Trust is a turn-on. Codependent personal boundaries are a definite turn-off. I'm looking to form relationships and friendships with people who are interested in intentional communication.
Talking about talking is important to me. I'm interested in feminism, negotiation, boundaries, occupying and sharing space, calling out, agency. I feel accountable to work on my shit. I like people who know and love their boundaries, who know the shape of their being. This is precious to me. Meanwhile, I often find myself holding back out of either respect for good consent, or anxiety; the line between which is difficult to parse. It's really helpful if my potential partners can be clear. I like that.
I like kissing. I like to bite, scratch, mark, etc. Power dynamics are fun, but not necessary. I'm Feygon on Fetlife. I switch.
My style of dating is on the easy going, homey side--movies, cooking, board games, tea, walks through town to familiar quiet places holding hands, and good sex of all kinds in all kinds of places. I don't plan much; I prefer to just be present and have fun. I like when candles and/or music and/or food are involved, whatever we do. Also, I could cuddle the shit out of a You.
Crowds, concerts, parties -- not my thing, except if I know most of the people there. I am an extrovert, but with some social anxiety.
I am polyamorous. I often have multiple partners, some of whom often may have other partners than me. I use barrier methods, try to discuss boundaries early and often, and inform everyone who needs to know when anything changes. I have received the Gardasil shot.
Queer culture and polyamory are an important part of my politics. The freedom to love who and how I want is the greatest freedom. Alliance with deaf culture is also important to me.
I'm a pirate in the SCA, a Steampunk/Atherkellian LARPer and a newcomer to Wolf Creek Sanctuary! ILY Queers!