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51 M Drexel Hill, PA

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5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Graduated from university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Has cats

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My self-summary
I am looking for a 'Michelangelo relationship' ... being with someone who can 'fill your gaps' (as Rocky said) and help make you the better person you want to be.

I think I share a very nice trait with women ... I grow more attracted to them the more time I spend with them ... in the end the wit, intelligence, support, etc. is going to win not just the day, but the years.

• Losing weight but have a great energy level for a 51 yo. (To help lose weight I walk between 3 1/2 and 7 miles a day. Sometimes (it's got to be cool and breezy!!) I'll supplement that with some tennis. It is absolutely remarkable, even surreal, how the food cravings disappear when you severely reduce the addictive foods from your diet. For the first time in my life I have no problem not eating at night. That's a big deal.)

• Witty on occasion. For example at the market the cashier asked if I wanted a fork for my take-out. I said only if you buy me flowers and chocolate first.

• (true story) ... I wanted to startup a senior citizen dating website in the 90's...

... I am not, nor have ever been, nor will ever be... a scammer, a cheater, am nuts, or request financial support. I drive... a nice, newer model car. My height is honest (5-8) and my photo is accurate (though now two years old I was told yesterday I'm far better looking than the photo… Good!)
What I’m doing with my life
What I'm doing, now better than ever, is changing...better tools and actions to match my vision and reality - having it all, health, money, family (feeling wanted and making someone feel wanted).
I’m really good at
Doing the right thing
Being willing to change / Taking Coaching / Learning
Loving cats - I had three cats but only my darling big boy Hammerhead remains. He proves to me my capacity for love.
Sharing wonderful links... here's one...
The first things people usually notice about me
Eyes, hair, face, smile, kindness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Guide to Selfish Love (Ellen Kenner) and anything about Behavior Management, Relationships, Happiness.

Baggage Reclaim (relationship site)
PlentyofFish - the discussion forums are excellent... 17 pages of people discussing if friends first every really works. I think it's about 60/40 No/Yes ... I think it's the best way to go. What do you think?
TED (talks...about behavior change)

Shawshank, Cabaret, Cinema Paradiso, Amelie.

West Wing, DeadWood, (first three seasons of) MadMen, BreakingBad, old Hollywood Squares (Paul Lynde, genius), Barney Miller, Alfred Hitchcock Presents (c. 1955) (Alfred being what's worth watching at the beginning and ending)

Light classical, Byran Ferry/Roxy Music, Samuel Barber, the 80's, Boards of Canada, St. Vincent, techno-ambient, Beatles/McCartney, Washed Out, and anything melodic by Rush for working out.
The six things I could never do without
Human touch, cats, 8 hrs. sleep, Fall, bacon, garlic, the feeling of belonging, al dente kissing, hot showers on cold and dark days (and candles if we match), naps, work, running… And dare say it, broccoli. My least favorite vegetable has now finally become my favorite. That's some effective behavioral change right there.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Staying focused on my weight loss goal - down 50 lbs. (doing about 1200 cal a day and walking 5, 6 or 7 miles a day). fantastic!
... finding better, more satisfying ways, to reach goals, helping care for my mother. Building the skills of meaningful relationships.
The psychology of skill building. Don't get me started on feedback loops, cognitive dissonance, and everything else involved with demystifying what really it is to be.
On a typical Friday night I am
Working or working out...I don't have a set day off... this week it was Wednesday (cause it was 80 with low humidity).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I often feel entitled and I feel liberated knowing it because I can turn it off when I see it. Men aren't entitled to sex (for example).
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–60
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
- Pursuing happiness is important. Happier people don't steal kill, start wars etc.
- You understand the value of an individual practicing religion even though you may have complaints about organized religion.
- You can tell me your favorite pre-1970 TV shows (and perhaps even why)
- You think the following is one question a woman on a dating site could ask a man when first connecting online (or how it could be improved).

It's certainly not guaranteed but it certainly establishes where your thinking is. Anything other than zero ... get details.

What is the SUM TOTAL of the number of times:
- you've asked a woman for money ... loans too
- you've put your hands on a women without her permission or request - including times you 'think she was leading you on'
- months you've been married and not living with your wife
- months you've not owned a car or not had a drivers license
- number of prescription medications you've taken in the last five years.
- number of days detained on charges in the last five years
- number of felonies and misdemeanors