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28 M Raleigh, NC

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 7:03pm
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, and laughing about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Other (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Technically speaking, I'm nerdy. But isn't it time for this label to die? Everyone's a nerd about something. Jocks are nerds about sports. Access to anything and everything is so prevalent now, "nerd" is a label without a meaning. But now I just sound like that bisexual friend of yours who insists, "I'm not bisexual, I'm not into labels. I just look at the PERSON." Dude, it's cool if you're bi. No one here judges openly.

My biggest goal is to be great. More than riches, more than fame, more than happiness even, I want to be great. Although I'd enjoy being rich enough to throw out soaps after I wear the letters off.

I write self-summaries without knowing where they'll lead.

In short, I'm just a struggling black man trying to keep my dick hard in a cruel and harsh world.

Oh, and Carl Sagan's "Pale Blue Dot" message changed my life. Maybe it'll change yours too:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The short answer is writing. But that's something people can legally say without even being published. So it feels like cheating.

Slightly longer answer: Honestly, I kinda liked, "I’m an empty essay... fill me out!" Too bad it's pretentious. Let's stick with writing, but add the cliched post-college slumming (in my case, UNC-CH). As cliches go, hookers with hearts of gold have more fun. Too bad their heart is depreciating in value.

Trying to rephrase all that in a way that makes sense to my parents.

I also create wikipedia profiles for myself (usually copied and pasted from the profiles of famous dictators) that get removed within the hour.

Self promotion: I sporadically blog about movies.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening. And pretending to listen. Both work equally well.

Turning any moment into a Simpsons reference

Skipping in slow motion.

Choosing the perfect beer for the evening. (Hint: Stouts and porters are perfect for everything.)

Instantly recognizing when a person is uncomfortable, but being unable to do anything about it.

Lying about how far I jogged today

Not tanning

Creating awkward silences


Criticizing movies.

Finding a clean public restroom.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My stylish clothes on sale from Kohl's.

My arms rarely keep still when I talk.

My resemblance to McLovin.

And that I never litter.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Great pop art feels like the person took a piece of themselves and threw it out to enter our daily lives. It takes the edge off fears and uncertainties, it unites us through our shared differences, and the best work brings out the best in everyone else. Then of course the merchandising and everything else enters later. These picks might change based on mood, time of day, phase of the moon, etc. Even if I can't rationally explain "why" I love them, I know that I "do."

Books: Raymond Carver, Flannery O'Connor, Chekhov, Alice Munro, David Sedaris, Kurt Vonnegut, The Stand, Lolita, Portnoy's Complaint, A Confederacy Of Dunces, Birds Of America, The Amazing Adventures Of Kavalier And Clay, Tropic Of Cancer

Movies: Some Like It Hot, Nashville, Taxi Driver, ET, The Maltese Falcon, Ikiru, 2001: A Space Odyssey, The General, Psycho, Band Of Outsiders, Paris Texas, Apocalypse Now, Indiana Jones, Before Sunrise/Sunset, Casablanca, Sunset Blvd, Pulp Fiction, Wall-E, Goodfellas, The Graduate, The Shining, Hoop Dreams, Studio Ghibli, Up Documentaries, M, Harold And Maude, Midnight Cowboy, House ('77), Ace In The Hole, The Apartment, Alien, The Decalogue, Being There, Treasure Of The Sierra Madre, Gone With The Wind, Dog Day Afternoon, American Graffiti, The Shawshank Redemption, Chinatown, Freaks, JFK, Junebug, Little Rascals shorts, The Naked City, Night Of The Hunter, Network, Warner Bros gangster pictures, Rules Of The Game, Rashomon, Sweet Smell Of Success, Swing Time, Who Framed Roger Rabbit, Withnail & I

TV: The Simpsons, Breaking Bad, Lost, Seinfeld, Arrested Development, All In The Family, Freaks And Geeks, The Bob Newhart Show, The Wire, Jeopardy, Justified, Louie, Community, Homeland, Parks And Recreation, Girls, Veep, The Larry Sanders Show, The West Wing, The Andy Griffith Show, Friday Night Lights, Frasier, Charlie Rose, Faerie Tale Theatre, The Golden Girls, Newsradio, Undeclared, Pee Wee's Playhouse, The Daily Show, Late Night with Letterman/Conan/Fallon, Deadwood, The Shield

Music: Bruce Springsteen, The Hold Steady, Loretta Lynn, The White Stripes, The Clash, The Band, Son House, Warren Zevon, Elvis Costello, Buddy Holly, Chuck Berry, Jerry Lee Lewis, Little Richard, Ted Leo And The Pharmacists, Arcade Fire, The Gaslight Anthem, John Prine, Weezer, Johnny Cash, Flogging Molly, They Might Be Giants, The Ramones, Nina Simone, Simon And Garfunkel, Madness, Roman Candle, T Rex, The Replacements, Steve Earle, The Kinks, Orange Juice, Jonathan Coulton, Janelle Monae, The Shaggs (if you're a fan of them, I'll pay for us BOTH on a date)

Food: Air popped popcorn. If that counts.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My immodestly awesome DVD collection


Access to good scotch (I rarely buy it, but I like having the option)

Friends that laugh at my jokes out of genuine enjoyment and/or pity

A calculator to remind me what the number 6 is
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Is my life real or is it a cliche? Am I living honestly or through contradictions? Can't the latters make me happy too?

Is God an active part of our lives, or is he like a genie with very strict rules who should rarely be bothered?

If my life is its own movie, as I often pretend it is, what is the box office like?

Is it too late to wash my hair today? (often I hope the answer is yes)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In some order: drinking with friends, watching TV, watching movies, eating, alienating friends, making friends, sleeping, showering, opening Christmas presents (this only applies if the Friday is Christmas)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My personality is stolen and cultivated from so many sources, I've lost touch with the 8 year old Korean girl I once was.

In middle school, I bought a Backstreet Boys album. It was from a store two towns over where no one would see me, and I kept it in a small box buried in my closet.

Often I click star ratings if I'm too lazy to send a message at the time. And I filter someone's sex questions first. I assume you do the same.

If you bought your dog from a breeder, I will quietly judge you.

If I ask you how your day was, 75% of the time I don't care.

In hindsight, I shoulda named my OkCupid handle Kobayashi Maru.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You're ready for a night of fun, excitement, and picking up after yourself! And be funny. And nice to strangers. And unafraid to be offensive. Shyness is charming. And please don't be a hipster. Hipsters wear t-shirts meant for Sunday school girls that got mixed up in the mail. Don't be that.

If you can explain the ending of TRADING PLACES.

If you can name every Pixar director and/or can geek out over Bruce Springsteen/Martin Scorsese/Breaking Bad, you jump to the top of the pack.

Are you my density?

In short, the economy might not be in our corner, but hopefully the Invisible Hand can move U and I together in the dictionary!