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30 Saint Louis, MO Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–31
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  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Feb 27
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Not at all
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Less than $20,000
Open relationship
Mostly monogamous
Likes cats

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My self-summary
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Rene Descartes walks into a cafe and orders a coffee. The barista asks if he wants cream. He says, "I think not," and promptly vanishes.

And if you're still reading after that terrible little joke, hello! My name is Adam. Here's some opinions:

- I am an audiophile with a small budget for his love of sound.

- I love to write but everything I try to write always ends up being some kind of technical guide (see: bulleted list you are reading right now).

- I'm a nerd. There's no getting around it. I fight Belegarth and Dagorhir, which are medieval recreational combat games (simplest form: take a fiberglass rod, cover it in foam, and hit someone really hard with it), which I will defend up and down as being a full-contact sport and nothing at all like LARPing -- this is what is called "denial." I also play DnD during the winter when fighting becomes hard to do outdoors due to time and weather constraints. I'm running a campaign right now based on a 24-year-old video game series called Quest for Glory.

(As a point of interest, I've had a friend of mine ask me why I would ever want to label myself as a nerd, a term that originated largely as an insult, much less as labeling myself as an anything-ever. Generally speaking, I think labels speak too generally -- that's why I have such a hard time with accepting or even understanding musical genres. However, I think that if someone or something takes the label onto themselves it is not necessarily a symptom of conformity; it is a means of conveying a piece of information succinctly. No, not everything about nerds applies to me -- not the implications, nor the connotations, nor the prejudices -- but it still generally speaks to the larger identity of myself and creates a much simpler dialogue. That is, ironically, until this part of the dialogue opens up in which one must then discuss why taking the short route is easier or remains accurate.)

- I love bicycles. I especially love speciality bicycles like recumbents. I fixed and sold them for a living until recently -- which kind of makes me a professional bicycle mechanic save for the fact that I own few tools of my own.

- I love the arts, but I'm bad at them. Painting, illustration, poetry -- if you are an artist of any sort you automatically have my admiration, as I could never do what you do.

You may notice the "mostly monogamous" descriptor off to the right. It's important for me to note that I am polyamorous, but this does not by any means state that I am incapable of monogamy. If I enter into a monogamous relationship, it stays monogamous.
What I’m doing with my life
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Until the start of this year, I was tutoring in math at a tutornig center, but they closed their doors. Right now I'm looking for a job while doing independent math tutoring.

Prior to that I was working as a bicycle mechanic and salesman for the family business, which I had been doing for a few years, but the shop closed its doors forever at the end of March '11.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Physically speaking, it would probably be my hair. I was convinced by female friends to grow it out when it was discovered by them that it gets kinda curly or wavy when it's long, and ever since it's been a constant subject.

I'm also kinda short, though I am the tallest in my nuclear family. (Pick your battles!)

Personality-wise, I guess it'd be that I am typically soft-spoken and often entirely unspoken. If I do have something to say it is often quick and to the point. This does not mean that I have no ability to be loud, or even boistrous. I simply choose not to be unless the situation warrants it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read very little, admittedly. My favorite books are The Black Company series. I recently started reading A Demon Haunted World.

My favorite movie is 2001: A Space Odyssey, by a long shot. Others include The Room, Amadeus, Chicago, Dr. Strangelove, Ed Wood, Fiddler on the Roof, Forrest Gump, Gandhi, Gangs of New York, The Incredibles, Inherit the Wind, Little Big Man, Network, No Country for Old Men, Office Space, One Hour Photo, The Outlaw Josey Wales, Paris Texas, The Princess Bride, Saving Private Ryan, Seven, Spinal Tap, There Will Be Blood, Tron, Wizards, The World According to Garp, Zulu; and of course just about anything from the Coen Brothers, Monty Python, or Studio Ghibli.

Favorite bands include Rachel's, Sigur Ros, Man Man, Mogwai, Mono, Beirut, Tool, Balmorhea, Saxon Shore, The Mercury Program, Do Make Say Think, Explosions in the Sky, Led Zeppelin, Billie Holiday, Phoenix, Tom Waits, Daft Punk, Death Cab for Cutie, Diana Krall, Dr. Dog, Iron & Wine, Islands, Nick Drake, Radiohead, Spoon, and Zu.

Favorite foods? I love thai and italian. Chicken parmesan is amazing. So is pad see ew. One thing I don't like however is spicy food; I just can't take it. Which is funny because I like thai.

Games, too, I'll put games here. I grew up on the classics, so... The Quest for Glory series, Monkey Island, Dig Dug, Megaman, Contra, Super Mario Bros. 3, River City Ransom, Secret of Mana, Seiken Densetsu 3 (effectively Secret of Mana 2, never released in the US *booface*), Final Fantasy 6, The Elder Scrolls, Portal, Mirror's Edge, FEZ, To The Moon, and of course... every Half-Life and Fallout game (except Tactics; I'm just kind of terrible at it).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I'm guessing that OKCupid wants this to be six fairly impractical things that I really like to have or enjoy using, rather than the contents of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. So...

My friends.
My PC.
My funny-looking running shoes.
The music I love, in whatever format.
A box fan.
And something to write on, with, and about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
finishing up at work and then heading to a friend's house to host a DnD campaign.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I dropped out of high school and got my GED shortly after that. I haven't been in school since I was 16.

While IN high school, I chewed a lot of gum. A lot. I still have a dresser drawer full of aluminum gum wrappers which I will one day make into one gigantic sheet as a kind of pseudo-art project.

You have an approximately 50/50 shot of playing any of the following songs and having me break down and cry:
- "Lua" by Conor Oberst and Gillian Welch
- "Casimir Pulaski Day" by Sufjan Stevens
- "Staralfur" by Sigur Ros
- "New Paths to Helicon, Part 1" by Mogwai
You should message me if
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- you enjoy a night listening to fantastic music, debates, or scientific documentaries.
- your quantum milk machine brings every boy to all yards.
- this video makes you smile:
- you do not uncritically adhere to theistic or metaphysical world views.