I am zenlicious, hearth warm, and touchtastic.
My Self-Summary
I'm
poly (as in I can
/ do love more than one person in my life at a time sometimes) -
this is not my defining characteristic, or the most important thing
about me - but it's the one many people need to know first - so I'm
putting it up top so I can be easily filtered if needed =) I wish
you well in your search and if I'm not it - no worries, good luck
and good
love to you
anyway ;)
now - time to rewrite the rest, it's been a while =)
First the surface stuff - I'm 31, 6'4, laid back, smart,
generous, I like hugs, rpgs, books and even comics =)
While I grumble when my blood sugar is low - I fall firmly under
the "good guy" category. I have a lot of patience and a deep flow
of love, but I'm also an introvert and I babble (I'm told
entertainingly - but I imagine it's a matter of taste =))
More telling things...
My friends feel comfortable showing up at my house at 230am and
waking me up if they need me - knowing they'll be welcome, taken
care of and the spare room will be theirs for the night (or week or
whatever).
I work hard to make my home a place where people can feel
comfortable and wanted and safe - my reaction to seeing someone
uncomfortable is to want to hug them - which isn't always the best
way to make someone comfortable =)
Perfect strangers feel comfortable telling me their life stories
and deepest secrets, I'm not sure why - but I try to listen and be
there for them anyway.
I notice (usually) when people's breathing changes.
I really want to build a family of people who love each other
and spend the rest of my life with them. and some kids. I really
like kids =)
I like xkcd (dot
com) (it's a sweet / romantic / geeky webcomic)
enough for now =) maybe more later =)
What I’m doing with my life
I spend some time most days in unreal worlds, either in games or
books - it helps me recover from all the time and energy the real
world takes sometimes =) Career wise I'm technically a DBA right
now - but in my heart I'm still an IT trainer - which is basically
teaching, except it's also like giving 16-160 hour presentations
that you have to make inspiring, entertaining and educating to
adults who think they already know everything mixed in with people
who don't know anything =) It's fun and I really love it,
especially when I'm teaching beginners - I do the most good there
and can actually really change lives, which is still kinda amazing
to me.
Other than that I'm mainly working on finding good people to
share my unreal worlds and other good times with.
I’m really good at
Writing - though not necessarily concisely =)
Math, colors, making connections, creative thinking, teaching,
babbling, reading, hugging, holding, pleasing, waiting, regular
thinking, learning and ... hmmm... uh... forgetting!
The first things people usually notice about me
My Subtlety.
My size.
My laugh.
My favorite books, movies, music, and food
Books) I overflow my library, mostly sci/fi and fan. Some authors I
really like are:
steven brust,
spider robinson,
orson scott
card,
bujold,
asimov,
hamilton,
zelazny,
sten,
pratchett,
Matthew Rielly, and many, many
more... but I'm not into tolkien.
Movies) Harvey, Princess Bride, Sneakers, Boondock Saints, Iron
Monkey, Singing in the rain, Thursday, Magic Kitchen, shoalin
soccer, die hard, sliding doors, Serenity, My wife is eightteen,
jet li),
johnny depp, Army of
Darkness /
bruce
campbel, Wasabi, the court jester, many more ...
TV) I will show
Firefly,
Gargoyles and
Trigun to my children (when I have some
=)) and some others I enjoy are: Hunter x Hunter, Coupling (british
version), West Wing, Stargate, Angel, Black Books, Profit, House,
Daily Show - otherwise I'm not a big tv fan in general. Oh I liked
the new "Leverage" show so far.
Video Games) I would recommend to anyone: Phantasy Star 1, Deus Ex,
System Shock 2, SW:KOTR. I like character development, interesting
challenges, fun and
good story - when I have nothing else
I fall back on Everquest because I have friends on it and I still
like exploring and developing on it =)
Comics) Spiderman loves Maryjane, V is for Vendetta, Preacher,
Authority, Hitman, Ultimate Spiderman, the recent big events in
marvel have been interesting (except "brand new day" ... the
bastards) - and if you're a Firefly fan - you might like to know
there's some Serenity Comics out there bridging the show to the
movie =)
Music)
U2,
tom petty,
the band,
dylan's "
blood on the tracks", Cows
with guns, Brain Bug, stones, some trance,
van morrison, pop40 once in a
while,
sarah,
lorena,
alman brothers,
enya,
allison krauss,
dido,
traveling
wilburies, clapton, more...
The six things I could never do without
New worlds and ideas to explore - mine and / or others
Friends (of course)
computer access - I hate to say it, but it really means
something to me =)
a chance to share the good things in the world with the people I
care about,
water (not just for practical reasons - I just really like
water...)
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Truthfully - other than water, I probably could live with
out any of those things - but I wouldn't like life as much
then.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
People, relationships,
empathy,
plots, little meaningless inventions,
wings,
mental powers (for
fun =)), anything I couldn't understand when it first happened,
Karin, love,
future, family
(kids, how to be a good father / husband, etc),
science, movies, and
people... the select few I
happen to care a ton about or just people in general (I'm trying to
solve all the worlds problems by the time I die (I like to fix
things) and a lot of them revolve around the natural
miscommunications and misconstrued interactions that often happen
between people =/ the more I can figure out and spread the word
about ... the better the world will eventually be =))
On a typical Friday night I am
I like to to spend my friday nights stealing all the shopping carts
from the local grocery stores and pushing them together into an
enormously long silver snake of the night which ghosts silently
through the highways, biways and back streets of my town.
The main problem is not creaming mailboxes or small cars when the
fourth wheel goes funky and makes it all pull to the right. If
you've recently lost a mailbox and there were unexplainable tracks
near by ... I apologize.
(Usually I go out with friends, or stay in and read or watch a show
or movie with karin, sometimes we just drive around and have a good
talk or see something new. Maybe 'comedy sports' if we have the
urge =))
The most private thing I’m willing to admit here
When presented with a situation or question or whatever that
requires me to do something - I tend to think of a full range of
good through evil possible reactions and then choose a good one
instead of the evil - this may be pretty normal, I'm not sure. I'm
don't know if this makes me a good person (hey I make the right
choice right?) or a not so good person (cause I'm always thinking
these evil thoughts too...) but I actually kind of like that I do
it, cause I like seeing possibilities and sometimes it helps me
think outside the box or make particularly inappropriate responses
which I find entertaining =)
You should message me if
If you're constantly learning how to be a better person - and have
made significant progress =)
If you've stopped caring about being different, or about fitting
in, or about what others think about you - and now think about who
you actually are and how you affect others.
If you like / seek progress and not perfection.
If you love me already, cause that's always weird, but it usually
makes for interesting conversations.
If you're not in a hurry... If you're ok just hanging out, and
adding a couple good people to your life for a while, and overtime
sharing of ourselves, books, friends, shows, stories, time, until
we know we're safe and good and can get to a place where we can
make and share bigger risks and intimacies =)