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30 M New York, NY

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6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
When drinking
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
English (Fluently), Latin (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm an intelligent man who is cultivating my heart.

I am looking for love. I am about monogamy, romance, and family. I date like it's 1955.

I am a contemplative, a romantic, and a peaceful recluse.

I've broken out of the Betty Crocker cookie factory. I don't fit the jock-bro-athlete mold.

Interested in those who aren't playing the same old game, constantly losing at it, and not wondering why. (If you haven't quit you have no idea what I'm talking about, and if you have, you can write volumes on how this game is a loss.)

We are all looking for our other half. ;)

I am much more introverted than extroverted - I am as adept at interpersonal relationships as I am at intrapersonal understanding. I am definitely more on the reserved side than the wild side.

I believe in soul.

"Eyes and ears are bad witnesses to men having barbarian souls." - Heraclitus

I am an imperfect human animal just like every other human animal. I am a homo sapien because I do not deny wisdom.

I am an optimist because I do not deny pessimism. I am happy because I do not deny sadness. I am serene because I do not deny anger.

My fields aren't all roses and dasies. They are potted with holes that fall into the deepest darkness.

I have a carefree and spirited (and sometimes crude and lewd) sense of humor, and I can also be very dark at times. If you can't enjoy such things, we will not get along. With me, you will discover a real person, not simply someone who will always make you laugh and bring you only pleasure - although I am that too.

I still believe in magic, even if we only make it for ourselves.

I still believe in love too... Although anymore it's treated as the most obscene four letter word... Unrequited love is the hardest love to bear, and the easiest to pass off under the most superficial guises or in the most ignorant fashions. (You are ruining your heart when you deny the love you had for someone who didn't reciprocate it.)

Beauty, meaning, and aesthetics mean a lot to me, as do healthy, loving, and close relationships with others do too.

I am nocturnal. My sun is the moon.

I am a bookworm. You'll find me reading a book sooner than skiing. Fun comes in many styles, not simply of the physically active variety.

I spent a lot of time with my grandmother when I was growing up. She was born in 1916 and introduced me to many things from the old world of the black-and-white days.

Details of my personal life are reserved for private messaging.

MBTI Type: INTJ. Enneagram: 4w5 sx/sp. Taurus Sun, Sag Rising, Moon/Merc/Venus in Aries and Mars in Scorpio.

"Perhaps this sounds very simple, but simple things are always the most difficult. In actual life it requires the greatest art to be simple, and so acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the acid test of one’s whole outlook on life. That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy – all these are undoubtedly great virtues.

But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yea the very fiend himself – that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved – what then? Then, as a rule, the whole truth is reversed: there is no more talk of love and long-suffering; we condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide him from the world; we deny ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves, and had it been God himself who drew near to us in this despicable form, we should have denied him a thousand times before a single cock had crowed."

(C.G. Jung, CW 11, Psychology and Religion: West and East, Chapter V, “Psychotherapy or the Clergy,” § 519-520)

Note: This should be required reading for everyone on here.

Maybe the issues are with YOU and not anyone of anything else:

The psychological detriments of hooking-up:

On the RISE of HIV among gay men (while for the rest of the population it's falling!)


And on the ruinous effects of materialistic beliefs on relationships:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have two jobs...

Working extraordinarily hard and making many sacrifices for a literary project I've been working on since 2007 and which has a very uncertain chance of success. But it's coming along WONDERFULLY, and I couldnt be happier with it. And the other is the lovely money-job.

I had a full ride to a private university and I left it behind the end of my sophomore year in order to work on my writing and to give myself an education.

I do not go with the flow.

“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.” - Leonardo da Vinci
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing behind everyone's mask. I have quite the skill which parallels Hannibal Lecter's own capacity for seeing through other. Don't believe me? You are welcomed to test me. I will tell you the good and bad.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I can be quite fun, quite kind, or quite serious.

