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Freethinkie

36 F Hamilton, MI

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Graduated from university
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My self-summary
Please!
If you want a response, glance at my disclaimer before writing !
Thanks (:
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DISCLAIMER:
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I'm less likely to respond to generic messages like:
'Hi how are you.' or 'What up sexy?' or 'Gee, you are interesting'

I AM likely to respond to humor &/or intelligence (:
You can demonstrate this by writing a coherent sentence….
maybe even a few in a row (:

when someone writes to me,
i often compare our OK cupid Q & A
(especially the ones with explanations)

if you see "Ya'all got issues"
instead of "the two of us",
it usually means red flags…

…As far as timing and responses to emails, i do not have any automatic expectations of anyone... nor do I like them placed on me…

…. i do not have time to become pen pals with everybody who writes to me but i will be genuine and honest in my responses (:
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Also, I am not currently seeking out any new sexual/romantic partners…
…so "Why are you on a 'dating' website ?!?", you ask?

Well, the conversations I participate in can provide:
1) Connection… ( w/current friends & anyone
interested in logic & reason, skepticism, liberty, etc )

2) Entertainment...
(i've had many amusing conversations here on ok cupid)

3) Stimulating Conversation…
(meeting curious individuals who want to explore the Non Aggression Principle & possibly pointing em in the direction of stuff that helped me understand the logic & reason, skepticism, liberty stuff)
(:
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thanks for reading (:

MY SELF SUMMARY:
to start,
I am a bit on the unconventional side ...

my physical appearance:
i am tattooed, dreadlocked, tallish-for-a-chick, muscular...

my mental/emotional makeup:
I am empathetic, genuine, slow to anger creative & skeptical
also 'self full' (as opposed to either selfish OR selfless)

I am not a big fan of labeling a person...
... all too often, labels can threaten possibilities for connection with what is alive in that person at that moment in time.
When one person sees/interacts with another person and says:
"oh, they're just a __, I know what a ___ thinks"
then it is easy to make assumptions about that person based on your preconceived notion of what a _____ is or believes.

Labels can often result in an 'enemy image' when seeing another individual as 'the other'... they can produce an 'us' vs 'them' mentality...

BUT…
If I was told I 'had to' pick a label for myself,
i would be concerned
about the baggage that comes with the label…
and I could not just pick just one...

I'm an artist, a philosopher, a poly-atheist, a freethinker,
an Ignostic … (yes, with an 'i'...not a typo),

…and i am a 'humanist'
(as opposed to calling myself either a 'feminist' or …'masculist' ? ),

…I am also a soft determinist / Compatibilist and a liberty minded individualist rather than a statist collectivist...

as well a voluntaryist, and an anarchist...

I like honesty and I enjoy clear communication. I do not enjoy conversations where vague abstractions are used to avoid talking about what is real and true...

----to sum it up...I have an open mind,
but not so open that my brain will fall out!

...or that pseudo-science, religious dogma, statist propaganda and other bs falls in!
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STRIKING THE ROOT :
Do you remember those word associations from those tests in school?
.......here's one for ya:
voluntaryism (aka anarchy) is to Government
like Atheism is to Belief in god(s)

http://www.voluntaryist.com/fundamentals/introduction.html#.UYTZh5XS422

i took the red pill of philosophy and dove down into the rabbit hole (:
... first with gods/religions and then some years later i finally applied that same level of study & skepticism to 'the state'...

ps: i do not hold any god-beliefs
& I put 'Other' for 'Religion'
because a lack of belief is not a religion!
'Atheism' is a religion, in the same sense that 'bald' is a hair color…
or like…. 'off' is a tv channel...

& I put "laughing about it "…
because I think religious beliefs are laughable…

...i am a non-stamp-collector
as well as a tooth-fairy agnostic... (;
What I’m doing with my life
proselytizing for liberty on the inter webs!!!
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doing art...
some of my pieces are here:
http://fineartamerica.com/profiles/mary-vandenberg.html
these two pieces should be especially appreciated by liberty lovers (:
'The Tragedy Is The Meme Of Authority'
and
'Usa Paper Currency Law - 18usc Section333'
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I have a huge interest in philosophy and self knowledge...
I am constantly seeking to know/understand myself better and I enjoy learning new things.
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Non-Violent Communication (20min) :
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dpk5Z7GIFs =
Nonviolent Communication Part 1 Marshall Rosenberg

if ya like what ya hear, check out the full seminar
(: ...really good stuff!

