle of Chardonnay and my favorite movies.

Possibly the gym... POSSIBLY... That has happened before
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I like one sport. It is called Hunting Men... I also love watching ballet and ballroom dancing.

It seems my favorite songs have the word "love" in them. I also adore love poetry - even sometimes of the Hallmark variety.

I tend to say outrageous things when I'm anxious. It amuses me and takes the edge of my nerves.

I don't have a Facebook or any other social networking site, and this is the only dating site I am on.

I spend less than an hour on my computer each day.

I prefer nature over metropolitan areas.

I hate the world positive because 1) it's an excuse for many people to avoid problems in their lives (since problems are "negative") 2) positive is related to yang, and so yin must be negative (this is misogynistic) and 3) it's self-help guru-ism (I'll take actual psychology, thank you ;)

I also like the Old West... Where if someone pissed you off you'd punch them right in the mouth. A lot of gay antagonists can use a good rap in their kisser.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 19–40
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
All I want is my Prince Charming - I don't know if he's a Prince anymore. He may very well be a handsome, bright, and sweet farm boy who is still natural and untarnished by metropolitan ideals... Or me may very well be a survivor who was broken but managed to save himself through right opinions, right beliefs, and right actions. (I think the last is what I am. No wonder I like horror movies so much.)

You are bright, handsome, and have a warm and loving heart.

I have every interest in a man who holds his closest relationships near and dear and takes time to tend to them with an invested interest.

Humility is a virtue. And, yes, I too hold myself to this, as any healthy man does. (You can gauge a persons arrogance by how many times they say "I/me/my/mine" in one conversation - or, rather, I should say that "conversation" is their monologue which they chant off at you.)

You are MONOGAMOUS and spiritual (or an atheist with strong values)

I am not at all interested in arrogant or shallow gay men (who seem to be a special breed of feminine bitch and masculine asshole.) Heal thyself before you spread your infection unto others!

AND I enjoy communicating with a fascinating penpal more than speaking in person with someone I find less interesting... So, you men who live farther away, do not be shy to send me a message. I will reply if I feel a mutual spark. =)