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43 Naperville, IL Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
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Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
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THEY ALL LAUGHED WHEN I SAID I COULD FIND LOVE ON OKCUPID! I scanned profile after profile with no response, until after many years of searching, I discovered the secret of DATING SUPERTECHNOLOGY! Now, the ones who turned me down are LITERALLY BREAKING DOWN THE DOOR!
What I’m doing with my life
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I grew up in Pennsylvania. Then I lived in Seattle for a long time. Now I live here. I have an alternative medicine practice and make art. I volunteer, meditate, stay fit and eat right.
I’m really good at
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The first things people usually notice about me
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I generate a sense of excitement by TYPING IN ALL CAPS!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books I've read recently: Southern Reach Trilogy by Jeff Vandermeer, Maddaddam trilogy by Margaret Atwood, The Misfortunates, The Circle by Dave Eggars, also Your Fathers They were Prophets, Telegraph Avenue, Center of the Cyclone by John C Lily. Also lately, Bootstrapper, Shotgun Lovesongs, True Grit. Thinking about rereading some Tom Robbins to see it from the perspective of this point in life. Usually read 5-10 books/month.
Movies I've seen lately: Medium Cool, The Friends of Eddie Coyle, La Vie de Boheme, Kurisowa's Proletariat Trilogy, 2 lane blacktop, Killing of a Chinese bookie. I like movies usually in inverse proportion to the amount of computer graphics, fast food tie-ins, and action figures they contain. I like black and white, cinema verite,. I like noir, femmes fatale, and screwball comedy. Anti-heroes not super heroes.
I listen to a lot of podcasts, mostly the C-realm, Buddhist geeks, Gnostic media, Kunstler cast. I used to like WTF but got a little tired of it. I listen to Joe Frank on Sunday night.
TV: Haven't watched network or cable at home in over 20 years. Still, the zeitgeist manages to seep in somehow and despite my efforts I know what Duck Dynasty is.
Art isn't a category here but it's vitally important. I like so many artists, but some favorites are Bosch, Breughel, R Crumb, HR Giger, Syd Mead, Alex Grey, Jr Slattum, and so many more.
I make most of my own food from scratch, I used to be a chef. I like going to farmer's markets and getting the goods and handling it myself.
Here's a question for you: if our personal tastes in music, literature, food and entertainment match, does that make us more our less of a match for each other? To the extent that our media choices shape our interior dialogue, does finding someone with similar influences mean you have a greater likelihood of getting your relationship needs met with that person? Maybe a better or more interesting, or more authentic approach is to ask what stories, or music, or shows, or food YOU have created, what dreams do you have?
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Do you really care what consumer items I think I'm entitled to? I didn't think so. The only 2 things I really need are the serenity prayer and the golden rule.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Permaculture, degrowth, conviviality, institutional inversion, voluntary simplicity and other unpopular and baffling ideas. NOTE: Maybe you've never heard of these things and feel intrigued enough to Google them. I know, it's not likely, but if you do feel free to discuss them with me.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In this question, Friday represents the end of the week, presumably the cessation of work and the commencement of a period of freedom from a certain amount of responsibilities, and the opportunity to engage in recreational activities. For me, this time period begins on Saturday afternoon but my real day of recreation is Sunday. Saturday after work I go to a life drawing session. Sunday I like to get up early, do yoga or some other form of exercise, then drink coffee and read the New York Times. By this time, I am flying high on a melange of caffeine, endorphins, and liberal intellectual stimulation. If the weather is amenable, I head out for a hike. If not, I stay in and read or work on art projects. At some point, there will be a return to bed (I sleep through the long dark tea time of the soul), and after a brief respite, preparations for a Sunday dinner, a few drinks and maybe an obscure foreign film.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I've never taken a picture of my dinner and posted it on facebook.
You should message me if
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It's after midnight and you still haven't found what you're looking for.

12 years ago I moved to the suburbs of Chicago. BIG MISTAKE! I now have less than a year to remain here. I've tried to make the most of it, but I am not a suburban person. If you know who James Howard Kunstler is you know where I'm coming from. Don't get me wrong, the CITY is great but at this point in my life I'm ready for a change of scenery.

Now that I've managed to marginalize myself and alienate almost everyone else. Do you want to start living the life you want now or wait another 15 or 20 years? Do you prefer mountains, lakes, forests and wildlife to endless sprawl? Do you spend endless hours on researching various areas to relocate to? Would you like to move to a small town and start a holistic retreat center? A micro farm? A food truck? Some other kind of fun and sustainable local venture?

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