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37 Hamilton, MI Woman, Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming, Genderfluid, Other

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Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Bisexual, Questioning, Heteroflexible, Sapiosexual, Queer
Ethnicity
Other
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Diet
Mostly other
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Status
Open relationship
Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Speaks
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello!
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disclaimer :
( If you are reacting negatively to the fact that i have a disclaimer, please be aware that my intention is to provide you some insight into what i am 'looking for' and 'not looking for'. )
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… if you write to me,
I look at your profile then the Q&A
(especially the added explanations)
… I do this BEFORE I decide whether or not to respond…
IF... your profile is blank,
and/or ...you haven't answered any questions,
and/or ...your first message is just a word or two...
I probably won't bother to respond.
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If I DO respond (or I initiate contact w/you),
It is definitely genuine!
…My response could reflect on...
'...any number of things! '
such as:
-what I have found in your profile,
--your Q & A + explanations,
---our match/enemy % on OKC,
& --- what you wrote to me (:

*UPDATE last time i checked, i saw "803 people like you"
… i have no idea who 95% of those came from…
I DO NOT see the 'LIKES' on ok cupid !!

...I'm guessing most of the 'likes' come from either bots & fakes
or people using 'Quickmatch'... (seeing only pics & not profile text )
….other possibilities are people who:
--- skipped over my profile and didn't see this?
--- people who can't read(due to language/literacy barriers)?

Why Language Matters:
http://anarchistnotebook.com/2014/11/04/language/

i'm just saying… to get my attention, send me a note! (:
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I'm more likely to converse with you if you are capable of writing a coherent sentence… maybe even a few in a row (;

……..& I’m choosing to avoid ambiguous questions…
so I might not respond if all you say is :
____'how r u.' __or____'what up?' ____etc

...or if your first message involves calling me something like:
sweetie, baby, honey, darling, sexy, boo-boo kitty fuck, etc.
I don't like 'pet names'!
…& my 1st name appears on my profile !
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To couples seeking a third party for strictly sexual adventures, & for those of you looking for 'no strings attached' or 'friends with benefits' i.e. no emotional attachment:
Thanks, but no thanks, I'm not what you're looking for. (:
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here goes...
MY SELF SUMMARY:
I am passionate and enthusiastic about the ideas I hold dear.

I am driven to participate in conversations that I find meaningful.

I get a lot of enjoyment when I examine, question, and explore commonly held and not so commonly held beliefs, ideas, cultural practices, philosophies, etc.… because of this
I might challenge a thing or two
you hold as truth, i.e. major social institutions...
….both religious, and political

( Authority a.k.a. 'power over' is a tragic meme in societies…
i'd like to see more 'power-with'
& looking for win-win solutions
rather than determining the 'winner ' and 'losers' )

I strive to be fully self-connected so that I am able to connect with anyone else I may encounter.

Clear & compassionate communication is something I really value, combined with an understanding that voluntary and peaceful human action is preferable in any circumstance.

I am looking to connect with people who share my values…
who are able to simultaneously embody rationality & compassion.
( No, they're not dichotomous! )
Honesty, integrity, and independence are all key.

added disclaimer:
I am not currently seeking out any new sexual/romantic/intimate partners… my current partner(s) are people that I am attracted to physically, intellectually, and emotionally/psychologically.
... Antboy7 is one of those individuals (:

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...so-- " Then why are you on a dating website ?!? " --you ask...
1) Connection 2) Entertainment & 3) Conversation…

I enjoy meeting other curious open minded individuals who want to discuss ideas & explore strategies to work toward a peaceful world (:
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Oh labels!

I'm an artist, a philosopher, a poly-atheist, a freethinker/ humanist
an Ignostic … (yes, with an 'i'...not a typo),

…I am also a soft determinist / Compatibilist and a liberty minded individualist rather than a statist collectivist...

...a voluntaryist / anarchist...
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I like honesty and I enjoy clear communication. I do not enjoy conversations where vague abstractions are used to avoid talking about what is real and true...

...I have an open mind,
but not so open that my brain will fall out!
...or that pseudo-science/religious dogma/statist propaganda falls in!
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STRIKING THE ROOT :
Remember those 'word associations' from school?
.......here's one for ya:
voluntaryism (aka anarchy) is to Government
like Atheism is to Belief in god(s)

http://www.voluntaryist.com/fundamentals/introduction.html#.UYTZh5XS422

i took the 'red pill' of philosophy and 'dove down the rabbit hole' (:
... first with gods/religions and then some years later i finally applied that same level of study & skepticism to 'the state'...

ps: i do not hold any god-beliefs
& I put 'Other' for 'Religion'
because a lack of belief is not a religion!
'Atheism' is a religion, in the same sense that 'bald' is a hair color…
or like…. 'off' is a tv channel...

