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52 M Seattle, WA

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Last Online
Mar 17
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Other, but not too serious about it
Leo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
IMPORTANT NOTE: Starting in July 2013, I will be on a very long (possibly multi-year) camping trip, initially across the US and hopefully eventually abroad. While I've lived in Maryland almost all of my life, one of the reasons for taking this trip is to see if I want to move elsewhere - and the Seattle/Portland area is at the top of my list of possibilities. After a summer of driving 10000 miles up to Alaska and back, I'm looking to spend at least a month or two in the Seattle area, getting to meet people and seeing how I like it. So far, I'm falling in love with the place, and thus have changed my location to "Seattle' on my profile, though I'm not (yet) a long-term resident of the area.

Which means, of course, that I'm quite keen on meeting folk in the Seattle area who share my interests and values. Seriously, I'm just looking for friends - though I always keep an open mind, and if a friendship happens to develop into something more, that's great. But that's NOT my primary goal in posting this profile.

Having said that, my name is Galen. I'm a nice, friendly, open-minded, introverted kinky poly pagan guy with lots of alternative interests. I'm in a loving but very open relationship with Imdroidurlkng4, who is not entirely happy about me spending so much time away from her, but given that we're both poly, I'm know for a fact that she's not *too* lonely without me.

That said -- and frankly it's hard to talk about myself that generically, but I try not to lead with my weird too much -- those 'alternative interests' include being actively polyamorous, kinky, nudist, and Wiccan, which kind of all run together if you're at all familiar with the Maryland pagan community. At one time or another, my social life has centered around one or more of theater, SF fandom, roleplaying, and the SCA, though none of those are still primary interests of mine at present. I'm deeply interested in reading, writing, relationships, history, astronomy, evolutionary biology, Aikido, archery, mythology, dog training, movies, amusement parks, and both computer and board games. I love animals, and while I no longer have a dog or cats, I still stop to scritch every animal that seems even slightly friendly.

Professionally, I used to be a software engineer, and founded a dot com online gaming company in the late 90's. It failed, like so many others, but I had enough left over that I didn't need to work for many years. I am still financially independent - which is what has enabled me to take this trip, obviously - though far from rich. Still, I much prefer having time than wealth, as time is the one resource that I can never gain more of.

Relationship-wise, I'm single, dating, mostly straight, and just looking for people to enjoy spending time with, while always being open to possibilities. I have never been married and have no kids, but have lived with several partners at different times, the longest for 13 years, most of whom are still good friends. I am quite committed to open, consensual non-monogamy in all my relationships for the rest of my life, and someday hope to find a lifelong primary partner who shares that commitment. While I prefer having a few deep long-term relationships rather than a lot of casual friendships, I've learned to not put all my emotional eggs in one basket, and am actively trying to broaden my social life.

Spiritually, I'm a committed atheist Wiccan with an interest in Buddhist and Tantric teachings, and have been since childhood. I'm rather more into rationalist show-me skepticism than trustful faith about lot of matters, but I've been come to the conclusion that things like deities, spirits, and spirituality are just as real and important - and as unreal, in a physical sense - as things like love, honor, and truth. And I'm *really* into love, honor, and truth.

Sexually - not that it matters for just friends, but this IS a dating site, after all - I'm extremely open-minded, definitely more than a bit kinky, and am quite committed to polyamory. I'm mostly straight, though quite heteroflexible; while I don't actively seek out same-sex partners, I'm open to the possibility. I've been active in the BDSM community for many years as a top and Dom, playing almost exclusively with long-term partners. While I really enjoy sex and play (they're my favorite activity, after sleeping), I'm way more into intimacy and energy exchange than just the physical sensations. I totally agree with Bianca Jagger's quote - “Unless there's some emotional tie, I'd rather play tennis". And I don't even *like* tennis.
What I’m doing with my life
Seeing the world! My home is now my Subaru Forester, and for at least the rest of 2013 and possibly much longer, I'm visiting every national park, scenic drive, offbeat roadside attraction, obscure museum, and otherwise interesting place that I can get to!

Seriously, this is my bucket-list adventure of a lifetime, something I've been dreaming about for years. There are so many places I want to see, and too few decades left in my life to see them all, so I finally decided to just go, while I'm still in good enough shape to hike, camp, and climb a few of the easier mountains.

I'd have vastly preferred to do this with a partner, but that never worked out, so I'm doing this trip solo - which will be an adventure and ordeal in itself, since I have traditionally hated going places alone. But it's 'try something new year' for me, and I'm pretty good at making new friends, so I think I'll manage.

And if, perchance, you have any interest in *being* one of those new friends, then I'd definitely love to hear from you!
I’m really good at
All sorts of things, at various times - like writing, history, massage, Aikido, archery, gaming, computer programming, BDSM and sex. When I get interested in something, I tend to throw myself into it, and get pretty good pretty quickly. However, I often lose interest in a few years or decades, so I'm more of a jack-of-all-trades than master of any specific one.

Except, I hesitate to admit, BDSM and sex. Those two things have *always* interested me, I've studied a lot, have a huge library on the topics, and when with a partner, I try to get in at least 3 good evenings of practice a week - which adds up to *way* more hours of experience than in any other skill set I have (save perhaps programming, which was my job for 25 years). Seriously. Kinky sex has been my primary hobby for a looong time, and it's not just my ego saying that I'm really good at it.
The first things people usually notice about me
I'm told it's my smile. However, I like to also think that most people I meet quickly notice that I enjoy making them smile, too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books, books, and more books: I am a total biblioholic. My house is overflowing with books on every topic that has ever interested me, which is a pretty vast spectrum. Currently, the largest and most used collections are history, sexuality, and writing, but I also have shelves and boxes full of science, humor, spirituality, folklore, and mythology.

