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46 F San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 39–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Sep 2
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Sentimental smartass, sort of nerdy, love my iPad and my fountain pen with equal passion. I was raised in the Midwest, spent the first half of my adult life in New England, and got to San Francisco just in time to watch the first dot-com boom go bust. I adore this city in particular and cities in general — the outdoors is great, but let's make it a park rather than a wilderness trail, yeah?

I prefer relationships to flings, and I'm definitely not wired for one-night stands, so if you're looking for a booty call, keep looking. If you're still with me so far, though — I don't expect you to waste hours in a bookstore with me, but do appreciate a ride home when I come out with a heavy bag. And while I won't join you running a marathon or riding a century, I will meet you at the finish line with an enthusiastic smile, and probably a snack.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm several different flavors of writer, for a living and for fun. I also take pictures, but that's mostly a hobby.
I’m really good at
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Writing and drinking coffee, sometimes even at the same time!
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm short, and I'm not afraid to be a dork in public.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a voracious reader, leaning more toward non-fiction. I love movies from Casablanca to Captain America. I haven't had a working TV in a decade but I'm a huge Sherlock fangirl. I have tickets to see Bastille later this year and Hamlet (in London!) next autumn. I eat just about anything.

The list of things I like is long and eclectic. It's actually easier for me to list what I dislike: Ayn Rand, horror flicks, Fox News, death metal, and (shudder) runny egg yolks.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
something to write on/with
my favorite pair of jeans
backup drive (learn from my mistakes, people!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
British actors.
Things that make me blush while I'm riding the bus.
What exactly OKCupid thinks makes people my "enemy."
My next cup of coffee.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably either having a cocktail with friends or browsing at Green Apple. Wouldn't it be great if bookstores had cocktail nights?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm happily childless by choice.
You should message me if
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You relish the slow burn of getting to know someone you find attractive.

You have a big...vocabulary.

You live in easy reach of mass transit. (I don't own a car any more, so if you're way out in the 'burbs, we're not a good match. Not being in the Bay Area at all is a dealbreaker. Unless you're in London. I love London.)

You don't have kids, or your kids are well into their teens and you don't want any more.

You're smart, funny, kind, responsible, and won't get between me and my coffee.