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Fontessa

45 San Francisco, CA Woman

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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 38–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:53am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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There's no point trying to be clever or convince you not to move on to another face. Photos (and other "vitals") are a major selling point in this medium, and, though I'm a bit of a hopeless romantic, I'm a realist when life demands it. Cutting to the chase makes the most sense in this context.

I value my independence, but my future experiences would exponentially improve with a empathetic, playful, curious man beside me. My needs are simple but important. You believe in "the kindness of strangers"; you take care of yourself; you read; good food matters; you are open, honest, and mindful. You don't mind my occasionally bathing with all my clothes on.

I've been fortunate. I'm close to my family, and we're all still here, healthy and hopeful and interested in each other--with some dysfunction thrown in for good measure. I like nice things, like everyone else, but I'm a teacher. No materialist here. I'll drive my car till it's ready to be put out to pasture. I'd' much sooner spend my money on food or travel, not stuff.

Exploring, creativity, and traveling are essential pieces of any relationship I will have. That doesn't mean I only connect with people whose professions are in the arts. I am an equal opportunist. Many things fascinate me. How else am I going to see the world? I can't live any other life than the one I've made for myself, and, though I have some ambitions, such as publishing my YA novel, teaching is the career for me. I'm very okay with that, too. I love being in nature, whatever that means. (Hiking is a must.)

If you are bothering to read this, you probably already know what you like. I'm not for everyone. But, I'm a giving and passionate person who believes myself to be a work in progress. I love the vulnerability that comes with a close relationship. There's always a risk, but sometimes that risk pays off in tremendous dividends.
What I’m doing with my life
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Teaching, learning, playing, creating--all of which are not mutually exclusive.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making eye contact with dogs
being inspired
adjusting to changes
straying from recipes
empathy
The first things people usually notice about me
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"We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Mexican, Thai, Sushi...a weakness for a good hamburger
Ted talks
Music: everything from Andrew Bird, to Ella Fitzgerald, to Jack White, to Hank Williams.
Dostoevsky, Zadie Smith, Cormac McCarthy, Wallace Stegner, Franz Kafka, Flannery O'Connor, Elizabeth Bowen, Michael Cunningham, Italo Calvino, Ian Mcewan, Elizabeth Bowen, Faulkner, Dickens, and Shakespeare, and on.
"Breaking Bad," "The Wire," "South Park," "True Detective," Stewart and Colbert. PBS. I do have slumming moments when I'll watch anything that is a crime or detective series. If a "foreign" film makes it over to the U.S. then it has to be decent, so I'm always up for those.
Coens, Hitchcock, Preminger, Almadovar, Allen...to start. A few of my favorite contemporary movies: "Election," "Memento," "Donnie Darko," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "Field of Dreams," and "Mulholland Drive."
Old movies --especially from the 70's, 30's and 40's-- I'm always interested in seeing ones I missed because I happened to born in the wrong decade.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
What if?
Family
teaching/learning
Hope
NPR
New York
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Probably a story I just listened to on NPR.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying the end of a full week--in whatever way the moment dictates or suggests.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a spy.
You should message me if
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something I've said excites or resonates with you.