I've been told a few times that I look like Bradley Cooper and Aaron Rodgers.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books (Fiction): Odyssey, Divine Comedy, Paradise Lost, Faust, Frankinstein, Wuthering Heights, Oedipus Trilogy, The Bacchae, Treasure Island, Robinson Crusoe, Candide, The Rape and the Lock, Romance of the Forest, 1984, Animal Farm, The Phantom of the Opera, Romeo and Juliet, Titus, The Wall, The Catcher in the Rye, Epic of Gilgamesh, Pride and Prejudice, Elmer Gantry, Don Juan, and many many more

Blake, Goethe, Miton, Virgil, Homer, Keats, Shelly, Irving

Theoretical Quantum Physics, Symbolism, Comparative Religion, Mythology, Jungian Depth Psychology

Nietzsche, Schopenhauer, Heraclitus, Plato, Bertrand Russel, C.G. Jung, James Hillman

Religions/Spiritualities/Mysticism: Alchemy, The Eleusian Mysteries, Mithras, Kabbalah, Orphism, Zen, Taoism, Egyptian Religion, Greek Mythology, The Christian Saints, Hinduism, Sufism

Fairytales. The real ones, not the ones that have been cleaned up by Disney

Huge aficionado of history dramas, especially ones about ancient monarchies.

Movies: Romeo and Juliet (1996 - and still is and has been my favorite movie since it came out in the theaters when I was 12) Titus, Amadeus, A Royal Affair, Dangerous Liaisons, Immortal Beloved, Jane Eyre, Requiem for a Dream, Dark City, The Iron Giant, The Matrix, Chicago, The Black Swan, Angels in America, Great Expectations, Mulin Rouge, The Others, The Merchant of Venice, The Hours, Titanic, The Secret Garden, The Indian in the Cupboard, Ever After: A Cinderella Story, Mulholland Drive, Bram Stoker's Dracula, Sleepy Hollow, Interview with a Vampire, 30 Days of Night, Halloween, Donny Darko, Seven, Jacob's Ladder, Dawn of the Dead, Zombieland, Inglorious Bastards, Flowers in the Attic, The Libertine, Quills, Sweeney Todd, Sunset Boulevard, Child's Play, The Exorcist, The Happening, Rosemary's Baby, Nightmare on Elm Street, Candyman, The Lost Boys, IT, Silence of the Lambs, The Mist, Storm of the Century, Fargo, Master and Command, Gladiator, Pirates of the Carribean, Poseidon, Nightmare Before Christmas, Dumbo, Bambi, Cinderella, 28 Days Later, Doubt, Shaun of the Dead, Alien, Hannibal, Bad Grandpa, Super Bad, Dog Day Afternoon, 300, Pineapple Express, Phantom of the Opera, The Tempest... Lots lots more

Shows: Rome, Game of Thrones, Walking Dead, OZ, Carnivale, The Vikings, Spartacus, The White Queen, Tudors, Elizabeth I, The Reign, The Borgias, Boardwalk Empire, Mad Men, Deadwood, Battle Star Galactica, X Files, Dark Shadows (I used to watch re-runs of this with my grandma. What a fantastic show), Twin Peaks, Bleak House, American Horror Story, South Park, Scooby Doo, That 70s Show, Dead Files, Ghost Adventures, The Practice, I Love Lucy, The Golden Girls, The George Burns and Gracy Allen Show, All in the Family, Alfred Hitchcock Presents

I am becoming a huge fan of obscure documentaries that I can find only on Youtube

Music: RADIOHEAD, Hauntingly beautiful choir music, Mozart, Bach, Beethoven, Faure, Vivaldi, Verde... requiems... Synth-Pop, British Rock, Vitamin String Quartet, Kronos String Quartet, Phillip Glass, The Cranberries, Depeche Mode. Sarah McLachlan, Lana del Ray, Linkin Park, Coldplay, Clint Mansell, Yeasayer

Games: Silent Hill, Resident Evil, Uncharted, Bioshock, Dishonored, Skyrim, The Last of Us, Tomb Raider, Metal Gear Solid, Red Dead Redemption, Assassins Creed, Dead Island, Super Mario

Food: Indian, Thai, Japanese, Greek, Chinese, Italian... I eat mostly home cooked meals.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My family, basic needs, my project, my MacBook and iPhone, exciting things to experience or study, everything beautiful and lovely
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.




