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Last online
Nov 20
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5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
My self-summary
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Ex-academic, compelled by art, science, performance, analysis, dance, criticism, aesthetics, theater, eroticism, friendship, and love. The nicest compliment a friend once gave me: "There's nothing you're not interested in."
What I’m doing with my life
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I recently finished a three-year stint in corporate America, designing / producing internet gambling games for a software start-up. Am now working on my second and third books: a murder-mystery and a volume of political humor. Also learning JavaScript and Lindy Hop. I try to keep busy.

Am in a long-term relationship with a life-partner. We've had romantic and non-romantic phases, as well as platonic and non-platonic. (The two are not always correlated.) We live apart, but will likely live together again. I've had other lovers in the past; she has other lovers now. One has become a good friend of mine. There's space for most anything to develop, but that's the framework in which it may happen.
I’m really good at
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Backgammon. No, really. My first book covered how the game has changed in the computer era. I regularly travel across oceans for tournaments. I'm ranked in the top 64 in the world. It sounds like hyperbole, I know. But I'm pretty good at backgammon.

I'm freakishly good at recognizing celebrity voice-overs, like John Hamm doing that car commercial, or John Lithgow doing the great Colbert political ad. I'm sure the CIA could use me but I have better things to do with my time.

I'm an excellent teacher. I've taught many college classes (Negotiations, Decision Theory, Statistics), tutored SAT math, reading, and writing, and given an awful lot of backgammon lessons. I genuinely enjoy teaching. I get puzzled and occasionally frustrated when people have knowledge and skills that they don't want to share with me.

I can juggle five balls. I can play "A Case of You" on the guitar. At one time I was a competition-level pool player, which means I can effortlessly beat anyone that hasn't put in a year or two of concentrated study, but will probably lose to anyone that is currently in shape. (If you happen to be interested, I can help transform your pool game to the next level and beyond. Teaching pool is great fun.)

This winter I got a lot better at snowboard jumps. I really want to get good at Lindy Hop.

I like to think I'm good at romantic relationships.
The first things people usually notice about me
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When I was on the East Coast people saw me as the crazy counter-culture guy who gambled on games, saw too much theater, explored states of consciousness, and was not primarily motivated by career issues. Now back in SF, I'm the guy who likes wearing button-down shirts. Context is all.

No one ever suspects that I'm Jewish by heritage. My mom would say I have a Jewish attitude, which was about the extent of my religious-cultural upbringing.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The New Yorker
Glenn Greenwald
Sandman (Gaiman)
Mating (Norman Rush)
Salinger's short stories
The Robber Bride (Atwood)
Tales Of The City (Maupin)
The Lathe of Heaven (Le Guin)
Stories Of Your Life And Others (Chiang)

Where the Wild Things Are
Exit Through The Gift Shop
Archer (so wrong!)
Six Feet Under

Savage Love
This American Life
WTF (with Marc Maron)
Pop Culture Happy Hour

Real Tuesday Weld
Aimee Mann
Joe Pass

Cobb salad
Steak tartare
Bacon and avocado omelette
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Footwork and musicality. Someday, I wish to dance like this.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exploring crazy art on the deep playa with friends, hitting a rave on the 9 o'clock plaza, paying my last respects to the Man before he burns. (Well . . . typical for the first Friday in September.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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You should message me if
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You believe you have free will, and find me appealing.
Or . . . you believe you do not have free will, and are helpless to stop yourself.