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27 Mesa, AZ Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 20–35
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Graduated from high school
Open relationship
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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Hey, name's Lee! To start with, I know my user name should have an apostrophe in it, but OkCupid doesn't allow you to use symbols, so I had no choice. :P

I like to stand out from the crowd. I'm a social rebel, and I don't really care what anyone thinks of me except a certain close few. I speak my mind and always tell the truth because I have a lot to say and nothing to hide, a lot to gain and nothing to lose. I'm a big nerd at heart, and I love to nerd out about music, video games, movies, shows, you name it. I love discussing the complexities and subtle nuances in media and art. I'm a balanced mix: easygoing yet passionate, simple yet complex, fun yet focused. I have big dreams and big ideas. It must be said that I have no time for bullshit, so if you're looking for a guy to play head games with or want a guy who's going to jump through hoops to please you, I'm not the droid you're looking for; move along.

I'm in love with life and learning new things, and I'm a very positive person. It takes a lot to stress me out, and I can always find the silver lining in things. I value honesty, openness, and healthy communication above absolutely everything else. I laugh a lot and I love to make others laugh, too. I'm polyamorous (the ability to be romantically involved with more than one person at a time) and demisexual (not really interested in sex without strong chemistry and a great connection), and in being part of a sexual minority, I'm open-minded and I don't judge people. I have tattoos, and I sing and write. I enjoy going out from time to time (I really like hiking but I need a hiking buddy!) and spending the rest of my time enjoying rest and relaxation. I prefer to live long and easy, not short and crazy. I live a fulfilling life, and you're welcome to join me if you play your cards right! ;P

I'm very outspoken on things I feel passionately about. Check out some of my latest writing here on my facebook. Take your pick!
a) Political -
b) Nerdy and non-political -
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Right now I'm working toward pursuing my dream of being a professional musician. I also entertain ideas of one day being an English teacher for high school students if the music thing doesn't pan out since the music industry can be unpredictable, so I've always got a back-up plan and a padded financial safety net built up to fall back on.

In my down time I like to sing, play guitar, play video games, read books, see movies, look at art, write, date, spend time with friends and family, whatever comes my way.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can read people like books because I'm adept in psychology and language (including body language). I'm also a great singer, if I may say so. I love karaoke! I'm stupidly good at video games because I've been playing them since I was like 5 (got dat nerd cred). I'm a very fast learner and I'm quick to pick up new concepts and skills, which means I get very good at pretty much everything I try my hand at.

I'm an impeccable communicator. I know how to listen without judgment and how to be open and honest without shame. I understand people, and I empathize with them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My smile, eyes, height, and my mind, opinions, and outlook on life. People tell me I'm very easy to talk to.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: The Mission of Art (Alex Grey), Be More Chill (Ned Vizzini), everything written by Neil Strauss, The God Delusion (Richard Dawkins), Gantz (Hiroya Oku), Men Are From Mars Women Are From Venus (John Gray), Sextrology (Starsky and Cox), The Ethical Slut (Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy), all of Malcolm Gladwell's work, the TMNT comics (Eastman and Laird), etc.

Movies: American Beauty, everything Darren Aronofsky has ever made, Donnie Darko, Eraserhead, Falling Down, all of Larry Clark's work, Edward Scissorhands, Leon/The Professional, Jacob's Ladder, Beavis and Butthead Do America, Fight Club, Grandma's Boy, American History X, Unleashed, Ong Bak: The Thai Warrior, Big Hero 6, Ghost, 300, Zombieland, everything Harmony Korine has worked on, I <3 Huckabees, Bloodsport, The Conjuring, Scott Pilgrim VS The World, Ghost, most of Kevin Smith's work, God Bless America, E.T., Chronicle, The King of Kongs: A Fistful of Quarters, Click, Wreck-It Ralph, Se7ven, etc.

Shows: Dexter, How I Met Your Mother, Game of Thrones, Six Feet Under, South Park, United States of Tara, Naruto, Dragon Ball and DBZ, Strange Sex, Arrested Development, etc. Also youtube shows! Game Grumps, Continue?, Caddicarus, The Completionist, Peanut Butter Gamer, Jontron, Satchbag's Goods, Boozinwalsh, Did You Know Gaming?, 5x5, Smooth McGroove, Yungtown, Egoraptor, and Ninja Sex Party.

Music: Honestly anything with good melody that I feel was written with some semblance of soul. Some examples: Tool, 3, CeeLo Green, Manowar, Jason Mraz, Ninja Sex Party, AC/DC, Daft Punk, Eminem, Joe Inoue, Powerman 5000, Cicada, Alice in Chains, BT, Michael Jackson, Puscifer, Chicago, Static-X, Jack Johnson, HIM, A Perfect Circle, Radiohead, Pantera, MIKA, Liz Phair, Papa Roach, Queen, Fall Out Boy, Rob Zombie, Motörhead, Anamanaguchi, Mötley Crüe, Fucktard, Does It Offend You Yeah?, Weerd Science, Muse, etc.

Food: I love sweet foods and salty foods, but I hate spicy stuff. I love fruit, pizza, salad, burgers, simple shit. I don't really do overly complicated food.

Also, OkCupid didn't include video games here, so I'll include them myself! I like a lot of fighting games and single-player story-driven games: EarthBound, the entire Metal Gear series, Silent Hills original through 4, all the home console Mario Kart games, the whole Smash Bros. series, Super Street Fighter IV, Soul Calibur II (GC version), Tekken 5, the original PS Crash Bandicoot games, Pokemon (more-so the old school versions), The Last of Us, F-Zero GX, ICO and Shadow of the Colossus, the Kirby series, the Twisted Metal series, Mortal Kombat (2011), the God of War series (except for Ascension), The Legend of Zelda (not all of them, but my favorites are Majora's Mask and Wind Waker), the Donkey Kong Country series, main series Mario games from Super Mario 64 and earlier, TMNT games on the NES and SNES, Limbo, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, passion, all the beauty there is to find in life, being appreciated, physical affection, and laughter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Other people and the world around me. I love learning about other people, finding out what their passions are, what motivates them, what they value in life, what they've been through to become who they are now. If you're looking for a guy who actually cares about your thoughts and feelings, you've found him.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Doing whatever I happen to feel like that night - chilling at home, going out, whatever.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm an open book, but only if you bother getting to know me. You've got to spend some time with me before you get to know all the nitty gritty things that make me who I am.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re open-minded and intelligent, and you're a good communicator. I'm open to just about anything, be it friendship, short-term dating, or long-term dating. It just depends on the kind of connection we have.'re not intimidated by an intelligent male with a strong sense of self, who has opinions of his own and won't simply bend to your whim, who's happy in his life, and who isn't desperate or seeking your approval to feel good about himself. A man without these qualities is no man at all, but a boy.'re more than just a pretty face or a good body. I've been with women of all shapes and sizes, from small girls with tight bodies to big girls with round bodies. Looks are important enough to draw initial attraction, but if that's all you've got going for you, I'm not interested. If you've got a cute face AND a good mind, I want to talk to you.'re not too much of a pansy to take ownership of your desires and tell a man when you're interested in him. I'm not desperate enough to chase "hard-to-gets" or play those coquettish high school girl games, dropping hints and waiting around for the man to confront her. I don't play head games. What really stands out to me is a strong-willed woman who's not afraid to make a move. If that's you, prove it and message me!