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Feygon

32 M Beaverton, OR

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 24–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:03am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Used up
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Other
Sign
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from space camp
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English, Spanish (Poorly), Sign Language (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I'm Feygon (in Civ & on Fetlife too), and I'm polyamorous genderqueer. My pronouns are they/them/their, or for capable folks, fey/fem/fer.

I value self-awareness in myself and others. Queer people are delightfully self-aware. I really dislike performative-gendered interactions. I currently live with my anchor partner, and have no other major amorous partners, though a few sweeties.

The main feature of the way I do polyamory is that it is important to me that people be friends with the partner I live with. Community is important to me.

I've recently been able to articulate this:
I don't have traditional feelings about romance. I've come to appreciate using the word 'amorous' to describe feelings of desire, love, commitment, etc., instead of 'romantic'.
I want to have dates with people without attached expectations of romance or sex.

I want to go on these dates without these assumptions, so that we are free to have intimacy and sex during our dates if we feel like it, with our thoughts Present. I want to share physical intimacy without expectations of Romantical Progression -- I want to share kisses for the purpose of enjoying sharing kisses. I don't want kisses as a stepping stone to more intense physical contact. Same goes for cuddles.

I want to flirt without fear, and be present. I want to feel free to negotiate things when they occur. I like emotionally available people. I'm socially anxious, and learning how to feel more availably. I don't like codependency.

Trust is a turn-on, skill at personal boundaries doubly so. I like to form relationships and friendships with people who are interested in intentional communication.

Talking about talking is important to me. I'm interested in feminism, negotiation, boundaries, occupying and sharing space, calling out, agency, solidarity. I feel accountable to work on my shit. I like people who know and love their boundaries, who know the shape of their being. This is precious to me. I often find myself holding back out of anxiety. I fear doing harm. It's really helpful if my potential partners can be clear. I like that.

I like kissing. I like to bite, scratch, mark, breath play, etc. Power dynamics are fun, but not necessary. I switch. I like topping age & puppy play, and service subbing in other spaces. I'm Feygon on Fetlife.

My style of dating is on the easy going, homey side--movies, cooking, board games, tea, walks through town to familiar quiet places holding hands, and good sex of all kinds. I don't plan much, unless it's needed for scheduling; I prefer to just be present and have fun. I like when candles and/or music and/or food are involved, whatever we do. Also, I could cuddle the shit out of a You.

I am polyamorous. I often have multiple partners, some of whom often may have other partners than me. I use barrier methods, try to discuss boundaries early and often, and inform everyone who needs to know when anything changes. I have received the Gardasil shot.

Queer culture and polyamory are an important part of my politics and community. The freedom to love who and how I want is the greatest freedom. Alliance with deaf culture is also important to me.

I'm occasionally a pirate in the SCA, I have LARPed, and I'm a newcomer to Nomenus and Wolf Creek Sanctuary! ILY Queers!
What I’m doing with my life
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I am preparing my application for PSU's Master's Program in Family Counseling. I want to specialize in Polyamorous and Queer Family Therapy, and Gender Therapy.

4 years ago last I graduated from OSU in theatre arts. Now I'm taking calls from home, and trying to grasp hold of this thing called routine. I had a fairly good GPA, and I kicked the shit out of the GRE and gathered some good recommendations. I'm hopeful for the application.

Been living in BeaverTron for two years or so, near the Willow Creek transit center. I moved into a house.

I want to see my friends more, to spend time with them just to share time and space and have good times. I am interested in knowing my boundaries during these interactions, and being present. It's hard not to think anxiously, y'know?
The first things people usually notice about me
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My size. I'm a big fuzzy teddy bear.
My long scottish highlander hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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When I look at other people's profiles, I usually only look at the movies and food. Update: I just realized I rarely even read this section of my OWN profile.

Books: The Death Gate Cycle, stuff I write, Michael Shurtleff, Douglas Adams, Les Feinberg, Orson Scott Card, Robert A Heinlein, Robert Johnson, Michel Foucault

Movies: Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Amelie, Darjeeling Limited, Garden State, Serenity, The Shape of Things, Company, Miyazaki, Everything is Illuminated, a billionty others -- there's just about no movie I hate, and I really enjoy watching train-wrecks, especially if the characters speak their subtext. Hah! I even watched Conagher not long ago because I love the cowboy in The Big Lebowski.

Rasputina, Stephen Sondheim, Bjork, Standup comedy tracks, Veruca Salt. Wow, 3 girl-bands and a musicals writer. Oh, and Tom Waits -- creamy, delectable Tom Waits. And Elvis Costello. There. Sealed.

photogenic food, Sushi (mushroom bomb!), Home-cooked meals with lovingly provided ingredients, FoodCartTopia!, and Free stuff (Youtube: The Skinning Song)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Acting/Writing/Directing/Music (though lately I have done without these)
The instruments of the creation of the above
Foodie experiences
KINKY SEX/PAIN!
Someone to talk to intimately
Bike/longboard/alternative modes of transportation (jetpacks, etc.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Intellectual frameworks to describe the discoveries of life, like Quantum Metaphysical Theory. Also -- trying to learn

Intersectionality and how to amplify less privileged voices.

How best to be an ally to the queer community. I've strived for this for several years.
How to decelerate and reverse cycles of codependency and abuse, not just end them.

...how imagination creates the universe, which in turn creates individuality through the focusing lens of time.

...divinations of the psyche.

Kink. Sexy pain (giving and receiving, how it keeps me present), fantasies about puppy play (it's very fantasy-focused).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Pursuing my art, dating wonderful new people, occasionally a drum circle. Or kissing. Lots of kissing. Mmm. Tasty tasty kissing. And cuddling. Lots of cuddling. These are what I want.

Some nights, it happens. Also, Karaoke.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I wish my cat would cuddle me in bed. She's too mean. Vicious, really, unless she knows you. For a while. Like a year. Or two. She is slow to trust, but trusts deeply.

Also, I wrote this:

My sacred coffee girl—
Our wild struggle is sinful.
I lick your cup of lush
Rainfall and earth secret,
Discover old wisdom,
In the scent of deep moist
Rich brown places of spring,
Musky coffee-cherry
Plucked from the bush when red.
Heat thrives between my lips.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
Don't wait for me to message you if you think I'm cute, or like what I have to say. Mutual Timidity Syndrome sucks. I try to contact people I think are cute, but well, y'know.

...you are emotionally available.

...you've ever been home to Wolf Creek Sanctuary!

...you LARP or DM or play tabletop rpgs, or you're into being in a polyamorous relationship or intimate friendship with someone who does, or are simply curious about me.

...you understand how someone can be both extroverted and socially anxious.

...you like sexy conversations involving quantum physics.