Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
My life, as with this profile, is defined by enthusiasms.
I'm enthusiastic about whimsy, honesty, joy, and delight. About
social justice and being an ally, and about improving myself with
an understanding of my own privilege.
I'm enthusiastic about open relationships. I give of my love and
affection unstintingly, and wind up with more still to give than I
I'm enthusiastic about being a geek and a nerd, about looking like
a dork while I rock out to Vanessa Mae or Van Canto, and about the
I told someone once that her thermal equilibrium was noticeably
higher than ambient temperature. Perhaps relatedly, I have been
described as "someone who could dull a drawer full of prescription
narcotics". I'm enthusiastic about that, too.
I like sitting around in cafes talking about books and the nature
of humor, and exploring steam tunnels and buildings that used to be
munitions factories. I like playing video games and used to be
almost competitive in skiing.
I'm a QA Engineer with a focus on blackbox testing. My job is to
break peoples' code, and I love it.
I consider all parts of the Bay Area that can be reached by some
combination of Caltrain, BART, and Muni to be local to me.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working as a QA Engineer (or looking for work in same, between
contracts). Occasionally managing to make useful progress on
editing my novel, or one of the several other side-projects (mostly
video game related) that I have on the backburner. Reading books
both old and new, and learning how to cook new foods (I wonder if I
could make a citrus-infused chili? That sounds tasty).
Trying to lose weight and get back in shape. With my family's
history of diabetes and heart/cholesterol problems, my current
state of physical health is not apocalyptic, but is still a
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being really enthusiastic about everything. Laughing, emergency
medicine, verbal sparring, cooking, enjoying peoples' company,
video games, making (terrible) puns, watching das cursorblinken,
cuddling and all sensual endeavors, and being awful at fashion
The first things people usually notice about me
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I have long hair and I, unconsciously, obfuscate in a polysyllabic
fashion occasionally. I'm bouncy and grin a lot, and I giggle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: Anything by Terry Pratchett
or Lois McMaster
. Recently finished re-reading Wildbow's Worm, an
absolutely amazing urban-grimdark superhero web serial.
, and The Princess Bride
again, among a host of others. Have been really, really enjoying
the recent run of Marvel movies.
Food: Stir fry, preferably homemade. Or really good sushi.
, Tom Lehrer
, Jonathan Coulton
Shostakovich, Vanessa Mae
Webcomics (Come on, it's relevant): xkcd
, Schlock Mercenary
, Girl Genius
, Order of the
, Dresden Codak
, Guilded Age
. A few others, too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sarcasm, good company, shelter, knowledge, sea-spray off a
sailboat's bowsprit, and carbon - hey, it may be relatively inert,
but you just try and model an ecosystem without it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Computers, all the amazing things we take for granted in our
society, sex, kink
music, TVTropes (it will ruin your life!), questioning the nature
of society, how awesome it is that companies are making sex toys
that are actually well-engineered, rather than shitty novelty
items. Why anyone would ever want to meet a potential friend for
the first time at a large, mostly-hostile gathering in a bar. The
potential reasons for why a particular person does or does not
reply to emails written one way or another. The best way to ask
"what is your preferred gender pronoun" without turning it into a
referendum on gender signalling and identity; how much I enjoy
arguing about signalling and identity.
Why some of the double-bracketed phrases in my profile create tags,
and some don't.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Having Shabbat with my family. I don't practice much in the way of
Judaism, but Shabbat has always been a family tradition sort of
thing, and it's an excuse to spend time with my parents and
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I hold no personal secrets. Unless there's privileged information
(other peoples' secrets, NDA'd information), I will answer
absolutely any question in full and with complete honesty. It's a
conscious quirk, and one of the cornerstones of my moral compass.
Don't believe me? Try me.
I'm quite kinky, though in an "in the bedroom" rather than
"lifestyle" kind of way.
I have a deep and abiding love of certain genres of music that I
cannot explain. Why do I love acapella covers of pop songs?
Stratovarius's cover of Depeche Mode? I don't know.
I'm polyamorous. More shamefully, I see nothing wrong with mixing
Greek and Latin roots.
I get a full STI panel every three months. Negative on all counts
every time, but why be uncertain?
You should message me if
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... you want to build a railgun with me at Double Union (or
... you want to watch some show together, or go to new food-places,
need a workout buddy, or just want company for mundane things in
extraordinary places or extraordinary things in mundane
... you're interested in discussing the troubling implications of
adopting a consequentialist paradigm of decision-making.
... you would never expect me to lie.
... you think "Whenever I see you, you set all my inodes aflutter.
So how about we cd to your homedir and fsck all night long." is a
hilarious pickup line. (via krasnotron, RIP)
... you think the distinction between strong gender or sexual
identity and functional-descriptor weak identity is an important
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