3hr NVC seminar:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XBGlF7-MPFI&feature (disclaimer: contains hand puppets, a great visual for the giraffe/jackal lingo, & songs with a guitar !!!
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i have a large tree tattoo on my back that is a work in progress, the upper branches are just lines so far...
(the roots of the tree are shaded/colored in (covering a smaller old tattoo on my upper right ass-cheek) The tree is going up my back, just right side of my spine…
--the grass around the roots appears as words in 4 shades of green:
-Know thyself,
-Logic & Reason,
-the Scientific Method and
-the Non Aggression Principle

*during porcupine feedom festival in june of 2013, i had something added to my tree:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Ama-gi.svg

(Ama-gi is a Sumerian word meaning, literally translated,
"return to the mother," and used to refer to
"The restoration of persons and property to their original status" including the remission of debts.

Many libertarian economists consider the symbol to be the first written expression of the concept of liberty.)
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I am an artist... (bfa in illustration)
I have sold a couple of paintings...
I also model for artists/art students.

I am self taught in massage therapy.

I'm slightly intrigued by the 'free state project' and am considering a move to New Hampshire someday.
(and i do realize that 'free state' is a contradiction)
I’m really good at
... putting in searchable [ [ key words] ]
(: ... so i am gonna do that:

unconventional wisdom

reasoning from first principles

empathy and understanding

Compassionate Communication
http://www.nwcompass.org/compassionate_communication.html

being LGBT LGBTQIA friendly (:
(Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, intersex, and asexual)

ethical non-monogamy

can you be 'good at' androgyny ?
...i am a bit androgynous

austrian economics ...ok ...i'm not really proficient in economics but i at least have a familiarity with it (:
The first things people usually notice about me
i dunno... that i look like my pictures?

my hair? …it is craaaaaaazy! (:
(my dreadlocks are over 3yrs old now)
I've recently added some extensions

my tattoos? (depending on how much skin i'm showing)
or piercings .
..my ear lobes are tapered out to 6 gauge
(aprox thickness of a birthday cake candle)
& i am not going any bigger)

my size? ...i'm kind of a 'broad' broad (;
not quite rubenesque
maybe… amazonian?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
pets:
=^..^= ...I have a cat... His name is Rothbard
(after murray rothbard )

i have a large(55gal) aquarium w/5 big goldfish, a plecco , 2 mud-minnows, 2 yellow bullheads… and recently i rescued a rainbow shark and another plecco… and put in some live plants
Also have a smaller(10gal) fish tank with a crayfish and blue gill

---I enjoy listening to: George Carlin, Tim Minchin, Richard Dawkins, Penn&Teller, James Randi, Henry Rollins, Daniel Dennett, Christopher Hitchens, Doug Stanhope, Julia Sweeny, Sam Harris, Demetri Martin, Michael Shermer, Wes Bertrand, Brett Veinotte, Stefan Molyneux, ...

---podcasts: .... 'PeaceRevolution' ... 'Reasonable Doubts' ... 'Skeptics Guide to the Universe' ... 'NoStateProject' ... 'Schoolsuckspodcast' ... 'Complete Liberty' .... 'FreeDomainRadio' ...

-Music: the Beatles, Blues Traveler, Bob Marley, Collective Soul, Disturbed, GodSmack, Bare Naked Ladies, Dave Matthews Band, Guns n Roses, Gotye, Devotchka, Johnny Cash, Megadeth, White Zombie, Symphony of science, Foo fighters, Stone Temple Pilots, Mumford & sons, Snoop Dogg, Dr Dre, Jason Mraz, Black Eyed Peas, Sublime, Arrested Development, Tim Minchin, NIN, Tool, Sugar Ray, Afroman, G Love&Special Sauce, Outkast, Alice in Chains, Tom Petty, (...I have over 35 genres & over 500 different artists in my collection.... not a huge country music fan or an opera fan, but can tolerate either in small doses)

- tv/film.... House, Six feet Under, Dexter, Weeds, Wilfred, Mythbusters, Penn & Tellers Bullsh*t, Daily show w/Jon Stewart, Colbert Report, Flight of the Concords, South Park ... Big fan of documentaries too...

