( If you are reacting negatively to the fact that i have a disclaimer, please be aware that my intention is to provide you some insight into what i am 'looking for' and 'not looking for'. )
… if you write to me,
I look at your profile then the Q&A
(especially the added explanations)
… I do this BEFORE I decide whether or not to respond…
IF... your profile is blank,
and/or ...you haven't answered any questions,
and/or ...your first message is just a word or two...
I probably won't bother to respond.
If I DO respond (or I initiate contact w/you),
It is definitely genuine!
…My response could reflect on...
'...any number of things! '
-what I have found in your profile,
--your Q & A + explanations,
---our match/enemy % on OKC,
& --- what you wrote to me (:
*UPDATE last time i checked, i saw "803 people like you"
… i have no idea who 95% of those came from…
I DO NOT see the 'LIKES' on ok cupid !!
...I'm guessing most of the 'likes' come from either bots & fakes
or people using 'Quickmatch'... (seeing only pics & not profile text )
….other possibilities are people who:
--- skipped over my profile and didn't see this?
--- people who can't read(due to language/literacy barriers)?
Why Language Matters:
i'm just saying… to get my attention, send me a note! (:
I'm more likely to converse with you if you are capable of writing a coherent sentence… maybe even a few in a row (;
……..& I’m choosing to avoid ambiguous questions…
so I might not respond if all you say is :
____'how r u.' __or____'what up?' ____etc
...or if your first message involves calling me something like:
sweetie, baby, honey, darling, sexy, boo-boo kitty fuck, etc.
I don't like 'pet names'!
…& my 1st name appears on my profile !
To couples seeking a third party for strictly sexual adventures, & for those of you looking for 'no strings attached' or 'friends with benefits' i.e. no emotional attachment:
Thanks, but no thanks, I'm not what you're looking for. (:
MY SELF SUMMARY:
I am passionate and enthusiastic about the ideas I hold dear.
I am driven to participate in conversations that I find meaningful.
I get a lot of enjoyment when I examine, question, and explore commonly held and not so commonly held beliefs, ideas, cultural practices, philosophies, etc.… because of this
I might challenge a thing or two
you hold as truth, i.e. major social institutions...
….both religious, and political
( Authority a.k.a. 'power over' is a tragic meme in societies…
i'd like to see more 'power-with'
& looking for win-win solutions
rather than determining the 'winner ' and 'losers' )
I strive to be fully self-connected so that I am able to connect with anyone else I may encounter.
Clear & compassionate communication is something I really value, combined with an understanding that voluntary and peaceful human action is preferable in any circumstance.
I am looking to connect with people who share my values…
who are able to simultaneously embody rationality & compassion.
( No, they're not dichotomous! )
Honesty, integrity, and independence are all key.
I am not currently seeking out any new sexual/romantic/intimate partners… my current partner(s) are people that I am attracted to physically, intellectually, and emotionally/psychologically.
... Antboy7 is one of those individuals (:
...so-- " Then why are you on a dating website ?!? " --you ask...
1) Connection 2) Entertainment & 3) Conversation…
I enjoy meeting other curious open minded individuals who want to discuss ideas & explore strategies to work toward a peaceful world (:
I'm an artist, a philosopher, a poly-atheist, a freethinker/ humanist
an Ignostic … (yes, with an 'i'...not a typo),
…I am also a soft determinist / Compatibilist and a liberty minded individualist rather than a statist collectivist...
...a voluntaryist / anarchist...
I like honesty and I enjoy clear communication. I do not enjoy conversations where vague abstractions are used to avoid talking about what is real and true...
...I have an open mind,
but not so open that my brain will fall out!
...or that pseudo-science/religious dogma/statist propaganda falls in!
STRIKING THE ROOT :
Remember those 'word associations' from school?
.......here's one for ya:
voluntaryism (aka anarchy) is to Government
like Atheism is to Belief in god(s)
i took the 'red pill' of philosophy and 'dove down the rabbit hole' (:
... first with gods/religions and then some years later i finally applied that same level of study & skepticism to 'the state'...
ps: i do not hold any god-beliefs…
& I put 'Other' for 'Religion'
because a lack of belief is not a religion!
'Atheism' is a religion, in the same sense that 'bald' is a hair color…
or like…. 'off' is a tv channel...
& I put "laughing about it "…
because I think religious beliefs are laughable…
..one of my hobbies is 'not-collecting-stamps'
I am also a tooth-fairy agnostic... (;