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32 M Beaverton, OR

My Details

Last Online
Jul 21
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Used up
Mostly anything
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from space camp
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), Sign Language (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm Feygon (in Civ & on Fetlife too), and I'm polyamorous genderqueer. Queer people are delightfully self-aware. Masculine partners -- I need to trust you -- friends/activity partners first. I really dislike gendered interactions, especially those that reward patriarchy. I currently have a live-in partner and a few sweeties. A while ago I traced out the Poly Web of my family, and counting partners of partners it had 20+ nodes. This number has dwindled this year, due to a former partner choosing monogamy with one of her primaries.
The main feature of the way I do polyamory is that our metamours are friends.

I've recently been able to articulate this:
I don't have traditional feelings about romance.
I want to have dates with people without attached expectations of romance or sex. I want to go on these dates without these assumptions, so that we are free to have intimacy and sex during our dates if we feel like it, with our thoughts Present. I want to share physical intimacy without expectations of Romantical Progression -- I want kisses to be kisses shared for the purpose of enjoying sharing kisses. I don't want kisses for the purpose of gaining implied consent for more intense physical contact.
I want to flirt without fear, and be present. I want to feel free to negotiate things when they occur.

Trust is a turn-on, skill at personal boundaries doubly so. I like to form relationships and friendships with people who are interested in intentional communication.

Talking about talking is important to me. I'm interested in feminism, negotiation, boundaries, occupying and sharing space, calling out, agency. I feel accountable to work on my shit. I like people who know and love their boundaries, who know the shape of their being. This is precious to me. Meanwhile, I often find myself holding back out of either respect for good consent, or anxiety; the line between which is difficult to parse. It's really helpful if my potential partners can be clear. I like that.

I like kissing. I like to bite, scratch, mark, etc. Power dynamics are fun, but not necessary. I'm Feygon on Fetlife. I switch.

My style of dating is on the easy going, homey side--movies, cooking, board games, tea, walks through town to familiar quiet places holding hands, and good sex of all kinds in all kinds of places. I don't plan much, unless it's needed for scheduling; I prefer to just be present and have fun. I like when candles and/or music and/or food are involved, whatever we do. Also, I could cuddle the shit out of a You.

I am polyamorous. I often have multiple partners, some of whom often may have other partners than me. I use barrier methods, try to discuss boundaries early and often, and inform everyone who needs to know when anything changes. I have received the Gardasil shot.

Queer culture and polyamory are an important part of my politics. The freedom to love who and how I want is the greatest freedom. Alliance with deaf culture is also important to me.

I'm a pirate in the SCA, a Steampunk/Atherkellian LARPer and a newcomer to Wolf Creek Sanctuary! ILY Queers!
What I’m doing with my life
I am preparing my application for PSU's Master's Program in Psychology. I want to specialize in Polyamorous and Queer Family Therapy, and Gender Therapy.

4 years ago last I graduated from OSU in theatre arts. Now I'm taking calls from home, analyzing plays, and writing. I had a fairly good GPA, and I'm preparing to kick the shit out of the GRE and gather some good recommendations.

Been living in BeaverTron for two years or so, near the Willow Creek transit center. I moved into a house.

I want to see my friends more, to spend time with them just to share time and space and have good times. I am interested in knowing my boundaries during these interactions, and being present. It's hard not to think anxiously, y'know?
The first things people usually notice about me
My size. I'm a big fuzzy teddy bear.
My long scottish highlander hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
When I look at other people's profiles, I usually only look at the movies and food. Update: I just realized I rarely even read this section of my OWN profile.

Books: The Death Gate Cycle, stuff I write, Michael Shurtleff, Douglas Adams, Les Feinberg, Orson Scott Card, Robert A Heinlein, Robert Johnson, Michel Foucault

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Amelie, Darjeeling Limited, Garden State, Serenity, The Shape of Things, Company, Miyazaki, Everything is Illuminated, a billionty others -- there's just about no movie I hate, and I really enjoy watching train-wrecks, especially if the characters speak their subtext. Hah! I even watched Conagher not long ago because I love the cowboy in The Big Lebowski.

Rasputina, Stephen Sondheim, Bjork, Standup comedy tracks, Veruca Salt. Wow, 3 girl-bands and a musicals writer. Oh, and Tom Waits -- creamy, delectable Tom Waits. And Elvis Costello. There. Sealed.

photogenic food, Sushi (mushroom bomb!), Home-cooked meals with lovingly provided ingredients, FoodCartTopia!, and Free stuff (Youtube: The Skinning Song)
The six things I could never do without
Acting/Writing/Directing/Music (though lately I have done without these)
The instruments of the creation of the above
Foodie experiences
Someone to talk to intimately
Bike/longboard/alternative modes of transportation (jetpacks, etc.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Intellectual frameworks to describe the discoveries of life, like Quantum Metaphysical Theory.


How to amplify less privileged voices.

How best to be an ally to the queer community. I've strived for this for several years.
How to decelerate and reverse cycles of codependency and abuse, not just end them. imagination creates the universe, which in turn creates individuality through the focusing lens of time.

Kink. Sexy pain (giving and receiving, how it keeps me present).
On a typical Friday night I am
Pursuing my art, dating wonderful new people, occasionally a drum circle. Or kissing. Lots of kissing. Mmm. Tasty tasty kissing. And cuddling. Lots of cuddling. These are what I want.

Some nights, it happens. Also, Karaoke.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I wish my cat would cuddle me in bed. She's too mean. Vicious, really, unless she knows you. For a while. Like a year. Or two. She is slow to trust, but trusts deeply.

Also, I wrote this about my high school girlfriend, who worked at the Malabar:

My sacred coffee girl—
Our wild struggle is sinful.
I lick your cup of lush
Rainfall and earth secret,
Discover old wisdom,
In the scent of deep moist
Rich brown places of spring,
Musky coffee-cherry
Plucked from the bush when red.
Heat thrives between my lips.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Don't wait for me to message you if you think I'm cute, or like what I have to say. Mutual Timidity Syndrome sucks. I try to contact people I think are cute, but well, y'know.'ve ever been home to Wolf Creek Sanctuary! LARP or DM or play tabletop rpgs, or you're into being in a polyamorous relationship or intimate friendship with someone who does, or are simply curious about me. understand how someone can be both extroverted and socially anxious. like sexy conversations involving quantum physics.