Well let's do it like this:

1.(11/9/2010) Honestly, I'm a little jaded these days. Of the many wonderful women out there, only a rare few do I feel the innate connection that I need to have. Of those, almost all of them are married, logistically impossible, or otherwise unobtainable. What I want is a girl that is attractive, smart, and makes sense to me (and I her) on various levels. I like to try and be focused, but relaxed, and I sometimes have a hard time with people who feel they need to stress about anything and everything to be productive. Also, if you're a runner (in the mental/emotional sense) we probably won't work. I like to address things and work them out, people who run away at the first sign of difficulty probably aren't going to be very compatible with me. I've been looking for the right person, It's been three years since my last serious relationship and while I operate just fine on my own, I'm not getting any younger and I want to take the next step. Will I find that on a free online dating site? Probably not, but it can't hurt to try.

The paragraphs below this are older and outdated but most of it still applies. :)

2. I'm not much of a message writer these days. So, if I come and check out your profile (stalk you) and you don't see a message, don't assume I think you're unattractive or I didn't like what I read. At this point, nearly (not all, there are those special few that I so covet) all of the messages I actually spend time on and write out coherent messages for go ignored or lost in the sea of "lolz ur hawt!" messages from the fifty thousand other men trying to convince you they are studs by offering to show you their penises. So, I ask that if YOU find me ME appealing, drop me a line. Even one sentence saying "Hey! Write me! I'd like to talk to you!" would suffice. And if I'm thinking there is some potential, I'll do the work from there.

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3. I *AM* looking for a girlfriend (more or less). However, you should be warned that I rely on a certain feeling, a special sort of connection if you will, to tell if that person is possibly long term. I know nobody is perfect (I'm not even close), but there are imperfections I can live and others I can't. And when it comes to a long-term relationship I mean LONG TERM so I'm not willing to compromise. It wouldn't be fair to either of us. But know if I commit to you, I really am committing, not just recklessly tossing around strong words like "love". Also, sometimes these things take time, so if "IT" is there but the attachment doesn't form right away, we should hang out, you never know what could happen over time.

All that said, if you're interested in being friends, or just casually dating/hanging out sometimes (no, not necessarily sex, I know you assumed that's what I meant) then don't worry, I'm open, I love friends, and I don't discriminate against anyone for almost anything. Almost.

For those of you that follow the hardcore personality tests, I'm an ENTP (Extroverted, iNtuitive, Thinking, Perceiving.) This further categorizes me as a "Rational" and an "Inventor". As much as I don't like to label myself, I have to admit, this was pretty accurate. You should try it, or, at least Wiki it so you know what I'm talking about.

I'm now the Creative/Art Director for a Martial Arts consulting company. It's closer to my dream job, and I like it, and I like the people I work with. It also allows me to build a professional portfolio. It pays decent but only affords part-time hours for now so I'm still looking for something to fill in the rest of my working hours.

My time is split between work, friends, and Capoeira. It's important that whoever bothers to read this understands that Capoeira is more then a hobby to me, it's what I do and I spend a LOT of time with those people who have become my family. So my ideal match would not necessarily have to do it, but hopefully would have an understanding of why I spend as much time there as I do and be willing to mingle with my Capoeira family. In the past people have gotten a bit jealous of the time I spend there.

I try to run fairly often (Ran the 10k at Disney just recently) and I'm attempting to get back in the gym to supplement my Capoeira training.

In no particular order:

Student mentality. Affection. Sex (yes, don't we all say that..) Drinking. Cooking. Butchering the English language (but at least I type my sentences.) Talking about anything and everything, and thinking about more than that. Digital Art. Ideas. Creativity. Building things. Figuring things out. Writing. Knowing. Understanding.

Oh, and my Capoeira is slowly improving. Give me a few years, I'll be "really good" at that too.

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Oh I don't know any more. The hair is back to it's natural but in a weird way "blond" color, so probably that and the eyes? Or some part of my moderately in-shape physique.

