44 Naperville, IL
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My self-summary
THEY ALL LAUGHED WHEN I SAID I COULD FIND LOVE ON OKCUPID! I scanned profile after profile with no response, until after many years of searching, I discovered the secret of DATING SUPERTECHNOLOGY! Now, the ones who turned me down are LITERALLY BREAKING DOWN THE DOOR! READ ON TO LEARN THESE FORBIDDEN SECRETS!
What I’m doing with my life
I grew up in Pennsylvania. Then I lived in Seattle for a long time. Took a wrong turn and ended up in the Chicagoland area. I have a natural medicine practice and make art. I volunteer, meditate, stay fit and eat right.
I’m really good at
being a human. Don't get me wrong, I've made plenty of mistakes and still make them, but I've managed to not make any huge ones for awhile and seem to have learned something. I've actually managed to do a few things I'm proud of and other people appreciate as well, so there's that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I generate a sense of excitement by TYPING IN ALL CAPS!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books I've read recently: Absurdistan, Trout Fishing in America, Super Sad True Love Story, Southern Reach Trilogy by Jeff Vandermeer, Maddaddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood, The Misfortunates, The Circle by Dave Eggars, also Your Fathers They were Prophets, Telegraph Avenue, Center of the Cyclone by John C Lily. Also lately, Bootstrapper, Shotgun Lovesongs, True Grit. Usually read 5-10 books/month.
Movies: Here's something about movies. When photography was first introduced, the avant-garde of the painting world reacted with cubism, as they felt painting could no longer compete in terms of reproducing reality. It was also of a piece with the early explorations of physics into the quantum realm. Now, CGI has become so adept in reproducing the fantasy world, I think making a movie that dares to explore the lives of ordinary people without CGi is once again a revolutionary act. The thrills that patience yields are far superior to instant gratification, in cinema and in life. King of Comedy, On the Waterfront, Naked Kiss, Inherent Vice, Uptight, Nashville, The Long Goodbye, Medium Cool, The Friends of Eddie Coyle, La Vie de Boheme, Kurisowa's Proletariat Trilogy, 2 lane blacktop, Killing of a Chinese bookie. I like movies usually in inverse proportion to the amount of computer graphics, fast food tie-ins, and action figures they contain. I like black and white, cinema verite, noir, femmes fatale, and screwball comedy. Anti-heroes not super heroes.
I listen to a lot of podcasts, mostly the C-realm, Buddhist geeks, extraenvironmentalist, strong towns, etc. I used to like WTF but got a little tired of it. I listen to Joe Frank on Sunday night.
TV: FUCK that's Delicious, Hamiltons Pharmacopeia
Art isn't a category here (which is telling) but it's vitally important. I like so many artists, but some favorites are Bosch, Breughel, R Crumb, HR Giger, Syd Mead, Alex Grey, Jr Slattum, and so many more.
I make most of my own food from scratch, I used to be a chef. I like going to farmer's markets and getting the goods and handling it myself.
Here's a question for you: if our personal tastes in music, literature, food and entertainment match, does that make us more our less of a match for each other? To the extent that our media choices shape our interior dialogue, does finding someone with similar influences mean you have a greater likelihood of getting your relationship needs met with that person? Maybe a better or more interesting, or more authentic approach is to ask what stories, or music, or shows, or food YOU have created, what dreams do you have?
The six things I could never do without
Do you really care what consumer items I think I'm entitled to? I didn't think so! Now that I think about it, this is kind of a reactionary answer. Although probably true. But OK, I really value art, or maybe I should say having an artistic perspective. Or a spiritual perspective. Or intellectual. Maybe just a well-developed and engaging point of view. Ok that's not a "thing" but it's something that makes things interesting and I can't really live without it and seek it in others.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to live a graceful life. Turning away from neoteny. Permaculture, art, psychonautics, old music, literature, and other pretentious and unpopular ideas.
On a typical Friday night I am
If you have reached the point in your life when Sunday morning is your Friday night, you will know what I am saying. Do you find strong coffee, followed by some form of intellectual stimulation leads to libidinous situations? Then you can dig it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I don't own a smart phone and plan to avoid it as long as possible. Don't get me wrong, I go online but I really enjoy continuous moments in real life.
You should message me if
It's a funny thing, but I've marooned myself in the suburbs, at least for the next 6 months or so. There is definitely an aesthetic here, which if you feel comfortable with, we are probably not a good match. If on the other hand, it makes your skin crawl, then we have at least one and probably more things in common. The urban milieu allows space for intellectual development and personal expression that is not completely consumer driven. Although, let's not kid ourselves, high finance is still at the root of everything. But urban spaces allow for conviviality and spontaneity of experience that is completely engineered out of the suburbs. So long story longer, I get along better with city minded people, but I find a lot of them have a psychogeographic barrier around the suburbs, and I can't say as I blame them. If you can pick up what I'm laying down, we're a match.

Do you ever wish you could meet someone you could have an actual, meaningful, conversation with? Or more precisely, maybe you are someone who reads a lot, and has a very highly developed and interesting interior world. Maybe you remember and miss the days when people had a measurable attention span. Or maybe you have heard of it, this mythical time when people looked each other in the eyes, and talked. To each other. With like, their voices. Maybe you thought it was just a legend. It's true. All of it.