I spent the last few decades trying to figure out how people can live significantly longer and better. I study many different fields related to life extension. At this point I don’t think there is anything dramatic a single person can do to increase species longevity. Science and society may advance enough in the coming decades to allow significantly longer life spans but I no longer feel it is my personal responsibility to make that happen. It’s not that I care any less. I still want to live as long and as well as I can and do what I can to help other people. But a given person can only do so much. Freed from the pressures of saving the world I think I will have more time to enjoy life and perhaps get more done. I want to streamline and simplify my life so that I have more time for the things I want most.

Since this is a dating site I’ll talk about love early on. I have loved and been loved by several wonderful women. I don’t know if I am polyamourous, prefer serial monogamy or just haven’t gotten involved with the right person yet. I am a loyal friend and I like to maintain friendships with my past lovers. Probably I have not spent enough time dating and getting to know a variety of women. I do think I have a fairly good sense of what I want at this point but I enjoy women and I like to explore life.

If this is the only life I am going to live and if my own passions may fade in a few more decades I want to experience more romantic and erotic love. I want poetry, adventure, and experimentation. It would be deeply satisfying to find a person or people who can appreciate and and return my deep feelings, energy and creativity. It's also nice just getting to know more interesting and attractive women.

So… I’m also a practical person. Maybe I would be better off to find some hobbies and call my love life good enough. There are many ways I could live my life and a lot depends on who I meet. Ideally I want a passionate relationship that goes on forever. One person is enough but I don’t object in principle to multiple lovers, polyamory, shorter term relationships, etc. For my current lover I want what she wants and what any new lovers want. I know I want more passion. I don’t mind trying to keep multiple people happy. I don’t mind open relationships but I don’t require them. I could offer more details but that’s probably enough for a profile.

I have some interest in children. I like children and think I would make a good father. But perhaps I would prefer to spend the time on science, politics, romance, travel, etc. I would like to spend more time around children to help me make up my mind but I think a lot depends on who I fall in love with, finances and other commitments.

So life is not all about sex and love. I’m not a three hour a day sort of person anymore (I actually don’t know what my natural libido is these days but I do like a challenge). I love movies and music. It’s nice to stay home and cuddle. I like nature and hiking. I love science. Arts. Politics. Parties. Mild intoxication (I actually like heavy intoxication but it’s bad for my health so I don’t do it). Role playing games. Computer games (but they are too time consuming to play solo). Martial arts. Sports. Travel. I have had hundreds of hobbies. I like to get deeply into something new for a few months and then move on (people hold my attention longer).

What else is good to know about me?…

I'm usually thinking and often talking about some grand question or other. In the past because I was covering new ground I spent more time writing and thinking than reading. No one was writing the books I wanted to read. Now that I think I have the general outlines of life figured out, I'm becoming something of a knowledge sponge but I still have a lot of my own ideas and I love a good discussion.

I am open minded. I like sensible, healthy behavior but I don't have a lot of unsupported preconceptions about what that means, especially not for other people. The universe is a chaotic place and there are no easy answers about how to live.

I can be pretty intense but I have mellowed with age. I used to be a poet and I still write poetry occasionally when inspired. In any case I hope my old habits of diving in and seducing are gone. I would much rather make friends and seduce someone I know fairly well. There is always plenty of mystery left once you come to appreciate a person.

I am fairly experimental. I want to sample all that life has to offer. But I am also fairly cautious. I have received enough hard bumps in life that the crazy daredevil impulses have been mostly trained out of me. Definitely still a high testosterone, alpha male, warrior, adventurer type but my brain seems to have a lot more influence over my body these days.

I like most things that people like as long as they are not especially bad for me. Lately I am interested in camping and hiking. I recently bought a minivan for camping. I like the idea of setting myself up for a fairly portable lifestyle and then taking a lot of trips.

Lately I have been spending a lot of time on Okcupid, thinking about dating and women. The past year I spent a lot of time buying and selling houses and learning green remodeling. The past few decades I spent a lot of time studying health, longevity, philosophy and sciences.

What I care about most is a wide variety of experiences and learning. I especially like people and sciences. Like most values, mine are best accomplished with a long, healthy life, lots of skills, friends, resources, etc. I have spent most of my life thinking about longevity, causes of problems and possible solutions.

What I have worked on recently or plan to work on soon is, my love life, simplifying my life, learning more about health, theoretical physics, martial arts and dancing. My main career interests are improving other people’s health, productivity and enjoyment by providing information, coaching, products and tools.

Sometime in the coming years I plan to work on, memory preservation science, basic economics, military science, politics, travel, cultural comparison, artificial intelligence, intelligence augmentation and cognitive tools.

Recreationally I like events, conferences, movies, music, hiking, travel, parties, moderate intoxication, massage, sex, educational videos, art, cuddling, conversation, non fiction, science fiction, Burning Man, camping, etc.

Past hobbies include, role playing games, firearms, comics, biking, chemistry, kniky sex, fitness, computers, computer games, romance, poetry, photography, etc. I have taken about 13 years worth of college courses.

