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GardenR

54 Portland, OR Woman

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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 45–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Sagittarius
Job
Medicine
Income
$20,000–$30,000
Status
Single
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has dogs and has cats
Speaks
English, Spanish
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I will be the one to giggle with you as we get sh** done. I will write you poems and with any luck collaborate on projects, art or otherwise. I’ll climb trees with you (and in fact would love to make it up in to high canopy, so if you have those kinda skills, you get extra stars). I will also strive for balance and remind you to take a break and lie in the sun or dip into the river and you may need to remind me too. I love those long cozy nights where we whisper to each other into the night and wake up making love in the morning. I will dance in the grocery store (or dance floor, or in the kitchen) with you, with or without music . I am slowly slowly learning an instrument or two (though in my head I play at least 10, all terrifically) but I can harmonize with almost any song you sing or play.

I am often the first to laugh at my own foolishness, and know that there is a bit of that, despite the grace I may display. I really love the flavor of refinement combined with a raw, untamed edge OR a more rugged exterior with high quality elegance and intelligence. I like this in my environment, my personal tastes, my friends and in my partner. The particular actual packaging is less important, really. SPARK is. A bit of flare to play with. What kind of fire you tend, what kind of fire we build together is what I am interested in. Emotional intelligence is very very sexy. (Do you know yourself? Do you know it is hard to know what is underneath the self that you know, do you want to know anyway?) Kindness, honesty and patience, in that order, can’t be cultivated enough, in my opinion. It feels imperative to build the type of relationship that we can both lean into and feel inspired and bouyed by; that we can be best friends that can’t quite get enough of each other. I imaging our hearts light, our life work prominent, our loving deep.

I have discovered that it takes time to know the nature of something. Myself included. Even with intense study. So, at first, I like to explore, take small sips, (try big gulps if I like it!) cultivate, interact, observe, build. I am very sensual, and curious, and passionate about many things, I do not tend to get bored, with life, or love. I have parts of me that can burst into a strong flame, quickly, but I prefer, for the sake of my heart or yours, to build slowly. All that being said, I am also moved by clear and strong intuition. If I get an internal “YES!” I tend to trust that and will follow that intuition, even without a clear understanding of where something is leading me and usually it works out. Perhaps I am a bit of a conundrum? Or maybe a puzzle that needs attention to find the clear patterns. I am also, however, very grounded. I consider how my actions effect the whole. It is a built in trait that I sometimes wish were not.

I am not this or that and I am also this AND that. I will perhaps stand out as more conservative among hippies, and more “free-living” among conservatives, more kind among the cynics, more edged among the those with rose colored glasses. I am not really middle of the road as I also have strong opinions, however, I do strive for “the middle path.” (If you get my reference) I like to see the big picture. I tend to be an often honored guest in many circles, but have yet to find that particular circle that feels just like home (even in those I have been the hub for) and I think I am alright with that. My closest friends are also bridgers, in this way and walk a varied path. (But if you have some sort of sweet community/family, that could also be nice too) Many flavors of folk are welcomed into my home and there is often laughter, music, a few different languages and skin tones, preferences, and very very good food. I like to remember as I walk through this world, that we are all actually looking for the same thing. If I had a super power it might be compassion. Astrologically, I am a fire sign with the blessing of a balance of earth and some Scorpio to add a nice bit of spice. My archetype might be some blend of librarian, artist, milk maid, wood sprite. Ha ha.

I tend to have a serious side with a focus on offering the best of me in service to this radically beautiful world. Sometimes, I forget to offer the best of me to me, but I am working on it and believe in it. I meditate, eat organically, (for both deliciousness and political/environmental reasons). I put my nose to tasks and get things done, sometimes at a blazing pace, sometimes more like the way seasons return again and again. I am not afraid of things I don’t know or understand and I strive to understand them. I would be over joyed to find a sweet love that has similar ways to them. Maybe a bit un-peg-able. An authentic nature loving, song singin', slow dancin' long kissin' mystic? Maybe even a bit strong flavored, but kind about it, who is skilled at listening to himself, me, and all that surrounds him and thinks farm/country livin’ with a little cutie sounds just great.

Whatcha think? Could it be you?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I seem to really be focused on the Natural world these days. Getting crops in is high on the list. Deepening friendships is also pretty important.
I am exploring new freedom. I have grown kids that blessed me up by entering my life when I was but a kid myself.
I am a massage therapist/ herbalist, nutritional/coach/ intuitive/Artist/Film maker/Farmer....
I am getting to know the new farm; studying,collecting and processing a lot of herbs. Expanding my knowledge of folk medicine. Treating clients. Striving for balance. Wondering how to satisfy my fire sign tendencies with my earth sign slow moving heart and nervous system. Listening deeply. Getting to know my shadow. Escaping the city. Dancing. Laughing. Writing. singing. Getting to listen to some amazing music often played in my living room and sometimes adding my voice to the mix. Paying attention. Enjoying my world. Learning to take my time. Eating some off the hook food and sharing it with friends. I have some really swell friends.

I just began working with tuning forks with surprising results...notice the wild holster in the pics I made for them...ha ha.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to the body and following instructions. Reading between the lines. My thumbs are pretty verdant green. Compassion is pretty high up there. I have a certain type of courage. I am fairly steady. Pretty good at finding something worthy in any situation. I am a good combo of Artistic but grounded. I have scary good intuition that I sometimes ignore. Most likely I can make you laugh.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Hmmm, perhaps that I listen? I am not afraid of eye contact but I don't burn a hole in your retina. I notice things. Possibly the way I could exhibit fantastic grace followed by uncanny dorkiness.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Oh. So many. I love Kurosawa, Almodovar, Miyazaki, Greenaway, Miranda July, Sofia Coppola, and so many more. (I am not above watching some really kinda stupid stuff too,) Books: I am reading The Good Life, I loved Jump off creek, The dirty life, Mink River, Forth Uncle on the Mountain, but mostly I am wallowing in farming and herb books which make me giggle these days. Loving me some Americana in terms of Music lately. Learning to sing some. But my tastes in all things tend to have a pretty full range.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
kissing.
silence.
light
dark
earth.
air
fire.
water.
love.
laughter...
touch
forest
generosity
ability to turn the wifi off!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Community. Interconnectedness. Authenticity. What it really means to unconditionally love someone. Pondering Chinese medicine, I never tire of it's depth. And love...it is mysterious....I am a life long student, for sure.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
As of now....there is no typical anything.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
well, almost anything under the right circumstances.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You feel some kinda spark.
You want to be known and you are interested in knowing.
You like taking your time.
You are happy in your skin.
You know how to be a best friend.