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39 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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My self-summary
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I live and breathe through music and art. I love and feel down to the very bottom of my soul. I'm quick, I'm funny, I'm dark and I can be quite cheeky/sarcastic at times...well...a whole lot of the time. I'm a great girl with a huge heart and my friends love the sh*t out of me.
What I’m doing with my life
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Photographer. Documenting the underbelly of the San Francisco Bay Area from buildings decaying in forgotten silence, graffiti & street art to strangers whose moments I want to freeze in time.

Instagram: pixelina
Flickr: Pixelina Photography (
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
The art of the mixtape, parallel parking (for real, mad skills), banter, staying in the car til the song's over, analogies, taking forever to pick a movie on Netflix n falling asleep halfway through it, digging through the interwebs to find new music to fall in love with, laughing when you fall or trip and then giggling, "Are you ok?" and last but not least...letting someone cook for me, I'm the BEST at that!
The first things people usually notice about me
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Is that I have entered their line of vision. I would say that's the FIRST thing people usually notice.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sedaris always makes me laugh. Looking for a good read. Any suggestions?

Movies: Airplane!, Requiem For A Dream, Run Lola Run, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Amelie, Gross Pointe Blank, Umbrellas of Cherbourg, Moulin Rouge, The Intouchables, Arthur (original), Rush, Wonderland, Love Me If You Dare, Say Anything, High Fidelity, City of Lost Children, The Big Lebowski, Young Frankenstein, Kes, This Is England, Trainspotting, The 25th Hour, Buffalo 66, Star Wars, Indiana Jones, Time Bandits, Top Secret!, Goonies, Big Trouble in Little China, Sixteen Candles, Breakfast Club, Better Off Dead and I'm a sucker for a great music documentary...Synth Britannia, A Band Called Death, Searching for Sugarman, The Punk Singer.

Shows: Orphan Black, Louie, Nurse Jackie, Boardwalk Empire, Shameless (US), House of Lies, Girls, Curb Your Enthusiasm, The Wire, Parks n Rec, The Office, Life's Too Short, Bobs Burgers, Raising Hope, Modern Family, The IT Crowd, Father Ted, That Mitchell and Webb Look, Top Gear (UK not US), Arrested Development, Police Squad.

Music: Depeche Mode, Joy Division, New Order, The Smiths, The Cure, The Raveonettes, Little Girls, Soviet Soviet, In Letter Form, Weeknight, SOHN, Son Lux, Santigold, Alton Ellis, Johnny Cash, Gang of Four, The Specials, Jungle (the band not the genre), French Films, All Your Sisters, Valleys, Girls In Hawaii, Madness, Fabienne DelSol, La Femme, Led Er Est, Stubborn Heart, Atoms For Peace, Dead Ghosts, Lebanon Hanover, Twin Shadow, DVA Damas, The KVB, Tones on Tail, DIIV, Death Day, Chinawoman, Molly Nilsson, Ramones, Dark Features, The Julie Ruin, Charles Bradley, Shannon and the Clams, Lovers Revenge, Bloodgroup, NUN, NAVVI, Shonwald, The Woken Trees, Hibou, The Peach Kings, The Prids, Dum Dum Girls, Best Coast, Wanda Jackson, Nina Simone, Dean Martin, Allah Las, Nick Waterhouse, Tallest Man on Earth, Shakey Graves, Keaton Henson, Connie Francis, DJ Shadow, Mode Moderne, Crystal Castles, The Go-Go's, Air, Tomorrows World, JD McPherson, Portishead, Radiohead, Holly Golightly, The Zombies, Ray Charles, Beastie Boys, The Streets, The Cool Kids, The XX, Soft Kill, Phantogram, OMD, Black Marble, Wise Blood, Warpaint, Duchess Says, The Knife, Cold Cave, Brown Brogues, Colleen Green, The Presets, A Place to Bury Strangers, General Decay, Murder City Devils, The Husbands, Sonic Youth, The Breeders, Bjork, Peaches, The Rezillos, Ladytron, Audio Bullys, Kraftwerk, Human League, Morissey, Le Tigre, Bikini Kill, Bauhaus, She Wants Revenge, Divine Fits, Handsome Furs, The Animals, The Ventures, Zombies, The Cars, Led Zeppelin, The Who and I love old school hip hop n r&b, slow jams and freestyle...this list is never ending.

If you made it this far then, hopefully, that means you're diggin my music selection. Here is my current obsession...that voice soaked in velvety darkness, I can't get enough:

Food: Not a picky eater at all BUT...I'm a terrible Mexican and can't handle spicy food. Oh and olives and mushrooms are gross :D

Art: I know it's not a category but it should be.
(This blows my mind EVERY TIME I watch it! That space is phenomenal!)
Blu: (this never gets old)
Gats: (Welcome to Oakland!)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
In a partner:
1) Trespassing: Ideally, I would LOVE to meet someone who has a passion for photography, graffiti, decay and abandonments or who will support me in my endeavors. Just think of all the adventures we could have!
2) Music/Cinema/Art: “It's no good pretending that any relationship has a future if your record collections disagree violently or if your favorite films wouldn't even speak to each other if they met at a party.” ― Nick Hornby
3) Humor: Sarcasm, wit and the ability to keep up with some sh*t talking! Don't take yourself too seriously...that's no fun for anyone.
4) Social: I like to go out with friends and have a good time every now and should too.
5) Travel: A desire or willingness to travel and see what the rest of this world has to offer. From day trips, weekend trips to going abroad.
6) Penguins or Elephants: Yes, plural and if you have either message me NOW!!! I'm very serious.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Observation: Isn't "short-term dating" just dating? Isn't that the period when you try something new to see if you like it and whether or not you want it to be long-term? Kind of like listening to a band you've never heard before. You listen to one track and if it grabs you you listen to it over and over, always excited to hear it, check out the rest of the album, go to their shows and commit to the whole discography or perhaps it was just a one-hit wonder.

On a serious note though...what my next photo adventure will be and what abandoned building, underground tunnel have I not been in and explored, how do I get in and will I need my respirator mask, what graffiti art will there be, will there be furniture left behind or any puddles for reflection shots? I love exploring and photographing what the rest of the world walks on by without even noticing with so much as a glance. I find beauty in the discarded and forgotten and often wonder how those items got there, who did they belong to and what have they seen. My favorite find is an empty chair/sofa...what conversations were had in it? Did somebody fall in love, have their heart broken, make a friend or make an enemy. What would these items say if they could speak?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
where I'm at!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm pretty f*cking cool aaaaaand...I kinda, sorta, totally want to have Louis C.K.'s ginger babies.
You should message me if
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You're pretty f*cking cool too.
You la la la loooooove music and want to nerd out with me or if You think you can turn me on to a new band...yes, that's a challenge.
You'll stay in the car with me til the song's over.
You want to go on a photo adventure.
You gave me stars...I may have given them first but to me that's the equivalent of smiling at you from across the room...are you going to come and talk to me? You should.

FYI: I don't reply to one word/sentence or copy & paste general emails...only interested in those trying to make a genuine connection. I really didn't want to have to write this but the amount of emails I get of this sort is ridiculous.