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42 F Portland, OR

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 28–48
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 12:12am
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly), German (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Tomboy femme...
Old soul (I know I know...but it's true) who embraces life like a kid.

I am mostly interested in creating mischievous fun mostly with active and adventurous women who like to play, talk about deep stuff with levity, engage in witty repartee, move their bodies (bonus points if you dance, surf, paddle or play ball) and who are as open as I am to not knowing where this is going...

Archer? Music making collaborator? Dreamy...come play...

Garden/green/permaculture/outdoor/native/ocean/water/wildcrafter/burgeoning archer/flower whisperer...
You too? Come play...

And, important to know:
I am PERPETUALLY the last (wo)man standing at a party, on the beach, on the dance floor...and I'm not kidding...while still able to get up early for life the next day...persistently longing for true partners in crime who can keep up...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
learning, exploring, playing, loving, raging against the machine, making music, traveling, gardening, parenting beautiful curly haired children (that you will most likely never meet), paddling, surfing whenever possible, working as an agent of change...finding new ways to move my body...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Wearing boots...maintaining optimism...making sense of complicated concepts...seeing through (not baking)...flower arranging/gardening...cracking jokes at inappropriate times...being direct...singing, especially the Stevies...easing awkward moments...wearing vintage slip dresses...being flexible under duress...taking risks...remaining open and self-aware...traveling...driving with speed AND skill...owning my own temper tantrums and managing my defensiveness, basket weaving, mental toughness, systemic thinking...big picture dreaming...kissing...did I mention dancing?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Rare to meet a book I don't like: Jitterbug Perfume (scent is everything!), Ecoptopia, The Red Tent, anything by Isabel Allende, Like Water for Chocolate, A New Earth, The Four Agreements, Poetry (Rumi, Wendell Berry, Andrea Gibson, Mary Oliver, Hafiz), Mists of Avalon; Animal, Vegetable, Miracle; A People's History of the United States; Michael Pollan of any kind; Pema Chodron; belle hooks; Rewild or Die or anything by Derrick Jensen...etc

Baraka, The Big Lebowski, Jesus Christ Superstar, I heart Huckabees, Say Anything, Malena (Monica Belucci...mmmnnnn), Anchorman, Miss Represented, Princess Bride (of course), educational and documentary stuffs, no brainer action/adventure, movies with armageddon/apocalyptic themes...Battlestar Galactica...don't contains deep political and gender themes...mmmnnn...mostly important to know that I mostly see movies as an escape (preferably a BEAUTIFUL one...but in a hands over my ears, eyes closed, singing la-la-la kind of way) from the intensity of my work/life, and rarely (though I never say never as evidenced by Baraka and Malena) choose to watch movies with much is deep and thought provoking enough...

When I'm not listening to NPR? Anything with strong/heavy bass!!! I like most music except trance/electronica, pop country and bubblegum pop and find it hard to like most things missing vocals...excluding classical (love that)...L7, Sleater Kinney, Screaming Trees, The Be Good Tanyas, Louder than Love Soundgarden, Morcheeba, Brandi Carlisle, Lucinda Williams, Pixies, Gillian Welch, Kings of Leon, Gypsy Kings, Lauryn Hill, Raphael Sadiq, Koko Taylor, Susan Tedeschi, Bhangra Hip Hop (!), Sam Cooke, Aretha, Stevie Ray, Stevie Wonder, Bonnie Raitt, Lovage, Trombone Shorty, Marvin Gaye, Rolling Stones, old Heart, Prince, MJ & JT, etc.

I love most foods...including vegetarian and vegan dishes...The only foods I abhor are lima beans, black licorice, beets, boiled unshelled peas (fresh snap peas...yum!), brussels sprouts! almost forgot how much I hate brussels sprouts and don't tell me you can make me like 'em based on your fancy many have tried and so many have failed...overcooked meat, and fake fake butter...what is that shit?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
You know by now I can't do this, right? here's my best attempt:

humor/quick and witty repartee
Whole fruit popscicles
wait, more...books...
oh and Guava Burt's Bees...
oh and my legs and the ability to use them (have I mentioned my love of dancing?)
oh and these ...

My dog and kids are as essential as water and reason to list's a given...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Hell...I just spend a lot of time thinking. Period.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Should I just say what all else do? "There is no typical Friday night…"

Or shall I actually give you something?

It's more likely you'll find me dancing, runnin' a quick trip to visit my sit spot in PAM, grabbing a drink with a friend, gardening, hot tubbing or paddling in the's a kid-free night, so I try to pack it in!
You should message me if
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If you appreciate sarcasm...if you can challenge my thinking...if you can hold fire...if you can allow yourself to bend before you break....if you can cut a rug AND other people regularly confirm this...if you wanna meet me in a club/bar bathroom somewhere for a fierce make out...if you want company at a Thorns game...if you can shout "vagina" in public without blushing...if you aim to respect/love your body as much as you love your mind...if you're willing to try ANYTHING at least once...if you like to wrestle and I'm not kidding...if you care more about your self than what others think of your self..If you have emotional intelligence...if you can impress me with your survival and/or building skills/tricks and indigenous knowledge...if you can handle fabulous singing at loud volumes at random moments...if you have a life you want to share rather than want to make me your life...and, if you surf, snowboard, paddle, hike, dance, ride, travel...regardless of how much of the above applies!

Actively seeking more queer partners in crime...whatever that means to you...just come play!