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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30-55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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5' 11" (1.80m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English, Spanish
My self-summary
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THEY ALL LAUGHED WHEN I SAID I COULD FIND LOVE ON OKCUPID! I scanned profile after profile with no response, until after many years of searching, I discovered the secret of DATING SUPERTECHNOLOGY! Now, the ones who turned me down are LITERALLY BREAKING DOWN THE DOOR! READ ON TO LEARN THESE FORBIDDEN SECRETS!
What I’m doing with my life
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I grew up in Pennsylvania. Then I lived in Seattle for a long time. Took a wrong turn and ended up in the Chicagoland area. Will be leaving soon, not sure where (see below). I have a natural medicine practice and make art. I volunteer, meditate, stay fit and eat right. I've been exiled in the suburbs for awhile (too long).
I’m really good at
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being a human. Don't get me wrong, I've made plenty of mistakes and still make them, but I've managed to not make any huge ones for awhile and seem to have learned something. I've actually managed to do a few things I'm proud of and other people appreciate as well, so there's that.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I generate a sense of excitement by TYPING IN ALL CAPS!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books I've read recently: Absurdistan, Trout Fishing in America, Super Sad True Love Story, Southern Reach Trilogy by Jeff Vandermeer, Maddaddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood, The Misfortunates, The Circle by Dave Eggars, also Your Fathers They were Prophets, Telegraph Avenue, Center of the Cyclone by John C Lily. Also lately, Bootstrapper, Shotgun Lovesongs, True Grit. Usually read 5-10 books/month.
Movies I've seen lately: King of Comedy, On the Waterfront, Naked Kiss, Inherent Vice, Uptight, Nashville, The Long Goodbye, Medium Cool, The Friends of Eddie Coyle, La Vie de Boheme, Kurisowa's Proletariat Trilogy, 2 lane blacktop, Killing of a Chinese bookie. I like movies usually in inverse proportion to the amount of computer graphics, fast food tie-ins, and action figures they contain. I like black and white, cinema verite, noir, femmes fatale, and screwball comedy. Anti-heroes not super heroes.
I listen to a lot of podcasts, mostly the C-realm, Buddhist geeks, extraenvironmentalist, strong towns, etc. I used to like WTF but got a little tired of it. I listen to Joe Frank on Sunday night.
TV: FUCK that's Delicious, Hamiltons Pharmacopeia
Art isn't a category here (which is telling) but it's vitally important. I like so many artists, but some favorites are Bosch, Breughel, R Crumb, HR Giger, Syd Mead, Alex Grey, Jr Slattum, and so many more.
I make most of my own food from scratch, I used to be a chef. I like going to farmer's markets and getting the goods and handling it myself.
Here's a question for you: if our personal tastes in music, literature, food and entertainment match, does that make us more our less of a match for each other? To the extent that our media choices shape our interior dialogue, does finding someone with similar influences mean you have a greater likelihood of getting your relationship needs met with that person? Maybe a better or more interesting, or more authentic approach is to ask what stories, or music, or shows, or food YOU have created, what dreams do you have?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Do you really care what consumer items I think I'm entitled to? I didn't think so!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Permaculture, art, psychonautics, literature, and other pretentious and unpopular ideas.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
If you have reached the point in your life when Sunday morning is your Friday night, you will know what I am saying. Do you find strong coffee, followed by some form of intellectual stimulation leads to libidinous situations? Then you can dig it.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I don't own a smart phone and plan to avoid it as long as possible.
You should message me if
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Do you ever wish you could meet someone you could have an actual, meaningful, conversation with? Or more precisely, maybe you are someone who reads a lot, and has a very highly developed and interesting interior world. I don't have a smartphone. This means I won't be swiping Tindr while we're out. Maybe you are my age and miss talking to guys that actually have an attention span. Maybe you're younger and wonder what it's like to be out with someone who actually pays attention to you.
Also, I'm finally going to be able to leave in Illinois in the next year!!! Where to? I don't know. Some places I'm considering: Upper Peninsula, Oregon or Washington Coast, Upstate New York. Main things I need: water, forest, hills. I'll be selling my current business and buying or starting a new one. Have you ever wanted to own a cafe in Portland, Maine? Or a coffee shop in Astoria, Oregon? Or things of this nature?