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43 Naperville, IL Man


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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 5:04am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Spanish
My self-summary
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THEY ALL LAUGHED WHEN I SAID I COULD FIND LOVE ON OKCUPID! I scanned profile after profile with no response, until after many years of searching, I discovered the secret of DATING SUPERTECHNOLOGY! Now, the ones who turned me down are LITERALLY BREAKING DOWN THE DOOR! READ ON TO LEARN THESE FORBIDDEN SECRETS!
What I’m doing with my life
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I grew up in Pennsylvania. Then I lived in Seattle for a long time. Now I live here. I have an acupuncture practice and make art. I volunteer, meditate, stay fit and eat right. I've been exiled in the suburbs for awhile (too long) but will soon be moving to the city.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
being a human. Don't get me wrong, I've made plenty of mistakes and still make them, but I've managed to not make any huge ones for awhile and seem to have learned something. I've actually managed to do a few things I'm proud of and other people appreciate as well, so there's that.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I generate a sense of excitement by TYPING IN ALL CAPS!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books I've read recently: Southern Reach Trilogy by Jeff Vandermeer, Maddaddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood, The Misfortunates, The Circle by Dave Eggars, also Your Fathers They were Prophets, Telegraph Avenue, Center of the Cyclone by John C Lily. Also lately, Bootstrapper, Shotgun Lovesongs, True Grit. Usually read 5-10 books/month.
Movies I've seen lately: Nashville, The Long Goodbye, Medium Cool, The Friends of Eddie Coyle, La Vie de Boheme, Kurisowa's Proletariat Trilogy, 2 lane blacktop, Killing of a Chinese bookie. I like movies usually in inverse proportion to the amount of computer graphics, fast food tie-ins, and action figures they contain. I like black and white, cinema verite, noir, femmes fatale, and screwball comedy. Anti-heroes not super heroes.
I listen to a lot of podcasts, mostly the C-realm, Buddhist geeks, extraenvironmentalist, strong towns, etc. I used to like WTF but got a little tired of it. I listen to Joe Frank on Sunday night.
TV: Haven't watched network or cable at home in over 20 years. Still, the zeitgeist manages to seep in somehow and despite my efforts I know what Duck Dynasty is.
Art isn't a category here (which is telling) but it's vitally important. I like so many artists, but some favorites are Bosch, Breughel, R Crumb, HR Giger, Syd Mead, Alex Grey, Jr Slattum, and so many more.
I make most of my own food from scratch, I used to be a chef. I like going to farmer's markets and getting the goods and handling it myself.
Here's a question for you: if our personal tastes in music, literature, food and entertainment match, does that make us more our less of a match for each other? To the extent that our media choices shape our interior dialogue, does finding someone with similar influences mean you have a greater likelihood of getting your relationship needs met with that person? Maybe a better or more interesting, or more authentic approach is to ask what stories, or music, or shows, or food YOU have created, what dreams do you have?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Do you really care what consumer items I think I'm entitled to? I didn't think so. I'm old enough to have lived before iphones and the internet existed, and things were pretty good back then, and you know, I LIKE coffee, but I could live without it. Wait, this is where we're supposed to bond over shared experiences, not wax philosophical? Uh yeah OK, coffee then, and yoga, and like some other hip, urbane stuff too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Permaculture, degrowth, conviviality, institutional inversion, voluntary simplicity and other unpopular and baffling ideas. NOTE: Maybe you've never heard of these things and feel intrigued enough to Google them. I know, it's not likely, but if you do feel free to discuss them with me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In this question, Friday represents the end of the week, presumably the cessation of work and the commencement of a period of freedom from a certain amount of responsibilities, and the opportunity to engage in recreational activities. For me, this time period begins on Saturday afternoon but my real day of recreation is Sunday. Saturday after work I go to a life drawing session if I can. Sunday I like to get up early, do yoga or some other form of exercise, then drink coffee and read the New York Times. Maybe I do some art or maybe visit a small, forgotten town, or some hidden corner of the city.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Despite the impression you may receive here, I am NOT jaded with dating or relationships, only with OKcupid!
You should message me if
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SO, did you read all the way down? Were you able to spot when I was being sincere, and when I was making a joke which will likely amuse NO ONE, NOT EVEN ME? What are the secrets, you ask? This information is TOO HOT TO HANDLE FOR PUBLIC VIEWING! Message me RIGHT AWAY, I can only share these secrets with a limited number of applicants (because then it won't be like, a secret).