--Books/Authors/Videos and Online reading;

Alphie Kohn, Richard Dawkins, Dan Barker, Christopher Hitchens, Dan Dennet, Sam Harris, Stephen King, Murray Rothbard, Marshall Rosenberg, Butler Shaffer, Stephan Molyneux, Wes Bertrand, Stephanie Murphy (PORCtherapy), Marc Stevens, John Taylor Gatto, Carl Sagan, Brett Veinotte, Neil Degrasse Tyson... lots more (:

---food… Iv'e been eating in a more 'paleolithic/paleo way as of late. I have found it to be beneficial to me as far as weight loss and for my health in general...i am an insulin dependent diabetic so I try to stay away from a lot of carbohydrates.

I like 'taste adventures'
...i will try almost anything twice before deciding i do not like it…

other stuff :
cards against humanity scrabble road-trips
The six things I could never do without
my mind/consciousness,
('I' wouldn't be 'me' without it!)

curiosity and thirst for knowledge,

the ability to read,

creativity… artistic expression

my ability to empathize with others as well as self-empathy

clear communication/ understanding
(avoiding vague abstractions & defining terms)

*ps... if you listed your god... or your holy book...
then we prolly won't have a whole lot in common
…big-time red flag for me…
jussayin
I spend a lot of time thinking about
not everybody can see through the 'matrix' (or wants to)
i cannot force the red pill down someones throat and push em down the rabbit hole... (;

How to best meet my needs for autonomy.
. . . plus +
A need for connection with my fellow human beings
. . . plus +
A desire for a voluntary society, for complete liberty in my lifetime
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. . . equals =
the reason why i choose to 'proselytize for liberty' on my profile...

i like sharing ideas and planting seeds of liberty in peoples brains…

__________other key words ______________
self defense, human rights, victimless crime spree, criminal, felon, felony,trial, court, judge,prosecutor, cops, police,police brutality, the milgram experiment,standford prison experiment, unschooling, unjobbing, education, activism
...and polyamory…which for me is more realistic, enjoyable practical than monogamy

...pansexual, non monogamy, celibacy, self knowledge, science, logic, logical, skeptic/skepticism, sceptic, gender-queer, self ownership, strange,weird, different, unusual,feelings & needs,etc
Civil Disobedience
On a typical Friday night I am
... i really do not have a 'typical' any-night... my schedule varies, but in general, I tend to be a night owl rather than a morning bird
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
hmmm...
I have a bunk bed? I bite my nails?

and…

i am a cyborg; I have an insulin pump
i am an insulin dependent diabetic
(formerly known as 'juvenile onset' or 'type 1' )
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 28–49
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
"you can do it with the joy
of a small child
feeding a hungry duck."

^^^^ by the way, to add to the "I'm looking for" part:
I care much more about what is between your ears
than what's between your legs...
or any other physical feature (skin color/hair color, etc)
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...and seriously... if i can see you put some time into your profile(like i did), and you expressed yourself in an entertaining way that's easy to read, and especially if we are a match/friend percent over 90, than i might just email ya with a virtual high-five ...even if you are hundreds of miles away (:
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So… message me if
1) you can handle honesty and intelligent conversation

2) You identify as voluntaryist/anarchist/libertarianand want to connect with other liberty minded folks.

3)you have a curiosity and thirst for knowledge that hasn't been completely sucked out of you by indoctrination into a religion and/or gubment school.

4) you want to be the change you wish to see in the world

5) You can refrain from calling me a pet name...
honey, cutie, sexy, sugar, dear, sweetie, beautiful, gorgeous or even...
"gorjuss "
*rolls eyes

6) you recognize where i borrowed the "joy of a small child feeding a hungry duck" quote from (: (i encourage googling)

7) You have an interest in non violent communication
... in fact PLEASE DO WRITE to me with feedback if you were inspired to watch that youtube link to the NVC seminar i posted above. (:

8) …If you are 'really super religious' or 'really super statist'
and want to have discussion… that's great! i'd like to help (;
but PLEASE! …write to me if you can do so using logic & reason,
and without using logical fallacies!! thanks (:

9) you are local(hour or less) and in need of an art model (:
( i've worked for figure drawing/painting/sculpting classes, as well as a few professional artists)

10) you want to do a group art project or if you have a need for art (:
i do portrait work, abstract stuff, realism, and work in varied medium: watercolor, acrylic paint, oil paint, both chalk pastelsand oil pastels, mixed media, collage
…work on murals/performance art/ is also something i would be interested in (: ...and activist art …spreading ideas about peaceful parenting, liberty/freedom,self-ownership logic&reason, science, etc.


PLEASE read my disclaimer BEFORE writing to me…
My intention is to provide you some insight into what i am 'looking for' and 'not looking for'.


Thanks for reading (: