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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 29–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
May 30
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Not at all
Other and laughing about it
Has kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I'm a widower who doesn't like writing about himself. I like science fiction, fantasy, filk, sf cons, gaming, geek culture in general, open relationships, polyamory, sex-positive environments, and having a good time. Willing to try almost anything, so long as I have someone who wants to do it with me.

I am a whimsical punster. You have been warned.

I am strange, nice, silly, and (more than) a bit kinky
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to figure out what I want to do with this thing called "life", now that my kids are mostly grown and my wife is gone. Trying to have a social life. Working as a professional computer geek.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Explaining things.
Tying women up and making them like it.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm overweight and talk too much. That is if they notice me at all.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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(A) Science fiction, fantasy, and mysteries, especially Robert Heinlein, Terry Pratchett, Larry Niven, David Webber, Roger Zelazny, J.K. Rowling, Douglas Adams, and a wide variety of stuff. (B) Not usually a big movie watcher, but I like old movies, good science fiction (rare), good fantasy (rare), The Princess Bride (also the book), the Harry Potter movies, and quirky/off-beat/weird/geeky movies. (C) a lot of different music, but most especially a wide variety of filk. (D) Italian, seafood, sweet and sour chicken or pork, steak, and pizza. Many others, especially if they are bad for me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends, family, my computer, fandom, air, and sex. Not necessarily in that order.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How our world is being made better and worse by technology, and what we can do about it. And sex.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, at the CSPC, or on a date.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am poly and kinky. Specifically, while I don't require either in a relationship, I am a rope top and a Dom.
You should message me if
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You know me or would like to know me.
You are poly, open, or a swinger.
You like geeks.
You are interested in bondage or D/s.
You are into whimsy and puns.