Quantum physics


How during the Trojan War no one listened to Casandra.

How America is a crony-run corporate oligarchy and no longer a true democracy.

How men on here list their religion and then say they are laughing about it. And why if they are laughing about it do they believe it?

How political correctness is killing objective psychological and sociological observations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Typically I'm in a cafe reading. Then either home to watch movies or to a bar for gin and tonics.

Possibly the gym... POSSIBLY... That has happened before.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am eccentric. Empathetic, but eccentric. I live my own life regardless of what anyone may think of it. Allow me to REALLY clarify this. I do not actively change myself to fit in with the conventions of those who are:
1) physically unattractive and stupid
2) physically attractive and intelligent
3) physically unattractive and intelligent
- AND THE ONE DESERVING THE MOST EMPHASIS 4) physically attractive and stupid (and yes, this applies to most "bro" with college degrees. You wouldn't have made it through college a hundred years ago. Be thankful everything is watered down to your dumbass level)

I am only interested in the genuinely insightful, the naturally compassionate, and those in possession of foresight and a spark of light to see through this dark age.

I am a HUGE fan of Old Europe and other ancient cultures.

The most exciting thing I do with my spare time in read. It's what I look forward to the most on my days off.

I think American society is on a grave downward spiral into a death by superficiality.

My longest relationship lasted four years and eight months, and we lived together for two of those years.

I like one sport. It is called Hunting Men... I also love watching ballet and ballroom dancing.

It seems my favorite songs have the word "love" in them. I also adore love poetry - even sometimes of the Hallmark variety.

I try to read a page of poetry by a master poet before I go to sleep every night.

I tend to say outrageous things when I'm anxious. It amuses me and takes the edge of my nerves.

I don't have a Facebook or any other social networking site, and this is the only dating site I am on.

I spend less than an hour on my computer each day.

I prefer nature over metropolitan areas.

I hate the world positive because 1) it's an excuse for many people to avoid problems in their lives (since problems are "negative") 2) positive is related to yang, and so yin must be negative (this is misogynistic) and 3) it's self-help guru-ism (I'll take actual psychology) As my father would say, "It's not negative, it's a fact of life."

I also like the Old West... Where if someone pissed you off you'd punch them right in the mouth. A lot of gay antagonists can use a good rap in their kisser.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like guys
  • Ages 22–38
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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I have one request, which perhaps is more of a quirk than anything, and that is I would prefer to be penpals for awhile before meeting in person. I like the safety that the distance provides, and I find the communication stimulating and informative. A mental, as well as an emotional and sexual connection, is absolutely imperative for anything substantial and ultimately serious.

You are bright, handsome and have a warm and loving heart.

I like handsome men who are thinkers and gentlemen, and I like men who are feelers but who aren't flamboyant.

You have the capacity to be serious, grounded, deep and insightful.

Trendy = not likely. Ghetto trendy = absolutely not.

You are interested in more than eating, drinking and being merry - as well as alcohol, pot and sex.

You are interested in long-term romantic relationships which have every possibility of being solidified in marriage.

I have every interest in a man who holds his closest relationships near and dear and takes time to tend to them with an invested interest.

Humility is a virtue. And, yes, I too hold myself to this, as any healthy man does. (You can gauge a persons arrogance by how many times they say "I/me/my/mine" in one conversation - or, rather, I should say that "conversation" is their resume and their narcissistic perspective of themselves which they chant off *at* you.)

You are MONOGAMOUS and spiritual.

I cannot date anyone who is not spiritual. Anyone who is not spiritual is a materialist - and I mean this in a much broader sense than consumerism.

AND I enjoy communicating with a fascinating penpal more than speaking in person with someone I find less interesting... So, you men who live farther away, do not be shy to send me a message. I will reply if I feel a mutual spark. =)