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31 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 25–38
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 11:17am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
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I'm tall and substantial, physically and otherwise. Artistic, sensitive, silly, and loving. I practice yoga and eat vegetables and chocolate. Not exclusively, and usually not together.

I just moved to Oakland! (October) and I'm so excited to meet people and get the lay of the land.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I was most recently a 7th grade Special Ed teacher in a Chicago Public School and am now moving on to the next phase. I spent my 20s as an actor, singer, writer, arts administrator, waitress, barista, figure model, assistant, after school teacher, early childhood music teacher, yoga instructor and temp, and then I taught full time for two years but decided that the classroom is not where I belong. I've come to realize that my strengths lie in relating to kids in a social/emotional context and I am contemplating my next move toward that end.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
My friend Rebecca asked me for help drafting a letter of condolence the other day. "You're good at this sort of thing," she said. Who knew?
"Some people have a way with words. Some people...not have way." - Steve Martin

I'm strong, so I'm good at opening jars and moving heavy objects for my friends. Don't worry, boys. I still need your help (she said, batting her eyelashes) Some of you will likely be disappointed to hear that no, I will not beat the shit out of you. Sorry.

I can be a bit of a social butterfly, so I'll say that I'm good at working a room.

I love to sing and I'm getting better at playing the guitar - definitely looking to make more music in my life.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People: I love your hair! Do you get that a lot??
Me: Yes, thanks!

People: How tall are you???
Me: 6'1!
People: Wow!
Me: Yeah!

For the record, this sort of attention does not bother me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: History Of Love, The Hunger Games, Anna Karenina, Principles of Uncertainty, No One Belongs Here More Than You, The Girl in the Flammable Skirt (titular line!), The Metamorphosis

Movies: Waiting for Guffman, Best in Show, Spinal Tap, The Princess Bride, Amelie, Planes, Trains and Automobiles, Edward Scissorhands, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Fight Club, Pan's Labyrinth, Singin' in the Rain

Shows: The Mindy Project, The Wire, Breaking Bad, Parenthood, 30 Rock, Six Feet Under, Parks and Rec, Arrested Development, Dexter, My So Called Life.

Music: I like a lot of sad, moody music. Elliott Smith, Bon Iver, Fiona Apple, The National, Tracy Chapman...
Also not sad music: Stevie Wonder, James Taylor, Carole King, Ella Fitzgerald, Adele, The Cranberries, Hall and Oates, Regina Spektor, The Beatles, Bonnie Raitt, Stevie Nicks

Food: I'm not big on meat (the kind you masticate and digest), but I'm not a forever vegetarian. (Currently, I am a vegetarian). You probably won't ever see me order a steak, but During certain phases I may take a bit of yours and chew it for approximately 5 minutes with a confusing look on my face. I like to eat beans and veggies. I LOVE cheese and bread, but I try to limit my intake. I also have a sweet tooth. Or maybe a few. It's true. I haven't met a cuisine I didn't like.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Nature (water, trees, fresh air)
Loved ones
Something to work towards
A different perspective

That's all I got for now.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to achieve balance in my life, and the many avenues through which it can be pursued.
How we are all so different and so much the same, and how confusing that can be.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating something, doing something, then going to bed.

But I mean - new city, new patterns. Maybe in Oakland I will be doing something, then going to bed, then eating something. Who knows??
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm working on The Artist's Way and I like to talk about it.
You should message me if
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You're interesting, kind, thoughtful (as in, full of thoughts) attractive and funny. You're not afraid of feelings. Or maybe you are, but that doesn't keep you from feeling/thinking/talking about them. You're trying to be and do better. You're ready and looking for a partner that you can truly know and be yourself around. You want to share yourself, and be shared with.