Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a total dork. I geek out about everything from the evolution or
lack thereof of languages over time to sailing to video games and
I try to be genuine in every aspect, and surround myself in my life
with whimsy, honesty, joy, and delight. To walk a path of social
justice as an imperfect, improving ally and to try to make the
world a better place.
I rock out in my chair to Van Canto and Vanessa Mae, to Freedom
Call and Shostakovich.
I like sitting around in cafes talking about books and the nature
of humor, and I like exploring steam tunnels and buildings that
used to be munitions factories.
I consider all parts of the Bay Area that can be reached by some
combination of Caltrain, BART, and Muni to be local to me.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Working as a QA Lead for a construction software company, focusing
on process and automation improvements. Occasionally managing to
make useful progress on editing my novel, or one of the several
other side-projects (mostly video game related) that I have on the
backburner. Reading books both old and new, and learning how to
cook new foods (I wonder if I could make a citrus-infused chili?
That sounds tasty).
Trying to lose weight and get back in shape. With my family's
history of diabetes and heart/cholesterol problems, my current
state of physical health is not apocalyptic, but is still a
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being really enthusiastic about everything. Laughing, emergency
medicine, verbal sparring, cooking, enjoying peoples' company,
video games, making (terrible) puns, watching das cursorblinken,
cuddling, and learning intently from person and every occasion in
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have long hair and I, unconsciously, obfuscate in a polysyllabic
fashion occasionally. I'm bouncy and grin a lot, and I giggle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Anything by Terry Pratchett
or Lois McMaster
. Recently finished re-reading Wildbow's Worm, an
absolutely amazing urban-grimdark superhero web serial. Have fallen
in love with Marie Brennan
's "Lady Trent"
series, starting with "A Natural History of Dragons".
, and The Princess Bride
again, among a host of others. Have been really, really enjoying
the recent run of Marvel movies.
Food: Stir fry, baked chicken leg quarters, steak, sushi, chili...
there's very little I don't enjoy cooking and even less I don't
enjoy eating, but I do not eat bacon and I generally dislike cooked
, Tom Lehrer
, Jonathan Coulton
Shostakovich, Vanessa Mae
Webcomics (Come on, it's relevant): xkcd
, Schlock Mercenary
, Girl Genius
, Order of the
, Dresden Codak
, Guilded Age
. More recently:
Wondermark, Scenes From a Multiverse, and PS238.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sarcasm, good company, shelter, knowledge, sea-spray off a
sailboat's bowsprit, and carbon - hey, it may be relatively inert,
but you just try and model an ecosystem without it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Computers, all the amazing things we take for granted in our
society, sex, kink
music, TVTropes (it will ruin your life!), questioning the nature
of society, how awesome it is that companies are making sex toys
that are actually well-engineered rather than shitty novelty items.
The roots of preference, both in terms of the abstract (the notion
of preference itself and the development of the manifestation of
preferences) and the concrete (a particular person's preferences).
The potential reasons for why a particular person does or does not
reply to emails written one way or another. The best way to ask
"what is your preferred gender pronoun" without turning it into a
referendum on gender signalling and identity; how much I enjoy
arguing about signalling and identity.
Why some of the double-bracketed phrases in my profile create tags,
and some don't.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having Shabbat with my family. I don't practice much in the way of
Judaism, but Shabbat has always been a family tradition sort of
thing, and it's an excuse to spend time with my parents and
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm quite kinky, though in an "in the bedroom" rather than
"lifestyle" kind of way.
I have a deep and abiding love of certain genres of music that I
cannot explain. Why do I love acapella covers of pop songs?
Stratovarius's cover of Depeche Mode? I don't know.
I'm polyamorous. More shamefully, I see nothing wrong with mixing
Greek and Latin roots.
I get a full STI panel every three months. Negative on all counts
every time, but why be uncertain?
You should message me if
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... you think that sometimes, a sunny day demands cuddling in
Dolores Park with a book; and that sometimes, the rare storm
demands cuddling on the couch with the fireplace on reading a
... you want someone to nerd out with!
... if you need an activity buddy, whether that's working out,
watching movies, going on hikes, urban exploration, board games, or
a book club.
... you think "Whenever I see you, you set all my inodes aflutter.
So how about we cd to your homedir and fsck all night long." is a
hilarious-though-eye-rolling, pickup line.
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