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45 F San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 8
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Will you be willing to walk into a dive bar with me and dance even if no one else is? Will you hike with me? Can we talk politics? Will your dog like me? (Of course he will, and, no, dogs aren't required.) Could we go to a museum and walk in different galleries if we felt like it? Can we dismiss our and others' shortcomings and laugh? I am a passionate, earnest person, looking for a sexy 'best friend.' Like me, everyone is unique, with idiosyncrasies. I like that about people and don't believe in being set in my ways. My life is already good. And yet.

Being a teacher means I spend a lot of time with 11- and 12-year-olds. Let's just say that I haven't totally forgotten what it's like to be that age, the good and bad. Empathy is highly important in teaching middle school. So is an occasional "South Park" episode. One of their jobs, too, is to keep people like me on their toes. I'm grateful for that. They also remind me how wasteful it is to take yourself too seriously. Bursting with ideas and hilarious lines, thankfully, they haven't figured out how to camouflage their true selves yet. Each day, I'm humbled. I take inspiration from their model. I love teaching. Creating, exploring and traveling are also important.

Exploring, creativity, and traveling are essential pieces of any relationship I will have. Currently, I'm working on a final draft of a novel and beginning something new. The writing won't consume me, but it's a good challenge. I'm always up for those. But, really, life's too short to sit in front of the computer for hours on end. I love being outside. I hope you do, too. I'm not a busy type, and don't go in for that because then I seem to miss out.

There's no set recipe for what I want--only that qualities such as openness, curiosity, compassion, and humor are vital traits. Being positive and smart are not mutually exclusive either. I'm partial to strong hands and creative minds; I admire men who take risks but don't only live in the moment, who contribute positively to society in some meaningful way, whatever that might be. Emotional security matters, too, of course. I could go on, of course, but I'll bet that you can fill in the blanks, based in what I've told you so far.
What I’m doing with my life
Teaching, learning, playing, creating--all of which are not mutually exclusive.
I’m really good at
making eye contact with dogs
being inspired
pushing myself
showing off my dimple
Enjoying a commute to Marin each day
being uncomfortable with this prompt
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Mexican, Thai, Sushi...a weakness for a good hamburger
Ted talks
Music: everything from Andrew Bird, to Ella Fitzgerald, to Jack White, to Hank Williams.
Dostoevsky, Zadie Smith, Cormac McCarthy, Wallace Stegner, Franz Kafka, Flannery O'Connor, Elizabeth Bowen, Michael Cunningham, Italo Calvino, Ian Mcewan, Elizabeth Bowen, Faulkner, Dickens, and Shakespeare, and on.
"Breaking Bad," "The Wire," "South Park," Stewart and Colbert. PBS. I do have slumming moments when I'll watch anything that is a crime or detective series. If a "foreign" film makes it over to the U.S. then it has to be decent, so I'm always up for those.
Coens, Hitchcock, Almadovar, start. A few of my favorite contemporary movies: "Election," "Memento," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "Field of Dreams," and "Mulholland Drive."
Old movies --especially from the 70's, 30's and 40's-- I'm always interested in seeing ones I missed because I happened to born in the wrong decade.
The six things I could never do without
What if?
Dried apricots
New York
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Probably a story I just listened to on NPR.
On a typical Friday night I am
Enjoying the end of a full week--in whatever way the moment dictates or suggests.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
that I'm not positively impressed by this question.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
You should message me even if you've had a good date recently.