& I put "laughing about it "…
because I think religious beliefs are laughable…

..one of my hobbies is 'not-collecting-stamps'

I am also a tooth-fairy agnostic... (;
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
proselytizing for liberty n logic n reason, both in real life & on the inter webs!!!
I realized that I can't use 'anarchy' as a search term when looking for fellow liberty lovers… because results include fans of the tv show 'Sons of Anarchy'… I use anarchism, anarchist, or voluntaryist (:
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creating art...
some of my pieces are here:
http://fineartamerica.com/profiles/mary-vandenberg.html
these two pieces should be especially appreciated by liberty lovers (:
'The Tragedy Is The Meme Of Authority'
and
'Usa Paper Currency Law - 18usc Section333'
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I have a huge interest in philosophy and self knowledge...
I am constantly seeking to know/understand myself better and I enjoy learning new things. I try to reflect some of that in the artwork i create

i have a large tree tattoo on my back that is a work in progress, the upper branches are just lines so far...
(the roots of the tree are shaded/colored in (covering a smaller old tattoo on my upper right ass-cheek) The tree is going up my back, just right side of my spine…
--the grass around the roots appears as words in 4 shades of green:
-Know thyself,
-Logic & Reason,
-the Scientific Method and
-the Non Aggression Principle
*had an 'anarchy heart' added on17december2014 (:
*during porcupine feedom festival in june of 2013, i had something added to my tree:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/File:Ama-gi.svg
(Ama-gi is a Sumerian word meaning, literally translated,
"return to the mother," and used to refer to
"The restoration of persons and property to their original status" including the remission of debts.
Many libertarian economists consider the symbol to be the first written expression of the concept of liberty.)
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I am an artist... (bfa in illustration)
I have sold a couple of paintings...
I also model for artists/art students.

I am self taught in massage therapy.

I'm slightly intrigued by the 'free state project' and am considering a move to New Hampshire someday.
(and i do realize that 'free state' is a contradiction)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
1) ... putting in searchable [ [ key words] ]
(: ...so i am gonna do that:

2) unconventional wisdom
Brett Veinotte-The Catastrophe of Conventional Wisdom
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LKgrVJyWa8g

2) reasoning from first principles

3) empathy and understanding

4) Compassionate Communication
http://www.nwcompass.org/compassionate_communication.html

5) Being LGBT LGBTQIA friendly (:
(Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, questioning, intersex, and asexual) I am also 'anti-feminazi'...

6) 'Un-packing' the 'invisible backpack' of 'white privilege'
(…other types of 'privilege' as well : male, straight, cisgendered etc)

'Privilege' is a MYTH…
http://anarchistnotebook.com/2015/02/08/basic-questions-for-social-justice-warriors-on-privilege/
It is a word that automatically divides & classifies people as either 'privileged' or 'victim'. This idea of 'privilege' is based on color of skin, gender, sexuality etc. , without taking into account the individual's circumstances.

an article:
http://anarchistnotebook.com/2015/02/07/white-male-privilege-is-another-social-justice-myth-to-justify-the-state/

and a video:
Karen Straughan - Feminism: Socialism in Panties
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dm3FlbUf5gA

7) ethical non-monogamy a.k.a. 'relationship anarchy'

8) can you be 'good at' androgyny ?
…I am definitely a woman ...but a bit androgynous

9) austrian economics ...ok ...i'm not super proficient in economics but i do have a familiarity with the general idea (:

10) ...i dunno… maybe… expressing myself coherently?
...hopefully?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i dunno... that i look like my pictures?

my hair? …it is craaaaaaazy! (:
(my dreadlocks are over 4yrs old now)

my tattoos? (depending on how much skin i'm showing)
or piercings. My ear lobes are tapered to 6 gauge
(aprox thickness, thick end of a chopstick)
...i am not going any bigger

my size? ...i'm kind of a 'broad' broad (;
not quite rubenesque
maybe… amazonian?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
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Marshall Rosenberg Non-Violent Communication
Part 1, 2 and 3 (total of 20 min)
1) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-dpk5Z7GIFs
2) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XbgxFgAN7_w
3) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L8fbxPAXBPE

if ya like what ya hear, check out the full seminar
(: ...really good stuff!

