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31 / F / Straight / Single
- Last Online
- Aug 27, 2013
- 5′ 7″ (1.70m)
- Body Type
- Masters program
- Relationship Type
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Polish (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)
Waitress at a vegetarian cafe, student, volunteer, Advocate in training for DoVE, Rotarian, writer, artist, musician, gardener, tinkerer of things that need tinkering, and all around cool ass chick.
I'm pretty much willing to explore any avenue of thought or action that might redefine personal, professional, emotional, or psychological boundaries.
Movies: The Intouchables (French), Safety Not Guaranteed, and Seven Psychopaths are what I have seen recently.
Television: New Girl, House of Cards, Downton Abbey, Grey's Anatomy, Duck Dynasty, Destination Truth, Ha. Yeah, I know. i also kinda love Twin Peaks.
Music: Sigur Ros, Velvet Underground, My Chemical Romance, Harry Belafonte, Buckwheat Zydeco, Minus the Bear, Woody Guthrie, Pink Martini, Wanda Jackson, Drop Kick Murphy, The Shins, The Dandy Warhols, Tom Waits, Real Big Fish, Me First and the Gimme Gimmes, The Doors, Prince, Devo. Gershwin, The Traveling Willburys, Little Band of Gold, Deftones, MXPX, Violent Femmes... The list goes on and on.
Personal Theme Song:The Rubberband Man by The Spinners
Food: Yes, please.
........ I'm hungry.
The human condition.
Talkin bout soul shine, better than sun shine, better than moon shine, damn sure better than rain.
- Guys who like girls
- Ages 25–35
- Located anywhere
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
I am a woman of action, and hope you are a man of action. If you want something, you reach out and grab it. I respect people for being fearless, and engaging. If you want to know me, then know me. Its really very simple.
Here are some TIPS in navigating whether a chick is legitimately interested, and how not to lose that interest.
Profile views: (no matter who views first)
1x means curious
2x means interested
3x means you better do something about it. Like email her.
There won't be a 4th. Unless she is stalking you.
When it comes to emailing/IMing; we as women expect you to take initiative.
Let me rephrase that, we don't expect YOU to do anything- but we hope that the man of our dreams would, (which is who you want to be, right?).
Once you have decided to contact her: Start by sending a message that is confident and mildly flirtatious, but don't come on too strong- or be too vague. By 'too vague', I mean don't send a message that limits you to a one word answer.
Her: She already thinks you're a creep, and probably only mutters under her breath while she proceeds to block you.
Ask her something from her profile. Be excited and engaging.
You:Wow! How was it to volunteer in Nepal? What was your favorite experience while you were there?
Her: It was amazing. I got to work at an orphanage and it totally changed my life. Witnessing an adoption was pretty powerful, espec.... blah blah blah blah hook-line-and-sinker.
One of the worst things you can do is rattle off your stats. you know what I mean. "Hi, my name is Paul. I am 6'2'' and 197lbs. I work as a pharmacist and enjoy long walks on the beach. etc etc." I can't say how many times people have sent this to me, and how instantly I began to yawn. If you have filled out your profile appropriately, then any woman worth investing time in will find these things out about you by actually looking at your profile.
Also, please, Please, PLEASE, stop saying things in your first email (or ever, unless you are close to/ in a committed relationship) like, "I'm looking for the woman of my dreams" or "I think you and I will have beautiful children" or even, "I can tell by reading your profile that we will have an amazing connection that will last forever." UH. Live in reality, right here and right now. Don't spend so much time fantasizing, and spend more time shaping your life into what you want it to be through your own personal actions in regards to YOUR life as it is right now. This is how you cultivate and project confidence, by truly being content with who you are, and where you are in life RIGHT NOW.
I mean it, no matter how well intentioned you may be- talk to her like you are talking to a friend you haven't seen in a long time. Be genuine and interested, but have boundaries. You take these steps, and you'll find the right girl for you :)
Note: Email/IMing does not show someone's true personality. Exchange maybe 2-3 emails/ea, or 1-2 IM conversations, then ask for her number. DON"T TEXT HER. You have already been emailing/IMing for a week. Call her- keep the convo under thirty minutes. Text her a day or two later to say hello. Call her again and make plans for a date.
If you spend more than two weeks emailing and talking without bringing up meeting, (unless this is a long distance situation), then you might be dead out of the water. Don't allow too much time for either of you to fantasize, this only leads to a higher potential for disappointment upon meeting.
I should also mention, that I am currently not dating anyone new, seeing as I met someone back in March. I'm happy to help you, or answer questions- but I have all the romance I need right now! Best of luck!
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