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Fly-Firefly

47 M Saint Louis, MO

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 7
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Education
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
In the "Breakfast Club" of life, I'm mostly Anthony Michael Hall.
I try to throw in the occasional head-fake in the direction of Judd Nelson, but I'm not fooling anybody. If you're familiar with the series "Firefly" (the source of my profile name), I'm Wash, the dependable-but-not-battle-hardened, slightly goofy, good guy from that series.

Let's get the deal-breaker out of the way, shall we?
I'm married (to Rockasally on here) and we're polyamorous. I don't cheat, and I don't lie. If you have trouble wrapping your head around that, we're probably not a good match. The bottom line is that we've been married for 14 years, we're crazy-stupid in love with each other, but we don't keep each other on leashes. Well, okay, there WAS this one time that involved a leash, but we were drinking, and…

So... about me. Well, I like old movies, good books, Tim Minchin, girls in stripey socks, the oxford comma, and serendipitous bag fries. I know a little bit about a whole lot of things, and a whole lot about just a few.

There are two quotes that sum up how I try to live my life.

"Shared pain is lessened, shared joy is increased. Thus do we refute entropy." - Spider Robinson

"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion, butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders, give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." - Heinlein

You'll find me often at burlesque events, south city music venues, hanging in The Grove with friends, or working behind the counter at Shameless Grounds, the business I own and operate with Rockasally.

When it comes to matters of the heart, I'm an open book. You can ask me anything - and if you're unsure of anything, or don't understand where I'm coming from, *please do* ask.

For the most part, I am a "take things as they come" kind of guy. That means, if you're just looking for a platonic friend, I'm all good with that. If there is chemistry between us, but no desire for a relationship, I think I'd make a pretty good "friend with benefits". And lastly, if you're looking for a serious, long term, loving relationship, I'm open to that possibility as well.

(Edit added 5/11/14 - I'm finding that even though I'm open to a serious long term relationship, having a full time job, a wife, and a girlfriend consumes enough of my time and energy that I don't think I would be able to give a new serious relationship the time and attention that it deserves. And if I care about you enough to be considering a serious relationship with you, the last thing I want to do is shortchange that relationship. So, for the moment at least, I come with the caveat that interaction with anybody new is best left at the friends or friends-with-benefits level. I'll change or remove this note if that caveat goes away.)

So there you have the bullet point summary. We can work out the underlying details as we go along. :-)
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Spreading caffeinated love, good food, acceptance and honesty to the huddled masses. Well, trying to, in my own little way, anyway.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Chopping mushrooms. Seriously. I can chop the HELL out of a mushroom. You should see me. Little bastards don't stand a chance.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
You know, I have NO idea. My red hair maybe?
My pointy goatee, probably? (They tell me that it's actually called a "Van Dyke", but I just say "pointy goatee" and skip the part where I sound snooty for saying, "It's not a pointy goatee - it's called a VAN DYKE, okay?!")
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Hmmm... les'see here....
Books: James Herriot's "All Creatures Great and Small" series is a perennial favorite. Most of Spider Robinson's stuff. Christopher Moore's stuff.

Movies: The original "Star Wars". (Han Shot First!) "Dead Poets Society". And a guilty pleasure one... Prince's "Purple Rain". Yeah, I'm so never getting a date now.

Shows, Music, and Food: I'm lumping these together. My tastes range WILDLY. I can't name favorites. Favorites would require me to specify a mood, or a mindset, and I'm not gonna let you fence me in like that. We've just MET, and already you're trying to pigeon-hole me! Well, I'm not going quietly.

Honestly, when it comes to food, I like a dirty-water ballpark hot dog, upscale sushi, Kraft Macaroni and Cheese, Veggie Lo Mein, and the Prime Rib at Kreis' on Lindbergh. If it doesn't move or fight back, I'll probably eat it.

In music and shows, my tastes are similarly varied. I like Chopin, Frank Sinatra, Lady Gaga, Rachmaninoff, Harry Connick Jr., Gogol Bordello, and Otep.

Some might call me scattered. I like to say that I enjoy a variety of experience.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Dogs
- Books
- Friends
- A sharp knife (Relax! I'm not a serial killer. Remember the mushrooms? Yeah. Like that.)
- Writing
- Pho and Cafe Sua Da. (That's two things, but I always have them together, so deal.)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Work. (Curse of the small business owner.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Wasn't the admission that I liked Prince's "Purple Rain" enough?
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
My poly/open relationship status doesn't freak you out, and you're looking to be friends or more with somebody who has a good mix of maturity and youthful zest-for-living going on.