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39 M Sacramento, CA

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 33–43
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Oct 18
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from space camp
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
***I've been answering questions here for several years and it feels like my feelings/understanding of life is evolving - to that end I am deleting my questions and retaking them as I have time***

I grew up in Pacific North West on a wee island with no electricity. My skill sets are very diverse. I know many irrelevant facts and love to teach things to interested people. I can get caught up in a story and before I know it I've taken on different accents and mannerisms.

I have a passion for my car and I love weekend drives. Anytime I have to take a trip I always look for the twistiest route. If you enjoy spontaneous road trips, I'm the "guy" for you.

I'm a deep thought nerd who enjoys at all things car, computer, knowledge, and food.

I herd cats (doctors) at work. A friend asked me what I do, I stick it to the man. It's kinda fun.

I listen to NPR, read slashdot, Fark, The Oatmeal, and Savage Love. I'm fond of the Oxford Comma. The Onion
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working for The Man's in-laws (UC). I enjoy my job. Several non-profits have rencently encouraged me to participate on their boards. This is a wonderful new twist. Both are working for intersex rights.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, procrastinating...

Driving fast, fixing stuff, computers, random facts, cribbage, massage, cooking when I have someone to cook for. Thinking outside the box. Working on my car. Letter writing.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a big "guy". Super curly hair during the winter. In the spring I shave my head for St. Baldrick's fund raising.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Currently reading: The Prize. Carsick.

Books/authors: Shulgin, Pratchett, Hitchens, Plait, Roach, Heinlein, Lovecraft, Dawkings (sparingly). The Onion. Anything related to Intersex Activism. 5 Very Good Reasons to Punch a Dolphin in the Mouth, Lovelock, Shapin, Freakanomics, Waters, Savage.

Magazines: Car & Driver, Scientific American: Mind, Popular Science.

Movies: Cloud Atlas, Warm Bodies, Life of Pi, Fight Club, Lord of War, Memento, and many others. I'm fond of gritty dramas. Anything Coen. Serenity.

Shows: I do not have cable TV and haven't watched broadcast TV for several years. Breaking Bad, Stargate, The Wire, Firefly, IT Crowd, Dr. Who, Torchwood, Walking Dead.

Music: currently listening to a blend of 90s hard rock, DnB, and ambient trance/techno. I enjoy most kinds of music except christian rock and soprano sax smooth jazz - like Kenny G.

Food: I like food and am omnivorous. My theory about trying new things is that food poisoning only last for a couple of days and I will lose weight. Food poisoning sucks, I don't recommend it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sense of Humor
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Medical ethics, how to approach people on OKC, cars, computers, sex, buying a house, intersex activism, social justice, sex, driving twisty roads, planning drives that take the windiest roads, sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Hanging out with friends at coffee shops. Exploring Sacto hole-in-the-wall eateries.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm intersex. I'm not terribly fond of the boxes society tends to need. To that end, I sparingly call myself pansexual and monogamish.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you like to talk, dream, explore, and can write a decent sentence. If you are interested road trips, the best conversation comes during these excursions. Trying new foods. Exploring Sacramento's coffee scene. The "I'm looking for" section is woefully inadequate. A note on 'casual sex': it is not what I am looking for, but if it happens...ok.

I am involved with a wonderful person. My libido is super high and my SO encourages me to seek additional romping.