It is an arresting moment to sit down with the intention of writing
a "self-summary" and draw a complete blank -- this shouldn't be so
hard. I could be jokey and amusingly sarcastic (as I am prone to
be), or attempt deep and thoughtful (which is where it looks like
this is headed), or just go for bland and generic (which may be
unavoidable). Probably I'm giving this too much thought, but that
may be my signal characteristic - I'm extremely and incurably
curious, about almost everything. I can find almost anything
interesting, and I love to learn new things and share them with
other incurably curious people. On the downside, the sheer volume
of my interests probably makes me a dilettante, but on the upside I
can at least carry a conversation on almost any subject (ok, except
sports teams - I can't actually name a single Red Sock, which I
presume is the singular of Red Sox, and if it isn't it should
I ended up as a corporate lawyer after planning to be a violinist,
studying at Juilliard and all, then a brief foray into medical
school. I'm still a musician at heart, and fortunately my job still
allows me to have enough of a life that work is not all-consuming.
I love to play piano and guitar, go to hear concerts of almost any
kind, and just drive around listening to good music. I love movies,
and reading, and I'm a major foodie and can't turn down a new
restaurant or exotic dish. I can happily wander around a museum or
gallery for hours, or play pool at a dive bar, or go ziplining in
Costa Rica, which is to say I try to be open to as many new
experiences as I can be.
Having reread what I just wrote, it sounds pretty pretentious. I
would rather just say I'm a laid-back, fun person, I try to be kind
and I have more empathy than is probably good for me, and I'm a
huge romantic (as cliched as that sounds). If any of this piques
your interest, I'd love to hear from you.
What I’m doing with my life
I try to avoid musing on existential questions before lunch, so
I'll just say I'm trying to enjoy life and have no regrets for the
parts I don't.
I’m really good at
Conversation, playing piano and guitar, being easy to be around.
Conversely, I'm not a master at "business gathering-style" small
talk, and I'm impressed by those who are.
The first things people usually notice about me
I have no idea and I'd prefer not to guess.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Russell Hoban, Samuel Beckett, Neruda, Joyce Cary, James Joyce,
Derek Walcott, Bach, Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan, the Books, Radiohead,
Stravinsky, Sun Kil Moon, Bjork, Jeff Buckley, Chopin, Robyn, Nikka
Costa, Sigur Ros, Martin Sexton, John Coltrane, Balkan Beat Box, TV
on the Radio, Under Byen (I listen to a lot of indie and esoteric
music), Giacometti, Rembrandt, Giotto, Kandinsky, Klee, Klimt,
Kokoschka, Odd Nerdrum.
As for favorite foods, I'm omnivorous. (I almost wrote oviparous,
but I don't want to put all my eggs in one basket.)
Movies -- I love all sorts of movies, and favorites makes a better
dinner conversation than a blurb here, I think.
The six things I could never do without
My family, my close friends, the idea of my next travel
destination, music, NPR, and my irrepressible hope.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
What to think next. Planning my escape. What WAS Willis talkin'
about? What Scooby snacks were made of, and why you can't find them
in stores anywhere. How the hell did I GET here? Hummina-hummina.
Trying to remember the name of the girl in 3rd grade I was SURE I'd
be married to by now.
On a typical Friday night I am
I'd prefer not to have a typical Friday night, which is one of the
reasons I'm giving this a shot in the first place.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I wish I had made more effort to maintain friendships when I was
younger, because it turns out to be a lot harder to make new
You should message me if
You have the rare gift of seeing past an admittedly vapid profile
and want to get a sense of the person underneath.