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I'm just your typical, average, run-of-the-mill mostly-straight-but-bi-curious polyamorous kinky nudist Wiccan writer, living in sin with two submissive female partners. It's a lot of fun, but it's also a lot of work, and right now my social life is pretty full. Nonetheless, if after reading this profile, you still want to get to know me, then I'd certainly enjoy hearing from you.

First off, please understand that my life largely revolves around BDSM and polyamory, and if you're not into either of those things, you might as well just stop reading now. My senior partner (who is not online) and I met at the first Master/slave conference back in 2004, and while we tried living as a M/s couple for a few years, that didn't work for us, so now she's just my submissive, not my slave. My junior partner, sntrckt86, and I have only been together a few months so far, but in that time we've established a very promising M/s relationship, which we both hope will last a very long time.

While I'm obviously not looking for any new primary or secondary partners, my partners and I are active in the local BDSM community, and are quite interested in meeting other poly kinky folk for both friendship and play.

That being said, here's some info about me. At various times in my life, I have been active in theater, SF fandom, roleplaying, the SCA, the pagan community, nudist clubs, the mouse fancy, and the BDSM scene. I'm interested in reading, writing, relationships, history, astronomy, evolutionary biology, Aikido, mythology, dog training, and games. I enjoy sushi, movies, dancing, hiking, conversation, cuddling, and sex. I enjoy playing all sorts of games, both in the bedroom and on the computer; I mix the two by playing a *very* kinky Sims 2 world (though not as kinky as my actual life, in fact).

I try to listen more than I talk (though often fail), try to be open-minded and caring, and think I have a good (though somewhat dark and dry) sense of humor.

But since I don't smoke, drink, watch TV, like sports, listen to music much, or cheat on my girlfriend, I once had a friend ask me (in all seriousness) just what I do for fun.

Apparently, I wasn't big on talking about myself back then.

And I'm still not. But not because I'm afraid of weirding people out. Just the opposite, in fact. It says a great deal about me that that I regard all these things I just told you about myself as so boring and ordinary that nobody could possibly be interested in them. And I *hate* being boring.

Or at least, I hate it when I'm talking, and my audience wants to be somewhere else. (It's sometimes hard to tell the difference.) Call it the Leo in me - I like giving people what they want, so they're interested in being with me. And most people seem to like being listened to, so that's what I prefer doing.

So, following the advice of a High Priest I respect, I usually try to NOT lead with my weird, lest I bore people with my plethora of interests and activities. I mean, they're all fascinating to *me*, of course. But over they tears, it has slowly seeped into my consciousness that other people are, well, ... different ... than I am.

It's not their fault, of course. I'm open-minded. They can't help being what they are, no matter how odd it may seem to me. So I've learned to try to fit in with their strangeness. I put on clothes so I don't draw their attention. I hide the fact that I'm an skeptical atheist who happens to worship the Goddess and work magic. I ask people questions about themselves, and listen to what they say, and they never notice that I'm not talking about myself.

And it works. In a world full of people so breathtakingly strange that I wonder how they can possibly exist, I manage to fit in. When I'm out there with all the weirdoes, I can look and act *very* much like them. In fact, sometimes I appear so 'ordinary' that my gf actually worries about it. (Of course, she is convinced that I'm part space alien. That's not true, of course; the DNA is totally incompatible. I'm afraid she makes far too much of the fact that I was conceived in Roswell, NM.)

But here online, I'm not particularly concerned about trying to fit in. Or for that matter, even keeping your interest. (And if you buy that one, I have a bridge in Brooklyn that you might be interested in.) Ok, I lie. Of *course* I'm trying to catch your interest. But only if you actually *are* interested in the kind of person I am. Otherwise, I'm *trying* to scare you off. If you can't deal with me, I'd prefer we both discover that fact as quickly as possible. And since you're doing in it the privacy of your own home, and I never met you anyway, I really don't care. Really. If you think I'm not the kind of person you want to know, just go away. I promise, I won't be offended.

[Waits a few seconds]

Still with me?

Wonderful! If after reading the above, you still have any interest in getting to know me, then you are *definitely* the kind of person I'd like to get to know in return!