In fiction, nowadays I mostly read urban fantasy and erotica. My absolute faves are the Discworld, Harry Potter, and Dresden Files series, which are the *only* books I buy in hardcover the moment they come out. Otherwise, I like the Anita Blake series, old Anne Rice (especially the Sleeping Beauty trilogy), the Bernie Rhodenbarr series by Lawrence Block, Frank Miller graphic novels, collections of Charles Addams cartoons, and anything by Neil Gaiman. Historically, I come from SF/fantasy fandom, where my classic faves include Tolkein, Heinlein, Asimov, Neal Stephenson, Katherine Kurtz, L Sprague deCamp, Larry Niven and Ursula Le Guin, though I haven't re-read most of them in ages.

But I read way more non-fiction that fiction. For light entertainment, I love Barbara Tuchman, Stephen Jay Gould, Richard Dawkins, Jared Diamond, and Scientific American, but those are just the tips of a very large iceberg. Specific recent faves include Sex at Dawn, Guns Germs and Steel, The World Without Us, The Ancestor's Tale, and Collapse.

Movies: I love movies. Besides having a large home collection and a maxed-out Netflix queue, I also normally see three or four per month in the theatre. I have always enjoyed action, SF, action, comedy, animation, and cult movies, and have friends who have introduced me to the charms of horror.

My favorite movies - that is, the ones I have often re-watched - include Sherlock Holmes, Inglorious Basterds, Casino Royale, The Godfather I& II, Goodfellas, Big Trouble in Little China, The Incredibles, Sin City, Pulp Fiction, Star Wars (NOT 'A New Hope' - I mean the *original*), Casablanca, Catch-22, The Dark Knight, Chinatown, The Matrix, and (the standard against which I judge all other movies) Aliens.

I'm also quite fond of an obscure little vampire flick called Innocent Blood, which contains everything I could ever want in a movie (darkness, humor, love, trust, vampires, blood, action, nudity, sex, violence, handcuffs, and a strong female lead, all played by the delightful Anne Parrilaud of La Femme Nikita), *PLUS* is set in the Pittsburgh neighborhood that I used to live in!

Music: I'm not big on listening to music - I much prefer quiet. But when I do, I prefer classical and folk, with some classic rock thrown in. As far as I'm concerned, Loreena McKennit is the voice of the Goddess. I also like Clannad, Enya, Kiva, The Eagles, Pat Benatar, and (I hesitate to admit it) old Madonna songs. In classical, I prefer the late romantic tone poems of Debussy, Sibelius, and Richard Strauss.

Foods: Sushi. Dim Sum. Ice cream. Thai. Good steak. Milk chocolate - I know most chocoholics prefer the dark stuff, but so long as I get my Cadbury's, I don't mind being them calling me Mr. Philistine.

And in the 'they didn't ask but I'm telling you anyway department':

TV: TV has never been a big part of my life - the only reason I even bought an antenna was to watch Obama's inaguration, in fact. But my girfriend has cable, so I've been enjoying Elementary, Dr Who, Walking Dead, Dexter, Breaking Bad, True Blood, and not enough Game of Thrones this past year. I also enjoy watching DVDs of older series, most of which are now defunct. My faves are Sherlock, Bones, Battlestar Galactica, Heroes, Dexter, Family Guy, Buffy, and Monty Python. I also have collections of Xena, X-Files, Star Trek (original and TNG), Highlander, Homicide, and Robin Hood (the 80's BBC show).

Computer Games: Civilization series, the Fallout Series, Skyrim, Dragon Age series, Mass Effect series, Dishonored, Half-Life. And from the distant past: Railroad Tycoon, Panzer General, Red Baron, Wing Commander, Monkey Island, and the original Adventure.

Board Games: Pandemic, 7 Wonders, Settlers of Cataan, Rummikub, Munchkins, Fluxx, Tales of the Arabian Nights, Arkham Horror, Last Night on Earth.
The six things I could never do without
Friends. Books. Time. Love. Ice Cream.

And last but definitely not least, computers.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Writing, people and relationships.

But most especially, relationships. The way I see it, when I'm on my deathbed, I'm not going to look back and wish that I'd spent more time writing or watching movies or playing games - i.e. doing things with people in my head. Instead, I'm going to regret all the things that I never managed to do with the *real* people whom I love.

So, I spend a lot of time thinking about how I can do things that I love with people whom I love, and thus not have reason to look back and kick myself for having missed what's important in life.
On a typical Friday night I am
Camping somewhere, and if I'm not too tired from hiking, probably trying to catch some local entertainment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Is just about anything, really. I don't have secrets - if you're curious, just ask and I will happily tell.

But for right here, let me just state that when say I'm a nudist, I'm not kidding. I started going bare secretly as a kid, haven't worn clothes at home since I got my own apartment in college, have been going to nudist clubs and events for decades now, and all my partners for the last 20 years have either been - or became - at least part-time nudists themselves. On my travels, I try to stay in nudist clubs as much as possible. However, I don't impose my lifestyle on other people, and always put on a robe before answering the door.

Needless to say, nudism is kind of central to my lifestyle. If you don't want to deal with that, I totally understand. On the other hand, if you like going bare, too, then you're definitely someone I'd like to get to know.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You've read my profile and still want to get to know me :).

This will work best if OKC says we have at least a 90% match, which pretty much requires that you be smart, open-minded, politically liberal, supportive of LGBT rights, sex-positive, and some combination of poly, pagan, kinky, nudist, SF fan, or gamer - and the more of those you are, the merrier.

And if you have any interest in showing me some local sights, going hiking or camping with me, or meeting me at the CSPC or one of the local nudist clubs, all the better!