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  • Ages 31-51
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Today – 2:07am
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English (Fluently), Russian (Somewhat), French (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
It's 2014 and time for an update. Despite writing for much of my livelihood and confidence in who I am, I’m uncomfortable writing about myself. I prefer telling stories to describing myself. And I prefer listening to others’ stories over their own descriptions. If I tell a person I’m funny as hell, for example, that’s just not funny. But if I tell a story that makes you snot unexpectedly, well that's just gravy (well, it's snot, but I bet you know what I mean).

Last summer I enjoyed a third trip to China. They weren’t all enjoyable. The second was equally awe-inspiring and disappointing. Still, I have wonderful colleagues in Anhui Province, and there’s so much to learn about their rapidly changing world that it's worth the time and effort. This past summer I got to visit two villages and two different yet amazing temples.

I have also spent significant time in Ukraine. In fact it’s time for me to return. Kiev is calling. I miss some amazing, hard to describe things about Ukrainian life.

Back in the US, I work at a state university. Where I profess to some amazing students. Hell, I'll profess to anybody.

I had some interesting musician parents and was raised on a diet of jazz, choral, folk, and a bunch of stuff I didn't want to listen to at the time, musical vegetables so to speak. My tastes are not quite "popular".

I liked the question, "Can anything be funny?" Remember Monty Python lampooning the Spanish Inquisition? Okay, so that one took a few centuries, but with enough time anything can be funny. I’m still waiting for the tea-party to be funny - no signs yet.

Who am I seeking? Someone kind, open, and respectful of her world. It turns out I can be cynical. I don’t want to be, and I could use some balance. You might still be figuring out your place in the world - or questioning whether there is such a thing. You find beauty in imperfection, in people and in unscripted moments. We might like each other, which is a good place to start.
What I’m doing with my life
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I’m thinking of quitting my job to move in with my mother. I can help her sell baskets at yard sales. ;-) Not really, but a guy's gotta have a dream!

I hope that the coming years are defined by making a positive difference. I hope to write and love fearlessly. Purposeful travel has been a recurring theme, and cultural immersion, but I have my own house now, and I'd like to make time to enjoy it. When I'm at a ball park I relish the bratwurst.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- misplacing my keys
- finding misplaced joy in others
- failing in the kitchen
- succeeding in the kitchen
- exploring
- doing my laundry (folding it - not as much)
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People comment that I'm smart. Maybe it's my wealth of useless ideas. Of course I have some useful ones, but they're not as fun.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I like a wide variety. Kurt Vonnegut inspired me when I was in college, as did Irving's "The World According to Garp". I began to love early 20th century authors like Fitzgerald, Nin, James, and Hemingway long after I was supposed to read them in high school and college. I like Alice Hoffman and Susan Minot. A friend turned me on to Alice Munro, which makes my Kindle happy. I was thrilled when my current literary heart-throb won the Nobel. John Williams' "Stoner" is on my to-read list - not what it sounds like.

Movies: I just watched the documentary "The Pruitt-Igoe Myth" about a 'failed' housing project in St. Louis. My favorite foreign film is "Cinema Paradiso". Anything Judd Apatow does makes me laugh. I recently gave "Albatross" a bunch of stars. My secret shame: each December my favorite movie is "Love Actually". Each summer I think my favorite movie of all times is "Bull Durham". Apparently my favorites are seasonal.

Music: Music is a human need, like food, sex, and sleep. I was raised by musicians, and when I was in college I worked in a music store. Today I will listen to almost anything. I LOVE being introduced to new music. Just put it in and press "play". In the past few years I've enjoyed Drive-by Truckers, The Limeliters, Lake Street Drive, and the Philadelphia Philharmonic.

Food: I love food. Street food in China is amazing. Well, almost all food in China is amazing. I have learned from experience to respect my reservations though and will no longer eat "anything". I'm still cringing at my mistakes.

Shows: Are these live shows and theater or shows that I watch on TV? I don't get cable anymore, but the ability to stream to my television has me watching some interesting series, documentaries, and more off radar films. Live shows need more space than I have on this site, and I wonder if anyone is still reading.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- A toothbrush and floss
- My passport
- Places and people to explore (both literal and metaphoric)
- Comfy cable-knits
- Me time
- We time
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Omit "about"...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On Friday nights I'm either just slowing down from the week or out playing with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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The most private thing I'm willing to admit has taught me to laugh at myself - and to respect my privacy. :)
You should message me if
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No "if". You just should.