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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 36-50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 8:40am
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Average build
Doesn’t have kids and doesn’t want them
Has dogs
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In bullet form, digestible style, here's some fun facts about myself:

I don't leave people feeling threatened.

I live in the Manhattan equivalent of Canada.

I own thirteen pairs of prescription glasses (including sunglasses); it's a minor indulgence.

I live with PSD or a pretty small dog as he's sometimes known. We live alone, without roommates, but that doesn't mean we can't be lived with.

I'm kid tested, mom approved.

I use "I" a lot here but don't like to.

I sell things on Etsy if that tells you anything about myself.

It's not the first date that makes me nervous, it's the end of the second date when it finally becomes apparent that there's no chemistry.

I love playing Scrabble.

I like shiny, slick new-fangled things as well as weather beaten old things.

I find crispy apples are more preferable to mushy, sweet apples.

I fear that I may be a manic nihilist but I don't think that I care that much. Meh.

I enjoy cooking and entertaining.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Constantly working on the next big thing. Crossing state borders by bike.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Catching your eye and piquing your attention.

I'm really good at making meals and writing letters. If you're into being the recipient of both of those things, you just might be in luck.

I have the uncanny ability to tell if somebody is from Brooklyn or Manhattan simply by looking at their profile name.

Being able to talk to anybody and anything about anyone and anything.

Thinking about ridiculous things but not always following through on them.

Playing records for people on the radio. Really, it's not as easy as it sounds because, well, you have to sound good doing it. But now I'm bummed since moving and have to figure out a new way and place to do radio if anybody will let me. Will you let me? Please? I promise that I play nice with others.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I'm a good conversationalist, but that doesn't mean you can tell that by looking at me. So maybe that's the second or third thing that people that notice. The jury is still out on the first thing, but I imagine it would be something superficial.

Nobody has ever said that I'm dreamy. Just a hint if you want to win me over. Go ahead. Tell me I'm dreamy.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
There's too many books to list but I tend to alternate between non-fiction and various forms of fiction. A lot of the books I own have pictures in them but that doesn't mean I'm not well read. If there's a better thing to get in the mail than my subscription to McSweeney's Quarterly, could you please tell 'em about it? I also like to cleanse my mind in between heavy handed books with comic books. A cleansing balance is good.

I finally have fixed my record shelves and they no longer bow under their own weight. Boy, is that a load off my mind.

Here are some LPs from 2015 that I've listened to at least five times so far: FUZZ "II", Drinks, "Hermits On Holidays", Shamir, "Ratchet", Sleaford Mods, "Key Markets", The Body & Thou, "You, Whom I've Always Hated", XYZ, "XYZ". And as always, WFMU. I'm also really excited about the new Missy Elliott number.

I like movies. All kinds: short, long, animated, horrifying, anger-inducing, imaginative, fanciful and even those that are primarily dialog driven.

I really like cooking. It's great to be back in a place with a gas stove and away from the horrors of cooking with electricity. The only food I can categorically eliminate from my palate is raisins. Raisins. Yuck. I have the ability to eat from a plate, but when cooking for myself at home, a majority of meals are eaten out of bowls. Process that info as you see fit.

If you ever have the opportunity to ask me what my favorite olive is, I would tell you that it's a good cerignola. The olive buckets at Fairway are my happy place.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm not going to reduce important things to a checklist. You can't play me like that, OKC.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Whatever happened to the art of the dirty limerick?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Getting pumped for something awesome within the next 48 hours. Or drinking sangrias with reckless abandon and having mofongo in my neighborhood during an extended happy hour. It usually involves treating myself to somebody else making me a meal. It's the minor indulgences that make life special, right?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Yeah, you caught me looking at your profile photos. Don't get me wrong, I'm not just judging you on your appearance, but I'm looking closely at your background surroundings too. Also, I'm looking at your answers to the questions on sex. It's fascinating. Just being honest here. So what are you going to do about it?

More and more "athletic apparel" is creeping into my wardrobe. Don't get me wrong, I'm no jock but jogging and biking in your boxers is a surefire way to create some uncomfortable bunching in all the wrong places.

I grew up listening to Prairie Home Companion with my dad. Now I regard Garrison Keillor as the devil, but not a cool version of the devil.

I really like going to baseball games, but I really hate having to sit through "God Bless America." Don't get me wrong, I like America just fine, but I really don't give a rat's ass what God does with it especially when rendered in song.

Also, I'm a pretty clean person but it takes me a disproportionately long amount of time to put my laundry away. Don't get me wrong, it gets put away, but I get easily distracted in the process.

It's quite possible that I have a mild internet addiction. Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking at copious amounts of porn, just high end furniture that I'll never be able to afford.

More often than not, when walking by the subway, I find the smell oddly comforting and familiar. Don't get me wrong, not the gross smells, but there seems to be something that says "hey, this is the way home."

I think I just overshared.
You should message me if
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You should message me if you don't have any bumper stickers on your car. A decent taste in fashion and an appreciation of the absurd will only garner you bonus points. Point deductions will be made for an appreciation of renaissance faires, steampunking, the Dave Mathews Band and use of the phrase "I love all kinds of music except for (fill in the blank)." Point deductions will also be made for self portrait photos that show off your phone.

If you think spending Monday shopping at Fairway sounds like a good time.

If you think that going to Trader Joes's on a Saturday afternoon to watch misbehaving children knock over the jam display while parents try to ignore the whole scenario is fun.

Deal breakers include the following:

Not bothering to pick up your bedroom/closet/laundry room if that's where you decide to take your full body shot. I see the mess that is your life and will judge you accordingly.
Wearing sleeping pants to the supermarket.
Sweatpants that say anything on the butt, or any sweatpants for that matter (I will however make an exception and award bonus points if your sweatpants say either "post no bills" or "ask me how to advertise here"). Use of the phrases "nom nom nom", "noms" or "vegan noms"; it's food for adults, not strained peas for babies that you should be eating if you want to hang out with me.
Making a duck face. Why do people pucker their lips in an unflattering manner? What do they hope to achieve?
Not knowing your "your" from your "you're"s or even your "yore."

Please message me if you can articulate an argument against anything I've said here. I'm open to negotiations, but you've got to make a good argument. Few have tried and they all have failed.

Also realize that I find the long form, essay portion of these profiles to be more important than the multiple choice sections.

If you can explain the current geek/nerd chic. When I was a nerd/geek, I was ostracized on a regular basis. Glasses and digging the new Dr. Who don't make you geeky, just trendy. Come back and talk to me after being terrorized for not being "mainstream."

And here's another also: most women seem to think that flag burning is more offensive than book burning despite the fact that flag burning is an accepted way of disposing of old flags. If you can articulate why you think that burning books is better than burning flags, I'd love to have you explain that line of thinking to me. Really.

We may match on percentile points according to OKC rules of conduct, but those kind of binary questions don't really mean a whole bunch. Like most tests, the essay portion counts more and has greater weight than the multiple choice section. Telling me more about yourself will tell me more than if you've checked off the boxes for smoking and flag burning. Maybe these things make me too picky, but I'm willing to stand by these statements, mainly because they're true.

You don't need to be a total narcissist but is there really any reason why you can't come up with the maximum allowed ten photos?

I'm flexible on a lot of the survey questions here if you can make a case for or against anything that checked off. Go ahead and try me.

Oh, and hey; if you "like" me and I don't respond, it's because I can't see you. Yeah, I know I could pay for that privilege, but why don't you reach out instead? I mean, this is a free site after all, please don't make me pay to satisfy my curiosity.

This is the part where I make the disclaimer that if you've read this far through, regardless if anything resonates with you, you should drop a line.