Where are the gay men who haven't rolled out of the cookie cutter factories? (The typical athletic, gay-frat-jock bores me to tears. If this is you, please PLEASE skip over me. I am not for you.)
Looking for love in all the wrong places... Looking for love with men who are already in love - with themselves. No one can break through your sad sad world.
I am a contemplative, a romantic, and a peaceful recluse.
I am an imperfect human animal just like every other human animal. I am a homo sapien because I do not deny wisdom.
I am an optimist because I do not deny pessimism. I am happy because I do not deny sadness. I am serene because I do not deny anger.
My fields aren't all roses and dasies. They are potted with holes that fall into the deepest darkness.
I have a carefree and spirited (and sometimes crude and lewd) sense of humor, and I can also be very dark at times. If you can't enjoy such things, we will not get along. With me, you will discover a real person, not simply someone who will always make you laugh and bring you only pleasure - although I am that too.
I still believe in magic, even if we only make it for ourselves.
I still believe in love too... Although anymore it's treated as the most obscene four letter word... Unrequited love is the hardest love to bear, and the easiest to pass off under the most superficial guises or in the most ignorant fashions. (You are ruining your heart when you deny the love you had for someone who didn't reciprocate it.)
Beauty, meaning, and aesthetics mean a lot to me, as do healthy, loving, and close relationships with others do too.
I am eccentric. Empathetic, but eccentric. I live my own life regardless of what anyone may think of it.
I am nocturnal. My sun is the moon.
I am a bookworm. You'll find me reading a book sooner than skiing
I very much share the spirit and soul of the 18th century. I am of the enlightenment as much as I am of the romantic era.
Details of my personal life are reserved for private messaging.
MBTI Type: INTJ. Enneagram: 4w5 sx/sp. Taurus Sun, Sag Rising, Moon/Merc/Venus in Aries and Mars in Scorpio.
"Perhaps this sounds very simple, but simple things are always the most difficult. In actual life it requires the greatest art to be simple, and so acceptance of oneself is the essence of the moral problem and the acid test of one’s whole outlook on life. That I feed the beggar, that I forgive an insult, that I love my enemy – all these are undoubtedly great virtues.
But what if I should discover that the least among them all, the poorest of all beggars, the most impudent of all offenders, yea the very fiend himself – that these are within me, and that I myself stand in need of my own kindness, that I myself am the enemy who must be loved – what then? Then, as a rule, the whole truth is reversed: there is no more talk of love and long-suffering; we condemn and rage against ourselves. We hide him from the world; we deny ever having met this least among the lowly in ourselves, and had it been God himself who drew near to us in this despicable form, we should have denied him a thousand times before a single cock had crowed."
(C.G. Jung, CW 11, Psychology and Religion: West and East, Chapter V, “Psychotherapy or the Clergy,” § 519-520)
Note: This should be required reading for everyone on here. The psychological detriments of hooking-up:
And on the ruinous effects of materialistic beliefs on relationships: