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25 Wichita, KS Woman


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  • Ages 18–35
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My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:57am
Black, Native American
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Working on university
Sales / Marketing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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"I'm becoming less defined as days go by
Fading away
And well you might say
I'm losing focus
Kinda drifting into the abstract in terms of how I see myself
Sometimes I think I can see right through myself [x2]
Sometimes I can see right through myself
Less concerned about fitting into the world
Your world that is
Cause it doesn't really matter anymore
(no it doesn't really matter anymore)
No it doesn't really matter anymore
None of this really matters anymore
Yes I am alone but then again I always was
As far back as I can tell
I think maybe it's because
Because you were never really real to begin with
I just made you up to hurt myself
I just made you up to hurt myself, yeah
And I just made you up to hurt myself
And it worked.
Yes it did!
There is no you
There is only me 
There is no you
There is only me 
There is no fucking you
There is only me
There is no fucking you
There is only me
Only, Only, Only, Only.
Well the tiniest little dot caught my eye and it turned out to be a scab 
And I had this funny feeling like I just knew it's something bad
I just couldn't leave it alone, I kept picking at the scab
It was a doorway trying to seal itself shut
But I climbed through
Now I am somewhere I am not supposed to be, and I can see things I know I really shouldn't see
And now I know why, now, now, now I know why 
Things aren't as pretty
On the inside."
---I have found someone. Though I hope everything works out, I am a realist and know people change their minds sometimes- so I will keep this up until we DTR with a long term commitment.---

Hello. My name is Vanessa. I am passionate about making a difference in the world one person at a time. I'm quiet, but can be at times talkative and outgoing. I'm a good mommy, I believe. I write when I feel like it- mostly just "literal works." Started on a book about 2 years ago, haven't finished it yet. I'm simple, yet complex. I try to think outside to the box and figure out "alternative" solutions to any issues/ideas. When something interests me, I tend to research like crazy to make sure I know enough about that subject to have a deep discussion about it.
I want someone who knows what they want. I know what I want and will not settle for less than what I think I deserve.
I want someone honest, funny, and someone who will not make me question what they say/do. Lack of communication when we had previously communicated more will make me doubt you and your persona. Lack of trust is hard to come back from.
I am a queen and want someone to treat me with respect and dignity. And I promise to do the same- all affection you give, I'll give back.
I do not like uncertainty and prefer to control the relationship in and out of the bedroom.
I will not tolerate lies, you playing mind games, or fake commitment.
I am here looking for real love, a committed relationship, someone I can depend on when I do desire emotional support.
My ex-engagement has left me to be weary of words, so show me that you want me and I'll do my best to return the feelings.
What I’m doing with my life
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Being a strong independent mom and trying to be/stay successful.

I'm on some sort of quest to LIVE and not just survive.
I love adventure.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Keeping my cool. Being fun crazy. Being a cool alternative parent. :)
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile/eyes...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Favorite author: Franz Kafka, Favorite book: "The Metamorphosis" (That book changed my life, no joke.)


TV: don't watch enough of it- I don't own a tv-- not out of I can't afford to, just don't want to raise my daughter to rely on a TV for entertainment. There's so much more out there than sitting in front of a TV..

Food: Trying to eat more natural things.. More organic.. Organic peaches taste so much better, just fyi.

I'm on a quest to live a healthier life.. So I try to introduce new foods at least once a week to my daughter and I's diet...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My daughter
2. Music/Art
3. A way/means to support myself and my daughter.
4. Love
5. Being warm- I hate the cold.
6. My vehicle- I feel like a boss when I'm driving.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Retirement, making money, music, and self progress.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Spending time alone with my daughter or spending time with my only family in Wichita.. usually it's watching alittle TV over at their home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My daughter was planned and I was engaged to her father... Things didn't work out obviously but I used that experience to grow into a better person- I do not have typical fears of starting a relationship again.

I've been single for over 2 years.. by choice- I've had plenty of offers, but this lady doesn't just date anybody.. I want "planet shifting", amazingly beautiful love that never dies.
You should message me if
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You're intelligent, love music, wants a meaningful relationship, doesn't drink heavily, you know how to spell, you want to be married one day, you're successful, you smell good, you might be an artist/musician, you're not a sex offender, you may be a responsible risk taker, you like to have fun, you know how to be a gentleman, you aren't a creeper, and you're not one to message me asking for sex--- I am definitely not looking for anything sexual. I can please myself better than most men could.. But once in a relationship, sex would be on the agenda.