Now, for the impatient ones, before we go any further there are four immediate potential show-stoppers here so let me save you some time.
(1) I am a 63 year old widower with a 14-year-old son. I am and will be an active Dad for a while yet. I fully understand your "I am done with children" preference, so no worries and thanks for stopping by. Go have fun!
(2) I am 5 feet 6 inches tall.
I was married to a taller woman for 20 years and the height difference does not bother me one bit. You can be taller and wear high heels to be even taller and it simply does not matter to me. However, most women won't even consider a shorter man, so if you are one of those now is the time for you to click "Next."
(3) If you are to the right of center politically we are simply not going to get along. Waste of time. I think health care should be a human right, not a job perk, and I have actually taken the time to understand what the Affordable Care Act is and does. I lived in Europe for ten years WITH real socialized medicine. Despite what the Tea Party morons will try to tell you, "Obamacare" is NOT socialized medicine, and if you think it is, I will seriously question your reading comprehension skills.
(4) Are you familiar with Bill Maher's term "religulous?" If you are not, go Google it, and come back if you tend in Bill's direction. You may be spiritual, but organized religion is a show-stopper, especially if you are going to try to force me into one.
Oops - sorry, I cannot count. One more:
5) I have developed an allergy to cats. Within 15 minutes of walking into your house I will have difficulty breathing and be reaching for my nasal inhaler. Sorry.
Still here? :-) Good. With that out of the way, if you have a sense of adventure, a sense of humor, and want to work towards building something, read on... I dare you. I dance to a different drummer. I have had one hell of an interesting life on many levels with incredible highs and miserable lows, and I am still standing and laughing at life. In retrospect, what an adventure!
I am unconventional, adventurous, free-spirited, romantic, open-minded, and an intelligent gentleman with a slight bit of bad boy for fun. After spending a fascinating ten years living and working in Europe, I am home again in San Francisco and want to go re-explore everything I missed while I was gone. I am no longer a typical American, for I have a philosophical foot on each continent and will probably never be able to decide where I belong, physically or philosophically. Fred is not my real name, there is a silly private joke involved here. Later.
Despite my ugly Irish-American face, eventually you will figure out that I am fantastic and devoted boyfriend/husband material. You get a man who is responsible and hard-working, extremely loyal to friends and family, loving, passionate intellectually and physically, ethical, who gives selflessly and has been yelled at by friends for being "too giving" sometimes with not enough regard for myself, and who goes through life with honesty and integrity.
Men are not the only ones who simply do not understand commitment. See if you pass the test (be honest): "I may not like you right now but I will always love you." If you do not "get that" and are not willing to put the kind of work that implies into a relationship, then we are not compatible.
I am completely in Bill Maher's camp regarding organized religion, for the same reasons as George Carlin. I am sorry, but you being religious is a show-stopper for me. Open-minded spirituality and wonder is fine, but please know that I believe in scientific explanations. I consider anything that science cannot explain as nothing more than a current and temporary limitation of our meager scientific abilities, not proof of a supreme being. As Authur C. Clarke once said, "Any sufficiently advanced technology is indistinguishable from magic."
I was in an amazing marriage for twenty years to a lovely Danish lady, my best friend and soulmate. We lived in Denmark for ten years. She passed away in 2009 at age 41. She was a victim of over-exercise that resulted in a brain aneurysm, coupled with an overrated Danish medical system that failed to properly diagnose and treat her until it was too late. So we lost her, leaving me with a big hole in my life, and as an older single father of a young son. He and I spent a few more years in Denmark coping, healing, and trying to figure out what to do next.
Now we are on the next chapter of life. My son wanted to grow up as an American, not as a Dane. So we came home to California.