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51 M Silver Spring, MD

My Details

Last Online
Today – 2:17am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Me? A closet introvert who likes public speaking; I pace when I talk yet I'm the calmest one around; analytical yet expressive. Part west coast, part east coast I guess -- friendly, relaxed, even-tempered, but also intellect and emotion and drive. If this doesn't make sense to you then join the club.

I'm from the SF bay area but have been in DC a while doing work I believe in. Got my dream job, a leadership position in the federal government. Quit recently in favor of self-employed consulting and a saner life.

Random things about me:
-- Want to leave the world better than I found it. Hard to do but I like trying.
-- Funny in a dry way, mostly to entertain myself.
-- Done triathlons and century rides but not a fanatic. OK, maybe I alternate between dedicated and slothful.
-- Not a lawyer but written plenty of laws.
-- Solid liberal but not a ranter.
-- City mouse.
-- Probably too smart for my own good. Did college in 3 years because, well, I was impatient.
-- Been around the world. I mean all the way around. You gain a day so bring an extra change of clothes.
-- Two terrific teenage boys I'm with part time. You'd have to be cool with that but it's not hard because they're awesome.
-- Write sentences without pronouns.

What I'm not:
-- Your dream dance partner. A lot of women on here LOVE to dance but it's just not my thing.
-- I own a tuxedo (hey, it's DC) but wearing it is NOT a priority.
-- Adventurous eater but not a "foodie." You could teach me!

There you have it: a list of stuff that doesn't really matter in the end. But what can you do? We're all here anyway giving it our best shot.
What I’m doing with my life
Looking to spend my time with good people. There's really nothing better. What we do together, well, that's not so hard. There's always 100 great choices around here.
I’m really good at
-- Reading people
-- Words, ideas, numbers
-- Fixing almost anything
-- Not a bad cook
-- Telling a good story
-- I've climbed some pretty high mountains
-- Listening
The first things people usually notice about me
Tall and trim.
Attentive and I know how to listen.
Lots to say too!
Been called a walking encyclopedia more than once.
Even tempered.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books -- history/non-fiction but loved the two Hilary Mantel books.
Movies -- mostly comedy but also some real oddball films. Blockbusters not really for me. I will skip "Spiderman XVII: Attack Of The Arthritis" if you don't mind.
Music -- all over the map, from post-punk to Wilco to opera. Decent on the guitar, slowly teaching myself piano.
Food -- love basically everything. Sushi, Mexican, Indian, on and on.
The six things I could never do without
I'm not so attached to things. I've lived the high life and I've lived in a jungle hut with no running water. Both are cool.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I think about what constitutes a life well lived, how to find the joy and how to make room for the tough parts too.
My work involves making cities great places to live so I think about that.
On a typical Friday night I am
OK, it's Friday night as I write this. I watched Pulp Fiction with my 17-year-old son. Anything with him is fun. (When it ended he said "I'm still not sure what that was about.") Otherwise I would have been at the Hamilton downtown at a friend's happy hour to meet new people, followed by dinner on 14th street.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
For me a relationship is measured by one standard: compelling to the point neither of us want to be without it. Where it goes from there who knows. Another way of saying it is I'm open to pretty much anything!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–53
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
I don't know. You're cool and smart and think I might be too?