EDITORS

• sntrckt86

Trying to adjust to living with two primary partners at the same time. While my partners and I have been poly for years, this is the first time that any of us have actually lived with more than one partner, and we're just starting to figure out how to manage it.

Most weekdays, I'm in front on my computer, either writing or (I hesitate to admit it, but apparently I'm not the only writer who has this problem) playing games. I occasionally take breaks to eat and walk my dog, an old Labrador. My primary goal at this point is to write a novel that I consider good enough to submit for publication - and let me tell you, it ain't easy. Over the longer term, I'd like to eventually get to first Dan in Aikido. And I'm planning to start teaching classes in the local BDSM and pagan communities, on things like energy work in everyday life, and how to apply animal training techniques to D/s relationships.

And over the much longer term, my dream is to eventually pull it all together and help create a coven/community of like minded folk, kind of like what Raven Kaldera has done up at Cauldron Farm in MA.

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• sntrckt86

Writing, talking, cuddling, massage, BDSM.

I dunno; I've never asked. But I suspect it's my grin.

And while is probably isn't the first thing people notice, after they've seen me a few times, they might note that I rarely wear anything but black. It's simple, mixes and matches well, looks good, and doesn't show the hair from my Labrador.

Friends. Books. Time. Love. Freedom. Ice Cream (Cherry Vanilla or Mint Chocolate Chip, mostly. But odd as it may be, I also really like Vanilla).

Writing, people and relationships.

On a date with one of my partners, which normally includes some sort of dinner, a horror or sexy movie, then lots of kinky sex.

And on Saturday night, it gets even more interesting...

But they didn't ask about that. And I don't want to bore you :).

What, you think there are secrets I haven't told you already? Hardly. I've already listed the biggies, though there are of course lots of details that a profile like this can't even hint at.

Still, here's a little tidbit for you. Like I said, I'm a nudist. I pretty much never wear clothes in private. Or -- and here's the secret -- when I think there's nobody who'll notice. I've done *lots* of nude hiking - in fact, that's how I got into nudism.

For most of my childhood, I hiked nude for hours every day -- and never got caught. In fact, I used to totally hate letting anyone see me naked. While I wandered nude in the woods every day, nobody ever knew, much less ever saw me. And I abhorred getting undressed in my high school locker room.

I didn't get over that modesty until I started attending clothing-optional pagan events in the 80's. After a few years on envying the courage of those people who went skyclad, I finally started daring to do so myself. And you know something? When people saw me naked, they weren't horrified.

Nowadays, I have absolutely no modesty about being seen nude. In fact, I've gone on nude hikes and canoe trips, hot tubed with friends, and often drive nude. It's just more comfy. Yes, I've been seen. Most people just smiled. Some averted their eyes. A few were jerks. A very few were actually curious. None of them died. Or even had to go to the hospital, for that matter.

But while nudism has been a key part of my lifestyle for 35+ years, it still feels a bit odd to come out and say so. I guess I'm still a bit shy about scaring people off by being too weird.

And *that* is the most private thing that I'm willing to admit here.

EDITORS

• sntrckt86

You live within an hour of Baltimore (we get to DC a lot), are into BDSM, cool with nudism, and are definitely poly.

First and foremost, we're looking for friends, not just play partners. What we want to find are people whom we enjoy spending time with, especially at places such as pagan gatherings, bdsm parties, and nudist clubs. But we're also interested in just hanging out, going to dinner, talking, watching movies, playing games, and so on. While we certainly enjoy playing with our friends, we regard that as just one possible activity - and if that's the only thing we do together, we're really not interested.

While we're most interested in hanging out with other couples and bi women, we'd also open to getting to know gay and bi men, and TS's and TV's. However, if you're in one of those categories, make sure you re-read the above paragraph, and express interest in more than just being dominated by a kinky couple.

And, finally, while we'd like to find friends who enjoy hanging out with both of us, we *are* poly, and not joined at the hip. So, if you're a poly woman who's more interested in getting to know just me, well, we can *definitely* talk. I'm not at all concerned about age (I have friends from 24 to 64) or weight (actually, I quite like BBW), or submissiveness (I adore dominant women, so long as they don't try to dom me without my consent), but I *am* allergic to cigarette smoke and anyone who supports the current administration.