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46 • San Francisco, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 32–43
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Today – 2:30am
- Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible, Demisexual
- 6′ 0″ (1.83m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Not at all
- Other, but not too serious about it
- Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
- Working on masters program
- Strictly monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Poorly)
I'm a Designer. I really love my job and am grateful for it.
I do not own a TV, but I did just by a drum set.
I love cardamom pods and the smell of old LPs. And buoy (navigation aid) horns.
KCRW fan. Not a burning man fan (although I've been in '94, '95 and '96) It's great if you like Burning Man but it's a bit of a story why I don't go and I'm happy to share it.
I like randomly starting chat sessions with OKC-ers... you have been warned.
I find this funny:
I'm an INFP on the Meyers Briggs, and a cancer-monkey if you care about Chinese astrology.
I volunteer at SFJAZZ to keep the faith ;) although I'm not religious in any traditional way.
I'm fascinated by bathymetric maps and underwater topography - like what the bottom of the east river in NYC is like.
I'm articulate and painfully self-aware. My parents are still together. I am the oldest of 3.
I don't have any tattoos. Or a beard.
I'm a great cook but rarely follow a recipe. Not a big manual reader either, just lemmie at it and Ill figure it out.
I'm basically trying to make myself a better person all the time and this has it's highs and lows. And I don't like vegan ice cream at all.
I haven't figured everything out by a long shot but believe me being able to share the gory details and being vulnerable about it is one of my greatest assets. You may get the impression I like sharing, and will probably like the fact that you think I just 'get' you.
Let's remember none of us are perfect. We're works in progress, and this is an inaccurate and often funny process.
I'm sure we all try to polish up some image of ourselves to appear as some ideal but usually after some time of getting to know someone you discover a slightly different reality... and while we get there it's just a process of discovery we need to be devoted to maintaining in an openminded and hopefully loving and humorous way.
I'm also seeing there is a difference between meeting someone on this site, for example, and genuinely "attracting" the right partner into your life. The former can be self-centered and self-serving, the latter requires a different kind of mindset - I'm trying to act to draw the right partner to me, rather than merely acquiring one on a site like this. Wish me luck :)
Trying to go to the gym or yoga more.
Trying to play the drums more.
Being shit scared!! I kind of like it though. I feel like if I'm not shit scared I'm being extremely safe. Maybe that's an anxious approach to life but I would argue otherwise. I think most of my fears , warranted or unwarranted are like oars I can steer my life with. And if you're scared of something and do it anyways, the effects are exhilarating.
Picking what record to put on next
never having a good joke to tell
Records, records, records. I love me my hi-fi. Lately I'm liking these:
Hank Mobely + Husky + The Head and the Heart + Cave Singers + Sleepy Sun + The Lonely Forest + The Middle East + Jesse Woods + Fleet Foxes + Oliver Nelson + Cayucas + Red House Painters + Heartless Bastards + a whole lot more old and new.
I can generally find something in any piece of music that I can map back to a part of my life somehow.
Even more stuff I like:
shit like that...
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