Needless to say, as a newcomer to the area, I'm quite keen on meeting people and making new friends. So far, most of my socializing has been through the CSPC (Center for Sex-Positive Culture), but I've also been connecting with the local nudist clubs, pagans, science fiction fans, and gamers. If you're not into at least a couple of those things, you might as well stop reading this profile now, as I doubt we'll have very much in common.
I'm maintaining this profile on OKCupid mostly for the benefit of people I meet in person, so they can get a quick idea of my interests and values and background, in the privacy of their own homes. However, I'm certainly open to meeting people here on OKC, and several of my best relationships have come from such meetings. So if, after reading this profile, you have any interest in getting to know me better, I'd be absolutely delighted to get to know you, too.
Having said that, I'm a nice, friendly, open-minded, introverted kinky poly pagan guy with lots of alternative interests.
I currently have several ongoing relationships, but nothing exclusive, and while I'd certainly like to find a primary partner, it's not currently a top priority for me. However, finding more friends to hike, travel, see the city, talk, play games, watch movies, and otherwise play with is *definitely* a major goal of mine.
That said -- and frankly it's hard to talk about myself that generically, but I try not to lead with my weird too much -- my 'alternative interests' include being actively polyamorous, kinky, nudist, and Wiccan, which kind of all run together if you're at all familiar with the Maryland pagan community. At one time or another, my social life has centered around one or more of theater, SF fandom, roleplaying, and the SCA, though none of those are still primary interests of mine at present. I'm deeply interested in reading, writing, relationships, history, astronomy, evolutionary biology, Aikido, archery, mythology, dog training, movies, amusement parks, and both computer and board games. I love animals, and while I no longer have a dog or cats, I still stop to scritch every animal that seems even slightly friendly.
Professionally, I used to be a software engineer, and founded a dot com online gaming company in the late 90's. It failed, like so many others, but I had enough left over that I didn't need to work for many years. I am still financially independent, though far from rich. Still, I much prefer having time than wealth, as time is the one resource that I can never gain more of.
Relationship-wise, I'm single, dating, mostly straight, and just looking for people to enjoy spending time with, while always being open to possibilities. I have never been married and have no kids, but have lived with several partners at different times, the longest for 13 years, most of whom are still good friends. I am quite committed to open, consensual non-monogamy in all my relationships for the rest of my life, and someday hope to find a lifelong primary partner who shares that commitment. While I prefer having a few deep long-term relationships rather than a lot of casual friendships, I've learned to not put all my emotional eggs in one basket, and am actively trying to broaden my social life.
Spiritually, I'm a committed atheist Wiccan with an interest in Buddhist and Tantric teachings, and have been since childhood. I'm rather more into rationalist show-me skepticism than trustful faith about lot of matters, but I've had my share of unexplainable synchronicities, so I try not to be dogmatic. In any case, I've come to the conclusion that things like deities, spirits, and spirituality are just as real and important - and as unreal, in a physical sense - as things like love, honor, and truth. And I'm *really* into love, honor, and truth.
Sexually - not that it matters for just friends, but this IS a dating site, after all - I'm extremely open-minded, definitely more than a bit kinky, and am quite committed to polyamory. I'm mostly straight, though quite heteroflexible; while I don't actively seek out same-sex partners, I'm open to the possibility. I've been active in the BDSM community for many years as a top and Dom, playing almost exclusively with long-term partners. While I really enjoy sex and play (they're my favorite activity, after sleeping), I'm way more into intimacy and energy exchange than just the physical sensations. I totally agree with Bianca Jagger's quote - “Unless there's some emotional tie, I'd rather play tennis". And I don't even *like* tennis.