*Books*:

Most anything by Anne Rice or Orson Scott Card. Star Wars books. Anything (poetry or otherwise) written by Robert Frost. The Secret, and various stuff by mainstream folks like Stephen King, C.S. Lewis, and Micheal Crichton. I'm a sucker for GOOD Sci-Fi/Adventure anyway.

*Movies*:

Braveheart (Probably my favorite overall.) The Princess Bride (Close second.) X-Men movies (Although the third was massively disappointing.) Batman (The first two by Tim Burton and then the new ones are best.) Harry Potter movies, Narnia, The Golden Compass, Into the Wild, Iron Man movies, etc. You get the idea, but I can watch darn near anything.

*MUSIC* (I can't believe I left this out originally.)

"Make you wanna run around naked... cause' you know it looks good on you.."

My all time favorite is the Dave Matthews Band and really anything Dave does is great whether it be a solo performance/album or a duo tour with Tim Reynolds. But when he's with the band, they are all such talented musicians that seeing them live is one of the most amazing musical shows you'll see in my humble opinion.

Lately I've been hooked on, and adopted "Let it Rock" as a personal theme song. It's just too good.

"Now the son's discraced. He, who knew his father when he cursed his name. Turned, and chased the dollar. But it broke his heart, so he stuck his middle finger to the world, to the world, to the world..."

Beyond that I'm a fan of a lot of mainstream stuff like Counting Crows, Rob Thomas and/or Matchbox20, Pearl Jam, Linkin Park, Fort Minor, Incubus, Shakira, The Fray, Eminem, Jay-Z, Ludacris, Nickelback, etc. I can pretty much listen to anything, and I like discovering new music. The only thing I have trouble with is country music, but it's getting better and I've been known to slap on some old school Charlie Daniels or Johnny Cash from time to time. But I suppose that's more redneck.

*Food*

I am a carnivore.

My all time favorite is a Japanese dish called "Shabu-Shabu". I have an unhealthy addiction to Ponzu Sauce. Steak, Cheese (I love most cheeses), Italian (Alfredo, Pasta, Pizza, etc.) Seafood, Thai, Mexican, Spicy Foods, Frank's Hot Sauce, etc. I can typically find something good on any menu.

*Drinks* (I felt the need to add this.)

Vodka is my main drink (Often with Red Bull, Cranberry Juice, or whatever I can find.) GOOD Tequila (Stiff Margaritas.) 100 proof Southern Comfort Shots. I'm pretty universal here too, except I don't like really low quality stuff and I'm not a big beer drinker. I'll occasionally have a Corona. I'm a pretty rad bartender.

Hmmm.. Friends, Awareness, Family (not just blood), Meaning, Good Times, Music.

Life, the past, where I'm going, what is meant, and am I on the right path? Sometimes I feel like my best and most fun days are behind me, but then I remember that our minds embellish the things we have lost or can no longer have, so I work very hard to make sure that my current days are the best. Things shift, and all new possibilities open up. I'm am rarely bored. I understand a lot of things that many people don't involving connections between people and the sort of futures they can create. Naturally.. the only person I'm not so good at predicting things for is myself.

Pretty open! I sometimes do Capoeira on Saturday morning but it's not essential since I go all week. Having a few drinks, catching a movie, pool, bowling, or any sort of gathering with great friends. So would a quiet (or not so quiet) night at home with the right person.

Saturday is typically the night I get blasted if it happens over the weekend. On average it's about every fifth week.

I've pretty much already mentioned it above. You want to know something? Ask me. I don't care how bizarre, I'll likely answer it, I have little to hide.

I'm a guy on OkCupid... this means I get like.. maybe 10 messages a week. Please feel free to bring this average up! ;)

I admit, I get lazy with both sending and returning messages, but if you manage to intrigue me and I like what I see from the get-go, it may help motivate me. Sometimes I'll read through a sender's profile and feel like it's not going to work out for whatever reason. So don't get all down on yourself if I don't respond. Well all have our strengths and weaknesses, and I need to find somebody with the ones that compliment mine. :)

OH! And if my IM is off. Don't be offended. I don't turn it on often because I forget about it and feel bad when you try to IM me and I'm off doing something else. And honestly I hate in-browser chat programs anyway, let's message some and I'll give you my AIM. :P