Online dating is hard. Most times it's hard because of our own approach.
I'm trying to make it simpler at least for the women reading this to explain myself the same way I'd do it in person if we had a chance meeting and you were interested in me.
Online is simple really. It's just a way to meet someone new with a chance to know a few things about them OTHER than how they look. Online gives you an opportunity to get to meet people outside of your daily travels of work, the supermarket or your hometown. Once contact has been made it's just Dating 101
If you aren't finding the kind of man you THINK you want maybe you need to Reconsider your Premises. Maybe the perfect man for you cant figure out online profile writing any better than you figured it out. He may not even LOOK like your McDreamy because he was never trained how to pose for a camera.
Remember, Whatever you USED to be attracted to got you single today. If you haven't adjusted your wants & needs to a more realistic place, you may as well go back to your ex (ha ha)
I feel better than I did at 40, and I felt wonderfully young back then. My kids laugh at their friend's saying "Your Dad sure doesnt ACT like his age!"
I really like affection, kissing and the endorphines we both get. It's what drives a man to pursue. It's why I'm NOT on here for text/email buddies or platonic friends.
I've decided to just say the above sentences in this section because all of you told me my profile was too long back when I wrote a deeper explanation of why you should meet me.
Imagine I am the man of your dreams, the real deal. Imagine that all you have to do is to be REAL and not play games, email me then meet and have a REAL conversation. Imagine that. Real
Ladies, a simple bit of advice:
If your "personality" section on here has scored you as LESS sex driven by a HIGH GRAPH score, Men see a HUGE message. It screams that you can take it or leave it and just want a friendship.Most men including me already have enough platonic sexless women friends. (Since they are my friends and I've come to know them well, their husbands left them because of their LACK of interest in sex)
I want a lover and playmate in my next mate. Note I said a LOVER, not a bootycall. I know what it's like when my mate and I are lovers. The energy, the passion, the desire permeates each of our beings making us WANT to be with them, and helps us get beyond the hiccups that happen in relationships. The intimate connection that two people can have is one of the most unique things in the animal kingdom.
So, here's the deal. It's become my observation that virtually NONE of the women on here appear to be serious about meeting a REAL man. A MAN's man. The kind of man they have read about in romance novels and have seen on the silver screen. The kind of man their profiles scream that they want.
Instead of trying to find the perfect paragraph of fantasy-driven descriptive words, I decided to just be REAL and be the kind, loving, honest man that I am.
I change parts of my profile around at different times. I change the age range of what I'm seeking and other information because it changes the SITE's ALGORYTHM of who it shows me in searches. Don't take offense at the starting number.
The ONLY part of this site's personality evaluation that is totally wrong is about me not being compassionate. I raised my children by myself but also made sure to take care of their mother secretly and at arms length in spite of her inability to even care for herself. It was the honorable thing to do.