3hr NVC seminar:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEqmZ2E1o64
(disclaimer: contains hand puppets & songs with a guitar !!!)
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---comedians/speakers:
George Carlin, Tim Minchin, Richard Dawkins, Penn&Teller, James Randi, Henry Rollins, Daniel Dennett, Christopher Hitchens, Doug Stanhope, Julia Sweeny, Sam Harris, Demetri Martin, Michael Shermer, Wes Bertrand, Brett Veinotte, Stefan Molyneux, …

--Books/Authors/Videos and Online reading;
Alphie Kohn, Richard Dawkins, Dan Barker, Christopher Hitchens, Dan Dennet, Sam Harris, Stephen King, Murray Rothbard, Marshall Rosenberg, Butler Shaffer, Stephan Molyneux, Wes Bertrand, Stephanie Murphy (PORCtherapy), Marc Stevens, John Taylor Gatto, Carl Sagan, Brett Veinotte, Neil Degrasse Tyson... lots more (:

---podcasts: .... 'PeaceRevolution' ... 'Reasonable Doubts' ... 'Skeptics Guide to the Universe' ... 'NoStateProject' ... 'Schoolsuckspodcast' ... 'Complete Liberty' .... 'FreeDomainRadio' ...

-Music: the Beatles, Blues Traveler, Bob Marley, Cake, symphony of science, johnny cash, Stone Temple Pilots, Mumford & sons, Snoop Dogg, Jason Mraz, Black Eyed Peas, Sublime, Arrested Development, Tim Minchin, NIN, Tool, Afroman, G Love&Special Sauce, Outkast, Alice in Chains, (…my music collection spans 35 genres & over 500 different artists .... i'm not a huge country-pop fan or an opera fan, but can tolerate either in small doses)

- tv/film.... Six feet Under, Dexter, Weeds, Mythbusters, Penn & Tellers Bullsh*t, ... Big fan of documentaries too…
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Iv'e been eating in a more 'paleolithic/paleo way & found it to be beneficial…I'm an insulin dependent diabetic & I try to stay away from a lot of carbohydrates.

I like 'taste adventures'
...i will try almost anything twice before deciding i do not like it…

other stuff :
cards against humanity scrabble road-trips
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my mind/consciousness,
('I' wouldn't be 'me' without it!)

curiosity and thirst for knowledge,

the ability to read, creativityartisticexpression

my ability to empathize with others as well as self-empathy

clear communication!
(avoiding vague abstractions & defining terms)

*ps... if you listed your imaginary friend... or your holy book...
then we prolly won't have a whole lot in common
…big-time red flag for me…
jussayin
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to best meet my needs for autonomy.
. . . plus +
A need for connection with my fellow human beings
. . . plus +
A desire for a voluntary society, for complete liberty in my lifetime
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. . . equals =
the reason why i choose to 'proselytize for liberty' on my profile...

i like sharing ideas and planting seeds of liberty in peoples brains…

not everybody can see through the 'matrix' (or wants to)
iv'e come to realize that even though it was/is an enjoyable trip for me, I cannot force the red pill down someone elses throat and/or push em down the rabbit hole…
(;

__________other key words ______________
self defense, human rights, victimless crime spree, criminal, felon, felony,trial, court, judge,prosecutor, cops, police,police brutality, the milgram experiment,standford prison experiment, unschooling, unjobbing, education, activism
…. sexuality :
polyamory aka ethical non monogamy
aka relationship anarchy …which is more realistic, enjoyable & practical than monogamy… at least for me it is…
...and a few more clickables :
...pansexual, non monogamy, celibacy, self knowledge, science, logic, logical, skeptic/skepticism, sceptic, gender-queer, self ownership, strange,weird, different, unusual,feelings & needs,etc
Civil Disobedience
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... i really do not have a 'typical' any-night... my schedule varies, but in general, I tend to be a "night owl" rather than an 'early bird'
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
hmmm...
I have a bunk bed? I bite my nails?

and…

i am a cyborg; I have an insulin pump
i am an insulin dependent diabetic
(a.k.a. 'juvenile onset' or 'type 1 diabetes' )
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
"you can do it with the joy
of a small child
feeding a hungry duck."
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So… message me if
--> you can handle honesty and intelligent conversation

-->You identify as voluntaryist/anarchist/libertarianand want to connect with other liberty minded folks.

-->you have a curiosity and thirst for knowledge that hasn't been completely sucked out of you by indoctrination into a religion and/or gubment school.

--> You have an interest in non violent communication
... in fact PLEASE DO WRITE to me with feedback if you were inspired to watch that youtube link to the NVC seminar i posted above. (:

--> you want to do a collaborative art project
or if you have a need for art (:
i do portrait work, abstract stuff, realism, and work in varied medium: watercolor, acrylic paint, oil paint, both chalk pastelsand oil pastels, mixed media, collage
…doing work on murals, doing performance art and/or installation art is also something i'd be interested in (:
...and activist art …spreading ideas about peaceful parenting, liberty/freedom,self-ownership logic&reason, science, etc.


PLEASE read my disclaimer BEFORE writing to me…
My intention is to provide you some insight into what i am 'looking for' and 'not looking for'.


Thanks for reading (: