I count community, healing, self-awareness, connection and love, education, justice and health amongst the most important in my life.

I grew up on the outskirts of a conservative city in Eastern Washington state, in a mix of rural and suburban. I'm reclaiming that about myself. No shame for being from the country! I'm making a shirt for myself says "Another redneck against racism."

I identify as queer and am attracted to many different genders and sexes. What's in someone's underpants isn't as important to me as who they are and what our dynamic is like.
Genderwise, I am usually perceived as straight up femme these days (very different from old days), but that's only on the surface. I identify as genderqueer and like to play with gender a lot. I'm in drag, regardless of the clothes/hairstyle/etc i'm rockin.
I haven't been monogamous for my entire adult life but I am exploring the possibility of being monogamous. I feel pretty up in the air about that right now. Also, my idea of monogamy is really complicated. For example, I have multiple deepdeep partner-like, often erotic and romantic friendships that I prioritize highly and would never give up for a person I'm dating, ever. My friendships are rarely considered "normal."

I am a deep thinker and feeler. I am always in love, I am always overjoyed, I am always heartbroken; this is very much how I see the world. There are *always* things to celebrate and there are *always* things to grieve. At every moment, the world is exactly how it needs to be at the same time that everything is completely wrong.

I am a really sexual, sex positive and kinky person.
I consider myself a radical, a feminist, and an anarchist but maybe not in the way you assume.

I am not into cults or following the "right" way to think and act, no matter who tells me I should.

I've lived and traveled around the world and those experiences have molded me.

I am in love with life and my life in particular. I feel so so fortunate to have had the experiences/friends/opportunities I've had.

Learning how to use power tools!
Falling in love with myself!
Doing an elimination diet!
Nurturing my artistic tendencies!
Following my dreams!

heh. Going on closebutnocigar kind of dates and then further specifycing my Okcupid profile?

Right now I'm all about living the best existence I can and treating myself and other people well. I'm into loving deeply, building community and expressing myself artistically. My priorities for my life right now are continuing my self-education plan (there are so many things to learn!), figuring out what my next 5-10 years are gonna look like in terms of job/education, and digging some roots (that's scary to admit).

I live in a cooperative community that is really important to me. We share the house, food, maintenance, garden work, everything. Well, not EVERYthing. haha. My independence is incredibly important to me. Our house is part of a community controlled land trust which protects the house from ever being sold. We have no landlord. It's a pretty revolutionary thing.

I have several jobs that I really really love but am not going to talk about here. General fields: art, sexuality, health.

I'm really into eating well, getting enough sleep and taking care of myself. I used to live at a frantic pace and I've decided that's no longer desirable or healthy.

I am really into radical politics, (both the living and the talking parts of that), herbal medicine, and my typewriter.

Writing novels on dating sites that no one may ever read.
Asking questions.
Intuiting.

Also I'm really good at hula hooping, putting together colorful/wacky outfits, and taking self portraits. : )

My big curly red hair and my excellent eye contact. I've heard people describe me as very grounded and also vibrant at the same time. I feel alive, really alive in an electric, joyous way. I think people notice that right off.

Books? BOOKS?! I am always reading at least 8 books and can't get enough of them. Talking about books is a surefire way to get my attention. Right now I'm reading: Malcom X Speaks; The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability; Organizing from the Inside Out; Exile and Pride: Disability, Querness and Liberation; The Colors of Jews: Racial Politics and Radical Diasporism... Whoa, that's too many big words and semicolons. I'll refrain from adding all the books on my nightstand.

Movies. I like independent and foreign films. And The Never Ending Story. and OHMYGOD. Dirty Dancing is my favorite movie of all time. It is fucking brilliant, sexy and political and it is the reason I started masturbating.

Music. Coyote Grace is my favorite band. Queer folk band. look em up. I love Ani Difranco and I won't ever grow out of that. I also love hip hop, pop music from the 80s and 90s and anything with a great beat and/or great politics. Ooh! And I recently discovered electronic music!

Food. I mostly eat raw foods and hippie things like quinoa, nutritional yeast and hemp powder. I have a really restrictive diet so healthy food is actually a highly highly important thing in my life. I'm also vegan, but I'm not a snob about it. Food choices are complex.

Kale, my friends, self love, books, my bed.

That's only five but I think that's about it. Everything else I could probably make do without.
I think it's funny that kale made the list before my friends.

oh yeah! #6! My vibrator. Duh.

I try to be open-minded and all, but I am really hoping that your iphone/cell phone/ipod/favorite video game didn't make it onto your list.

I think so much about intergenerational trauma. You know, like how pain and trauma are passed down between generations because people can't get full healing.

I think about race and racism a LOT. And sexism/gender/sex. And sexuality and homophobia. And men and alternative masculinity. And classism and poverty. And anti-Semitism. And disability/ableism.
I see these things very much NOT as words on a politically correct list. There are all important to me. Just as I think they are to everyone in the whole world who can have the space to notice that. I think everyone is a good person. I also think that bad things happen to people and it makes us confused and act out in ways that hurt ourselves and others.

I also think a lot about
my dance moves!
my latest art project
how to articulate my dreams to myself and live them

Dancing (for money.)
Dancing (for free.)

reading
cooking (i have hated to cook until recently. like, until yesterday)
sitting in the sauna at the women's bathhouse down the street (where I also happen to work)
having deep, fulfilling conversations with people that stimulate and support me

I'm not a very private person. Read the other boxes.

You're an old soul.
You're a tomboy dyke with long hair.
You're a queer manboy who's down with females/women too. The flamier you are, the better.

You're interested in dating and/or being friends with the possibility of an intimate and significant relationship. Also, please love being goofy and supportive.
I am not interested in dating people that are married or are in significant partnerships. I want to be someone's main squeeze.

I've got a disability/ies and I really want to welcome people into my life right now that are willing/interested in being an ally to me around that, thinking about ability/disability and challenging our own assumptions together. I am starting to cultivate an awesome community of crips in my life and it's a really beautiful, lifesaving thing.

I love my life and am drawn to people that love theirs too.