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42 M Chicago, IL

My Details

Last Online
Today – 1:17am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Spanish

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My self-summary
OMG, another weekend night and you're STILL on OKcupid? C'mon already, let's get off this thing and interact in meatspace, you know, real life! I am a good guy, I work hard, fulfill my duties, and respect others. I've worked for myself for 13 years and plan to continue as long as possible. I'm not interested in being a corporate drone or a mindless consumer. I am a good lover and a good friend. I can also play hard and be a fierce competitor. I'm open to new ideas and things but old fashioned and romantic in other ways. I am looking for a partner, not a one night stand please. Women and men getting together is crucial for the survival of the human race, let's do our part!
What I’m doing with my life
I grew up in Pennsylvania, lived in Seattle for 10 years, ended up here. Eventually I'll get back to the Northwest, for now I enjoy Chicago. I work for myself and the community. I have a natural medicine clinic and I make art. Integrating rational linear thinking and heart centered intuitive feeling. Every morning I ask myself how I can make today a great day, how can I make it the best day of my life, and give myself an answer.
I’m really good at
Looking for truth, thinking I've found it, realizing I haven't found anything and then starting over.
The first things people usually notice about me
I actually listen to what they say instead of using the time they are talking to think about the next thing I want to say!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Movies: Cassevetes, David Lynch, Coen Brothers, Woody Allen, Norman Mailer (he was a director in addition to being a writer) Robert Altman, Roman Polanski, Hitchcock, Almodovar, Fellini, Marx brothers, WC fields; mostly older black and white movies without too many explosions or computer graphics. I prefer Robert Downey Senior to Robert Downey, Jr.

Books: Books on spiritual development, leadership, art, science, philosophy, the occult, bodywork, and Mad magazine. When I was younger I liked Kerouac, Burroughs, Miller, Kesey, Roth, Heller, Philip K. Dick. I like John Michael Greer, James Howard Kunstler, Dmitri Orlov, Ivan Illich, Carolyn Baker, Barbara Ehrenreich. The last 2 books I finished Cosmic Trigger II by Robert Anton Wilson and Center of the Cyclone by John C. Lily. Spengler's Decline of the West. Charles Eisenstein.

Shows: No TV signal in my house but sometimes I get DVD's, It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia, Portlandia, Curb your Enthusiasm, Family Guy, if it's TV it's got to be lowbrow and crude. Anything evocative of the atmosphere and feeling of the Twilight Zone or Twin Peaks.

Music: Mostly podcasts, WTF, C-realm, Gnostic Media, Kunstlercast. I like Joe Frank, I tried Nightvale but couldn't get into it. Also jazz and blues of the 1920's. Some of the music of my youth includes: Dead Kennedys, My Life with the Thrill Kill Kult, Fear, Ministry, Mudhoney, Butthole Surfers, The Cramps, PWEI, Killdozer, Dandy Warhols, Fu Manchu, Bad Brains, Black Flag, Nebula, Motorhed, the Orb, Brian Eno, Talking Heads, Lords of Acid, Electric Wizard.

Food: Ok, I haven't said a lot about this topic and that is an oversight because this is important. I make most of my own food. Some things I like to make are Cuban style roasted pork (just like Paseo in Seattle if you know that), Chinese style beef noodle soup (not pho it has more chilies but pho is good too), Mexican style meatballs in tomatillos sauce, roasted beets and sweet potatos with balsamic glaze, Thai-type peanut sauce, all types of pickled peppers and vegetables, and many, many other things. Food is one of the most important parts of life and if you are afraid to try such "exotic" foods as sushi then let me say this is one very large set of experiences we are not going to be able to share. I'm having a hard time finding someone who is willing to try different places and things which makes me wonder how all these restaurants in Chicago stay in business! I'm going to try Longman and Eagle tomorrow, maybe I'll update this from time to time.
The six things I could never do without
Do you really give a damn what mundane consumer possessions I think I'm entitled to? I didn't think so! Confidentially, I'd like to carry my phone across middle-earth and throw it into that big ol' volcano, but, ah, you never know when some cute girl might be calling. Seriously, my happiness anyway comes from exploring the inner self, both of myself and other people. Anyway! After looking at dozens of profiles and realizing what kind of things people are actually into, here are 6 dealbreakers which guarantee I will never find love on OKcupid:

6) I brush my teeth, multiple times per day, and I also use floss.
5) I won't borrow your car and disappear for days at a time. As a bonus, I won't borrow money from you and spend it on meth, because...
4) I don't have a drug habit. Or a gambling habit, porn habit, or any other degenerate habits.
3) I have been employed and not living with my parents since I graduated high school.
2) I won't embarrass you in front of your friends and family, which means they will never ask you "Ugh, what do you see in that guy?" and...
1) You will never have to say, "Sigh. You just don't know him like I do."

I know, I may as well join the monastery right now.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Ok, I put that in for all of you who say you love sarcasm, you know who you are :)
Actually, I spend a lot of time thinking about the More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible.
On a typical Friday night I am
At this stage of my life, Friday night is not for me. Sunday is much more where it's at. I like to get up early, have coffee in bed listening to the radio for awhile, do some yoga and meditation, head over to the coffee shop and read the NY times, stop at the farmer's market, make lunch, take a little nap, get up and do some art projects, make some dinner, than kick back with a drink and watch a movie. If this appeals to you, you are a good match for me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I wish I lived in a 1940's film noir world, or maybe a screwball comedy.
The real thing I'm most willing to admit is I really like people and I really love women. I wish we didn't have to go through these ridiculous ordeals to get to know each other.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
It's after 12 PM and you're browsing profiles (yes I am talking to you)! If you are tired of guys who only want to sit around, watch sports, and never go anywhere different or try anything new! If you think being compassionate is cooler than being cool. If you have at least one outlet for creativity in your life. If you are ready to meet somebody who will treat you well. You prefer sociocracy to sociopathy. Obligatory corny life philosophy moment: Life is a race or a dance, I'm done racing and ready to dance!