I am a single father of an “X” year old boy named Aeron (X = present date – April 8, 2011). His mother and I are still really good friends, and we still do different activities together as a family, though that is a story for another time I suppose. All I will really say for now is that she and I are very content with ourselves and with each other, and are in no hurry to get into any sort of relationship like that again anytime soon. This is mostly due to just having ended our relationship, but also more due to the fact that we each still need time to discover more about who we really are, individually.
As far as what I am looking for, I would prefer just finding friendly acquaintances, who share in my love for intellect and thought provoking conversation. When it comes to making new friends, I welcome all walks of life. If, however, the relationship would go beyond just friendship, I am going to need to be right up front and say that I am looking for someone who meets very specific criteria. Some may accuse me of being shallow, however it is in the best interest of all parties involved that we not waste our time getting into a relationship that would ultimately not benefit either of us.
I need someone who is family oriented, so it is important to me that you are interested in, or at least open to the idea of, having children and being a mother. There is no rush to make such a decision, as I have already stated that I wish to be friends first, though at the very least I would hope that the idea not be vehemently opposed.
It is important to me also that you have a healthy measure of self-worth. What is meant by this is that I need someone who is more often optimistic rather than pessimistic, has an internal locus of control (i.e. recognizes that one's own choices and actions will affect the outcome of a given situation), doesn't have too many insecurities, and is physically, mentally, and emotionally healthy.
Beyond this I only have some minor preferences: I would like it if you did not smoke, drink alcohol, use profanity (as often as it can be helped), have vulgar attitudes and behaviors, and finally are able to be completely yourself despite all that has been mentioned above. If you do not feel that this is a possibility for you, then I hope you are able to find someone who is better suited for you. Otherwise, I would love to hear from you if you feel that you are compatible with what I am looking for. Again, though, this is in the event that our relationship would go beyond simple friendship.
If I did happen to get into a romantic relationship again someday, I would want it to be something that happened naturally. I know it is cliché to say, but I would want to have developed a strong friendship with the other person first, while not having any sort of expectations about where that may lead in the future. As far as what would qualify a potential partner, I am looking for someone who shares very closely to my core beliefs. I will not take the time to explain them in full here, as I would rather develop a relationship first where each of us has the ability to open up and share our most profound world views.
Don’t be alarmed, however, by core beliefs I am not saying that I am religious or anything. At least not in the sense that I believe in something so strong that even simple logic cannot convince me of the truth. Though, I do have deep philosophical beliefs that drive me to want to be able to better understand the way the universe operates and functions, and what my role in it might be. I enjoy being able to share my beliefs with others, and to hear what they believe as well. If there is anything that you want to talk about, just ask.
One final note about myself is that I may appear very cold and calculating on the surface, but once you get to know me better… well, I am still very cold and calculating, though I also have a very warm and loving presence (or so I've been told). When and if I do get intimate with someone (in the romantic sense), I very much enjoy cuddling, face petting, and just talking about life in general.