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32 Brooklyn, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 23–38
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 11:36am
Heteroflexible, Bisexual
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body type
Mostly other
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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A few words I have used to describe myself in the past include nerd, musician, loyal, sarcastic and social. Maybe that will help? Actually I feel like that doesn't really say anything at all. When I first view someone's profile, I sort of vet their relevancy based on the "favorites" section. Then, if I like what I see, I go back and read the rest. I've found that section seems to be far more important to men than women, though.

I'm still somewhat new to the city, but I've finally got things together here, and I'm on my feet and stable! Only took 18 months. Also - after nearly a decade, I am finally out of the hospitality business. If I never have to bring someone a refill of their water again, I think I can die happy.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I just took a 45% pay cut to change to an industry and environment I find more interesting, and to gain something as intangible and useless as self-respect. Prior to that, I had taken about a 30% pay cut for ethical reasons. If money is a main motivator for you, we can still hang out, but we might not have a future together.

Right now? I'm trying to make my way in a new field, so I can have jobs I'm not embarrassed to admit to. Also, changing my lifestyle to something a little more healthy. Most recently, I started bike commuting, which is a major change all on its own.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- Communicating. Both in writing and aloud.
- Singing. Or so I'm told. I'm a firm believer that this is something you can't gauge yourself.
- Computers and electronics. If your computer can be fixed, I will fix it. I have no education in this field, but I was good enough at it that I get paid to do this now.
- Not getting offended. Don't censor yourself. It's almost impossible to bother me.
- Being stupidly long winded when it comes to writing. Like this profile. Or any message you might get from me.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm kind of hard to miss. I'm somewhere around 6'3" or 6'4", I have a large bone structure, I'm overweight and I have broad shoulders as well. If you're behind me at a show good luck seeing anything.

I recently got back from Japan, and my friends found it hilarious to take photos of me failing to fit into buildings, public transportation, and doorways with low-ceilings or minimal leg-room. I found it less hilarious spending an hour trying to decompress my neck and spine every single night.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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a) "1984", "Nine Stories", "Life, the Universe, and Everything", Complete Works of Flannery O'Connor, "Song of Solomon" (the Toni Morrison novel, not the biblical thing), "The Fountainhead", "Welcome to the Monkey House", "Watchmen"

b) Let the Right One In, The Orphanage, Pan's Labyrinth, The Shawshank Redemption, Hoshi no Koe, Shaun of the Dead, Perfect Blue, Big Trouble in Little China, Collateral, Spirited Away/Princess Mononoke/Howl's Moving Castle, Serenity, American Beauty, Falling Down, Little Miss Sunshine, The Prestige

c) I will literally listen to almost anything, and the genres I listen to vary wildly. Here are a few artists I really like - Crooked Fingers, Bad Religion, The New Pornographers, The Gaslight Anthem, The Go! Team, Neko Case. You can get a more in depth look at music taste at

d) Sushi, dim sum, Mexican, spicy food. I loved Indian when I first moved here, but I got sick of it in a hurry. Now it's a sometimes food. I have a weakness for a good deli sandwich with oil and vinegar.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Music
2. Communication
3. Stimulation
4. Isolation
5. Socialization
6. A good pillow
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I'll do next. I was fortunate enough to sort of wind up in New York by accident, so I need to figure out what to do with this boon.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?

*Getting trashed on liquor and NyQuil and ordering a keytar on
* Getting lost in west midtown whilefinding a geek-inspired burlesque at 1am
* Drinking liters of premium ale at the Biergarten
* Attending a rooftop movie screening at a building full of film students
* Throwing a themed costume party
* Singing terrible homemade karaoke with my roommates
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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It's recently been pointed out to me that I'm waaaay more of a geek than the rest of my profile might imply. I'm a thirty-year old man who plays video games, reads comics, watches a cartoon now and then, and, yes, has been known to attend the occasional session of Dungeons and Dragons. After years of going through periods of trying to be cool, pretending not be into nerdy stuff, hiding it, and whatever else I've pretty much decided that my geekiness is never going away. Thus, if you're interested in anything more than a very short-term relationship, you should at minimum be okay with nerdy dudes, and ideally be into geeky stuff yourself.

I, uh, try to be GGG and I think it would be cool if my partners could be, too.
You should message me if
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If you're thinking about doing it, think no longer! Go for it.

If you play video games, weird board games or read comics - why aren't we hanging out right now?