Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
The OKC staff has asked me, and many other people, to act as
moderators. We submit our written opinions as to whether or not
user names, narratives, photos, etc., are appropriate for this
It occurred to me, that deleting inappropriate material from many
profiles made those objectionable or vile people appear to be good
and safe dates. So, I stopped moderating.
All of you must be, and must remain, aware that well meaning
moderators have cleaned the profiles of unacceptable people making
them appear to be desirable as boyfriends and girlfriends.
So, here are some clues to the persons boyfriend or girlfriend
If people do not make an effort to do the relatively easy and
simple thing of presenting good first and second images, then they
will not make an effort to do the relatively difficult and complex
thing of being a good boyfriend or girlfriend
The first image must be a clear; not concealed by glasses, hat, or
scarf; head and shoulders portrait, that shows all of their face.
The second image must be a clear and clothed, but not concealed,
head to feet photo that shows the figure and poise.
People who refuse to do this will refuse to be good boyfriends or
girlfriends. They will always insist on having their way instead of
acting the right way.
Use my first and second images as guides.
There is much more, but the gist of it is self management. If one
person tries to manage the other, then that is dominants and
dominants destroys love, friendship, and passion. Managing yourself
creates love, friendship, and passion.
Do not ask me for more information on this topic. I am retired from
all psych efforts. Good luck to all of you.