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45 San Anselmo, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 38–56
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 2
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Aries, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I'm not slick; I'm not earthy. There's a place in the middle where I sit. So many things already make my life rich and fun. I have a fulfilling job, good friends, an intellectual life that pushes me. An empathetic, playful, curious man beside me is missing though. My needs are simple but important. You take care of yourself and are okay with others taking care of you; you read; good food matters; you are open, honest, and care about stuff. You either love to cook or you love that I will cook for you; you like to be outside. You know a good thing when you see it.

I'm fortunate. I'm close to my family, and we're all still here, healthy and hopeful and interested in each other--with some dysfunction thrown in for good measure. I like nice things, like everyone else, but I'm a teacher. No materialist here. I'll drive my car till it's ready to be put out to pasture. I'd' much sooner spend my money on food or travel, not stuff. Dogs and dancing…well, there are a lot of things I love. There are many things I want to try.

Exploring, creativity, and traveling are essential pieces of any relationship I will have. That doesn't mean I only connect with people whose professions are in the arts. I am an equal opportunist. Many things fascinate me. How else am I going to see the world? I can't live any other life than the one I've made for myself, and, though I have some ambitions, such as publishing my YA novel, teaching is the career for me (middle school English and history). I'm very okay with that, too. I love being in nature--especially hiking.

If you are bothering to read this, you probably already know what you like. Curious men are often sexy men. So are people with a generous spirit. I'm a giving and passionate person who believes myself to be a work in progress. I love the vulnerability that comes with a close relationship. There's always a risk, but sometimes that risk pays off in tremendous dividends.
What I’m doing with my life
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Teaching, learning, playing, creating--all of which are not mutually exclusive.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making eye contact with dogs
being inspired
adjusting to changes
straying from recipes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Mexican, Thai, Sushi...a weakness for a good hamburger
Ted talks, NPR
Music: everything from Andrew Bird, to Ella Fitzgerald, to Jack White, to Hank Williams.
Dostoevsky, Zadie Smith, Cormac McCarthy, Wallace Stegner, Flannery O'Connor, Elizabeth Bowen, Michael Cunningham, Italo Calvino, Ian McEwan, Faulkner, Dickens, and Shakespeare, and on.
"Breaking Bad," "The Wire," "South Park," "True Detective," J.J. Abrams. PBS. I do have slumming moments when I'll watch anything that is a crime or detective series.
Coens, Hitchcock, Preminger, Almadovar, start."Dog Day Afternoon"; "Election," "Memento," "Donnie Darko," "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind," "Field of Dreams," "Amadeus"; "Mulholland Drive"; "The Best Years of our Lives."
Old movies --especially from the 70's, 30's and 40's-- I'm always interested in seeing ones I missed because I happened to born in the wrong decade.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Family and friends
peanut butter and milk
(I could go on, but do you really care?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Some question I won't ever have an answer to
My students
What to eat and how to get it
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Enjoying the end of a full week--in whatever way the moment dictates or suggests.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I usually think photographs of me make me look a lot less attractive; hence I don't like posting them!
You should message me if
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something I've said excites or resonates with you.