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46 San Francisco, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–43
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
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Sapiosexual, Heteroflexible, Demisexual
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, but not too serious about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Working on masters program
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Please don't make me read another profile that explains you like or are good at "kissing". I mean... right? C'mon.

Also, just putting this out there...If you think we'll get along just propose we get some coffee or food, and I'll do the same - not a big deal at all. I like just meeting people and getting a sense of who you are in person. If we hit it off, great... - I like getting to know people slowly and would prefer to just widen my circle of friends at first than to think an automatic partner will appear. I hope that takes the pressure off. Just getting to know a nice human being is fine too!

I'm usually pretty reserved and quiet up until that time I decide to say something which makes those around me go "...woah that was intense...".

I have my share of personal emotional areas of life and relationships that are constant points of some frustration but also great opportunity and I am generally always in the zone of being overwhelmed by them but am very open everything...

I haven't figured everything out by a long shot but believe me being able to share the gory details and being vulnerable about it is one of my greatest assets. You may get the impression I like sharing, to the point of oversharing.

I'm a Designer. I really love my job and am grateful for it.

I do not own a TV.

I just bought a drum set.

I love cardamom pods and the smell of old LPs. And buoy (navigation aid) horns.

KCRW fan. Not a burning man fan (although I've been in '94, '95 and '96) It's great if you like Burning Man but it's a bit of a story why I don't go and I'm happy to share it.

I like randomly starting chat sessions with OKC-ers... you have been warned.

I find this funny:

I'm an INFP on the Meyers Briggs, and a cancer-monkey if you care about Chinese astrology.

I volunteer at SFJAZZ to keep the faith ;) although I'm not religious in any traditional way.

I'm fascinated by bathymetric maps and underwater topography - like what the bottom of the east river in NYC is like.

I'm articulate and painfully self-aware. My parents are still together. I am the oldest of 3.

I don't have any tattoos. sorry. Or a beard.

I'm a great cook but rarely follow a recipe. Not a big manual reader either, just lemmie at it and Ill figure it out.

I'm basically trying to make myself a better person all the time and this has it's highs and lows. And I don't like vegan ice cream at all.

Let's remember none of us are perfect. We're works in progress, and this is an inaccurate and often funny process.

I'm sure we all try to polish up some image of ourselves to appear as some ideal but usually after some time of getting to know someone you discover a slightly different reality... and while we get there it's just a process of discovery we need to be devoted to maintaining in an openminded and hopefully loving and humorous way.

I'm also seeing there is a difference between meeting someone on this site, for example, and genuinely "attracting" the right partner into your life. The former can be self-centered and self-serving, the latter requires a different kind of mindset - I'm trying to act to draw the right partner to me, rather than merely acquiring one on a site like this. Wish me luck :)
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm trying to be of more service, figure it out, be more balanced, be responsible, have good boundaries, and be happy.


Trying to go to the gym or yoga more.

Trying to play the drums more.

Being shit scared!! I kind of like it though. I feel like if I'm not shit scared I'm being extremely safe. Maybe that's an anxious approach to life but I would argue otherwise. I think most of my fears , warranted or unwarranted are like oars I can steer my life with. And if you're scared of something and do it anyways, the effects are exhilarating.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Sleeping. And walking. Self observation. Laughing at myself.

Picking what record to put on next

Spilling Coffee

Bad grammar



wasting time




killing plants

fiberglass reconstruction

tieing bowlines

never having a good joke to tell



drum breaks

using strava

cleaning records




The first things people usually notice about me
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My nose. My green eyes maybe. Good teeth? That my sarcasm doesn't fit my warmth.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I mainly read magazines... Metropolis is a fave.

Records, records, records. I love me my hi-fi. Lately I'm liking these:

Hank Mobely + Husky + The Head and the Heart + Cave Singers + Sleepy Sun + The Lonely Forest + The Middle East + Jesse Woods + Fleet Foxes + Oliver Nelson + Cayucas + Red House Painters + Heartless Bastards + a whole lot more old and new.

I can generally find something in any piece of music that I can map back to a part of my life somehow.

Even more stuff I like:

low roar
john fullbright
Nick Drake
Terry Callier
Beastie Boys

shit like that...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Meaningful connections with people. Music. Fresh basil. Lint roller. Record cleaner. Coffee grinder.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My Career. Relationships. How to improve or understand myself. How to quit living in my head too much. Mentoring.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm at the movies, or home listening to records while blasting through QuickMatches ;)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have never seen breaking bad.
You should message me if
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You are up for making a friend, getting coffee, having a real conversation. Be sincere and able to deal with just about anything.