I'm poly (as in I can / do love more than one person in my life at a time sometimes) - this is not my defining characteristic, or the most important thing about me - but it's the one many people need to know first - so I'm putting it up top so I can be easily filtered if needed =) I wish you well in your search and if I'm not it - no worries, good luck and good love to you anyway ;)

now - time to rewrite the rest, it's been a while =)

First the surface stuff - I'm 31, 6'4, laid back, smart, generous, I like hugs, rpgs, books and even comics =)

While I grumble when my blood sugar is low - I fall firmly under the "good guy" category. I have a lot of patience and a deep flow of love, but I'm also an introvert and I babble (I'm told entertainingly - but I imagine it's a matter of taste =))

More telling things...

My friends feel comfortable showing up at my house at 230am and waking me up if they need me - knowing they'll be welcome, taken care of and the spare room will be theirs for the night (or week or whatever).

I work hard to make my home a place where people can feel comfortable and wanted and safe - my reaction to seeing someone uncomfortable is to want to hug them - which isn't always the best way to make someone comfortable =)

Perfect strangers feel comfortable telling me their life stories and deepest secrets, I'm not sure why - but I try to listen and be there for them anyway.

I notice (usually) when people's breathing changes.

I really want to build a family of people who love each other and spend the rest of my life with them. and some kids. I really like kids =)

I like xkcd (dot com) (it's a sweet / romantic / geeky webcomic)

enough for now =) maybe more later =)

I spend some time most days in unreal worlds, either in games or books - it helps me recover from all the time and energy the real world takes sometimes =) Career wise I'm technically a DBA right now - but in my heart I'm still an IT trainer - which is basically teaching, except it's also like giving 16-160 hour presentations that you have to make inspiring, entertaining and educating to adults who think they already know everything mixed in with people who don't know anything =) It's fun and I really love it, especially when I'm teaching beginners - I do the most good there and can actually really change lives, which is still kinda amazing to me.

Other than that I'm mainly working on finding good people to share my unreal worlds and other good times with.

Writing - though not necessarily concisely =)
Math, colors, making connections, creative thinking, teaching, babbling, reading, hugging, holding, pleasing, waiting, regular thinking, learning and ... hmmm... uh... forgetting!

My Subtlety.

My size.

My laugh.

Books) I overflow my library, mostly sci/fi and fan. Some authors I really like are: steven brust, spider robinson, orson scott card, bujold, asimov, hamilton, zelazny, sten, pratchett, Matthew Rielly, and many, many more... but I'm not into tolkien.

Movies) Harvey, Princess Bride, Sneakers, Boondock Saints, Iron Monkey, Singing in the rain, Thursday, Magic Kitchen, shoalin soccer, die hard, sliding doors, Serenity, My wife is eightteen, jet li), johnny depp, Army of Darkness / bruce campbel, Wasabi, the court jester, many more ...

TV) I will show Firefly, Gargoyles and Trigun to my children (when I have some =)) and some others I enjoy are: Hunter x Hunter, Coupling (british version), West Wing, Stargate, Angel, Black Books, Profit, House, Daily Show - otherwise I'm not a big tv fan in general. Oh I liked the new "Leverage" show so far.

Video Games) I would recommend to anyone: Phantasy Star 1, Deus Ex, System Shock 2, SW:KOTR. I like character development, interesting challenges, fun and good story - when I have nothing else I fall back on Everquest because I have friends on it and I still like exploring and developing on it =)

Comics) Spiderman loves Maryjane, V is for Vendetta, Preacher, Authority, Hitman, Ultimate Spiderman, the recent big events in marvel have been interesting (except "brand new day" ... the bastards) - and if you're a Firefly fan - you might like to know there's some Serenity Comics out there bridging the show to the movie =)

Music) U2, tom petty, the band, dylan's "blood on the tracks", Cows with guns, Brain Bug, stones, some trance, van morrison, pop40 once in a while, sarah, lorena, alman brothers, enya, allison krauss, dido, traveling wilburies, clapton, more...

New worlds and ideas to explore - mine and / or others

Friends (of course)

computer access - I hate to say it, but it really means something to me =)

a chance to share the good things in the world with the people I care about,

water (not just for practical reasons - I just really like water...)

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Truthfully - other than water, I probably could live with out any of those things - but I wouldn't like life as much then.

People, relationships, empathy, plots, little meaningless inventions, wings, mental powers (for fun =)), anything I couldn't understand when it first happened, Karin, love, future, family (kids, how to be a good father / husband, etc), science, movies, and people... the select few I happen to care a ton about or just people in general (I'm trying to solve all the worlds problems by the time I die (I like to fix things) and a lot of them revolve around the natural miscommunications and misconstrued interactions that often happen between people =/ the more I can figure out and spread the word about ... the better the world will eventually be =))

I like to to spend my friday nights stealing all the shopping carts from the local grocery stores and pushing them together into an enormously long silver snake of the night which ghosts silently through the highways, biways and back streets of my town.

The main problem is not creaming mailboxes or small cars when the fourth wheel goes funky and makes it all pull to the right. If you've recently lost a mailbox and there were unexplainable tracks near by ... I apologize.

(Usually I go out with friends, or stay in and read or watch a show or movie with karin, sometimes we just drive around and have a good talk or see something new. Maybe 'comedy sports' if we have the urge =))

When presented with a situation or question or whatever that requires me to do something - I tend to think of a full range of good through evil possible reactions and then choose a good one instead of the evil - this may be pretty normal, I'm not sure. I'm don't know if this makes me a good person (hey I make the right choice right?) or a not so good person (cause I'm always thinking these evil thoughts too...) but I actually kind of like that I do it, cause I like seeing possibilities and sometimes it helps me think outside the box or make particularly inappropriate responses which I find entertaining =)

If you're constantly learning how to be a better person - and have made significant progress =)

If you've stopped caring about being different, or about fitting in, or about what others think about you - and now think about who you actually are and how you affect others.

If you like / seek progress and not perfection.

If you love me already, cause that's always weird, but it usually makes for interesting conversations.

If you're not in a hurry... If you're ok just hanging out, and adding a couple good people to your life for a while, and overtime sharing of ourselves, books, friends, shows, stories, time, until we know we're safe and good and can get to a place where we can make and share bigger risks and intimacies =)