I don't hate the bar scene, and I like going out with people... but I generally prefer more tame activities - exploring new restaurants and bars in the city, playing board games with my social group, going to play trivia, and playing poker.
When it comes to dating on this site, I'm more looking for people to actually meet and have real life conversations with. I don't want to message back and forth for weeks before meeting. You can only find out if there is chemistry in person, and I'd rather know sooner rather than later. If I message you, it's likely because I think you're cute and nothing in your profile scared me off. But I want to get to know you in person.