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• BettyBaker

I’m good at most things if I focus on them. I have a wide variety of aptitudes and interests which can make it hard to specialize in any given thing. I am far better than average at logic, analysis, creativity, introspection, affection, problem solving, psychology, organization, planning, many of my hobbies, nutrition, exercise, getting along with a wide variety of people, philosophy, etc.

I’m not especially good at routine chores, unfamiliar multitasking or putting projects aside to do something else.

That varies a lot and I haven't taken a survey.

Some people notice my confidence, awareness and friendliness. That happens more when I spend more time around people and physical activities.

Some people find me serious, distant and intimidating. That correlates better with when I have been doing solo intellectual work a lot and am lost in my own thoughts.

Some people pick up on my lack of judgements, thoughtfulness and generally friendly nature.

I'm probably most noticeable when I'm paying attention to people. "Mom, he's looking at me." I try not to make people nervous but when someone has my attention it's a lot of attention.

I like a wide variety of music, movies, books and food.

For food I like to keep my choices healthy but I will eat a little of most things. I like fancy restaurants, local treats and I sometimes like to cook. Pizza and cheesecake are yummy. I most often eat at Fresh Choice or Hobee's. Anyplace with lots of good vegetables is great but I can find sustenance most places.

I mostly read non fiction educational books. I occasionally read hard science fiction and just about anything good. Lately I have been watching a lot of educational videos instead of reading. I am a big fan of The Teaching Company. I'll try to recommend some books later.

I'm a big movie fan. I watch many of the well rated or popular movies. I watch a fair number of good older movies from Netflix. Also I watch some TV shows in bulk on DVD. I have a list of about 100 favorite movies for fellow movie buffs who care, but for this profile I'll choose just a few historical favorites. "Cool Hand Luke," "Blade Runner," "9 1/2 Weeks," "Heat," "The Cider House Rules," "Venus," "The 13th Warrior," "The Gods Must Be Crazy," "O Brother Where Art thou?," "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner." "Hotel Rwanda," "Farscape," and "Ironman."

I like a lot of music. It tends to be the more popular or critically appreciated stuff within each genre. I probably would like a lot of your favorite music. I'm trying to make a hobby of appreciating music since music has always been an easy source of joy in my life. Mostly I listen to Pandora.com these days. Some mix of old favorites and looking for variety. Currently I am listening to heavy metal and female vocalists. I like a lot of the songs but I don't have favorites yet. I'll try to list a representative sample of favorites later. A list of all the music I love would be quite a project.

Learning.
Love.
Health
Novelty.
Challenge.
Freedom.

Longevity.
Physics.
Politics.
Finance
Philosophy.
Health.
Women.
Movies.
Psychology.
Houses.

Working, watching an educational video, watching a movie, at a party, at a lecture, cuddling, etc.

I really don't differentiate between weekends and weekdays much. I try to take one day and two half days off a week. I manage about half of that. I try to take a long weekend and go somewhere every month or two. I want to take a week off several times a year, more if there is something very interesting to do.

When I get my basics and commitments a little better organized I plan to take a lot of time off for a few months or years.

A dating site already encourages more openness than is normal with strangers and I feel I am describing myself fairly well. I tend to be somewhat reserved with strangers and quite open and accepting with friends.

But in the spirit of the question, I sometimes worry that I will never find what I am really looking for romantically.

I may list myself as bisexual. I am not strongly attracted to men but I would not rule it out entirely. Mostly it is a way to show political support and filter out people who are too uptight. I do like the idea of making more male friends and I would prefer they not be sexually rigid. If I decide I am quite bisexual after all I will be sure to let you know. It's mostly a matter of choice for me.

Lots of human interactions are worthwhile so I hate to miss out on good relationships by being over focused. I’m fairly friendly and fairly busy so if someone writes I’ll try to be agreeable. Mostly on OKCupid I’ll be writing you first so you should write back if you think we can spend some relatively worthwhile time together. I do or I wouldn’t have written.

This seems like a good place to talk about what sort of people I like most and what I am looking for on Okcupid.

I tend to like open minded, live and let live sorts of people. I like smart people especially if they have common interests and values or at least don’t seem dangerous. I enjoy spending time interacting with attractive women if they are reasonably friendly and intelligent. My ideas of attractive are broad but not uncommon. With interaction I find most people beautiful so I tend to think about what is sensible for serious relationships. I like people who take care of their health, develop their personalities and are living interesting and productive lives. I like people I can learn from.

Mostly I am on Okcupid because I want more sex, love and passion in my life. I don’t object to brief casual relationships in theory but mostly I think about long term relationships. I suppose I am looking for something like a mistress, a primary erotic partner or a fourth best friend and partner. Someone who likes a variety of travel styles, concerts, festivals, cultures, topics and sexual explorations. Martial arts skills, a calming personality and common sense are pluses. A strong interest in health is important. I’m patient with people who have potential. Not everyone will recognize themselves in my description so perhaps it would be fun to just talk for a while.

That is a, perhaps too direct, description of what sounds most appealing to me but good is good and I am open to possibilities. Conversation, massage, hiking, movies, music, lectures, etc. with good company are welcome, even if you are not my dream lover.