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  • Ages 30–55
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Last online
Yesterday – 4:49pm
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly other
Not at all
Other, but not too serious about it
Scorpio, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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I am on the free version of the service, so I will not know if you push the "Like Me" button.

I am hoping to find a new companion, best friend & lover, (& hoping I can be that for you)!

I'm a good person. I have strong communication skills, & can be very supportive. I can also be a very good friend to someone I care about. Once I learn to trust you, I am good at being present, appropriately vulnerable & sharing my feelings.

I'm looking for openness, honesty & total trustworthiness, & offer the same. I really want to be with someone who is both physically & emotionally available to participate in a relationship

Bottom lines in addition to the above are no smokers, no recreational drug users, & either non or VERY LIGHT drinkers.

It's also very important to me that we like & respect each other for who we both already are today. I consider it silly to date someone for "their potential", in hopes they will love the other enough to change.

Mutual communication is extremely important to me. I want to know my partner & I want to be known.

My favorite things to do include music, movies, being with my cats, talking, cuddling, making love & anything to do with the Ocean/Beach.

I like going out to eat, watching live music, spending time with friends, vacations, walking on the beach & getting out in general & spending time at home with (hopefully) my future significant other & my cats.

Definitely willing to try new things (your interests) too.

I'm politically pretty far left. I have been wanting to get involved with something(s) that would make our world a better place for the people (& animals) that live here & in an ideal world would strip all power from the corporations.

Though my life has been totally focused around my business from 1998-around 2012; I really prefer having fun to working. I was a professional musician off & on in my 20's & 30's & those were the happiest times of my life.

I am 57 years old, 5'9", Aprox 225 pounds. (& hoping to walk this summer & take some off!)

For those into Briggs-Meyer, I am an INFJ & that seems pretty accurate. I tend to intuit answers rather than research them.
What I’m doing with my life
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I've been self employed with a home based internet business since 1998. Been going through a lot of changes the last couple years, due to the business largely failing & a series of losses.

I spent many years in in 12 step recovery (24 years with no chemical or alcohol relapses). I also do paid (Tech) work on the world level for a 12 step group as my 2nd job

Lots more stuff I do enjoy & will enjoy doing with my life than just the above!

The short version is that my goals are
1. Health
2. Enough $'s to pay the bills
3. Happiness
4. Love
5. Dealing with bureaucracies without totally losing it!

Finding that mythical fountain of youth &/or winning the lottery would be pretty cool too!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Getting along with Felines
Computers (I'm great at cleaning (mostly other people's) viruses, lol!)
Problem solving - helping to find a solution that works for all
Honoring Commitments/Being Accountable
I have a good sense of humor
Being Open & Honest
I'm intelligent
Being respectful & considerate
Can have a high level of positive intensity & affection with the right partner.
Seeing both sides of an issue (well except for politics..)
Willing to admit when I'm wrong (though it may take a day or 2!)
The first things people usually notice about me
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I don't have a clue. My sadly thinning, long hair?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Sci-Fi, some history, biographies, self help & film/music books. Currently reading a Jules Verne Anthology. I'm also good at writing short factual articles & reviews.

Movies: Silent German Expressionism, "Art" Films, Classic Horror, Intelligent Drama, Cult, Early USA Pre Code (before mid 1934), Noir. Last movie I saw in a theater: Dark Shadows (I thought it was hilarious, but as you can tell, I don't get to theaters very often!). Currently watching an HBO Bessie Smith biopic.

My favorite modern actor is Johnny Depp. If I had to pick a fav modern actress it would probably be Franke Potente. My fav classic actresses include Norma Shearer, Joan Crawford, & Brigitte Helm. Fav classic actor is Edward G Robinson, along with James Cagney, Humphrey Bogart, Lon Chaney Sr, Bela Lugosi & Boris Karloff.

Fav current directors are Woody Allen & Tim Burton. Fav classic directors (mostly non USA) are Ingmar Bergman, FW Murnau, George Pabst, Fritz Lang, Andrei Tarkovsky, Rainer Werner Fassbinder & Carl TH Dreyer.

Shows: If by shows you mean TV, awhile back I discovered a wonderful Australian drama series, "Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries". Breaking Bad was a "guilty pleasure" (& I started watching the related "Better Call Saul"), but that's about it other than the weekly Seahawks game in the fall & winter.

Music: I am a former professional Musician, & LOVE music. I prefer a combination of emotion AND talent. I like intelligent classic rock, singer song-writers, progressive rock, jazz (especially classic; I'm a Duke Ellington fan), some alternative rock, country ROCK, some accessible non traditional folk, instrumental classical (I hate opera) & lots more. Some of my fav artists at the moment are Lisa Loeb, Ani DiFranco, CSNY, Steven Wilson/Porcupine Tree, Grateful Dead, Jack Bruce, Joni Mitchell, Frank Zappa, Wishbone Ash & David Bowie. High quality audio systems have been a hobby for many years. While there are a few newer artists I like, I've done a pretty poor job of keeping up with most new artists this century. (I REALLY like Adele, though, & recently discovered Transatlantic & Anathema). Lately I've been on a Jack Bruce & Cream kick. Last cd I played was a compilation from the 80's Live Aid benefit.

I DON'T Like: Hip Hop, (c)Rap, etc; Country, Opera, Hard core punk & metal, & most "lowest common denominator pop".

Food: I like Vietnamese, Italian, Greek, Thai, Indian, Mexican, Chinese & Seafood to name a few. I wish I was a vegetarian from a moral (& these days financial!) point of view, but I do eat meat.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. My Cats (in my opinion whatever your opinion of a "God"; cats are that being's gift to the human race; though sometimes they seem to think they are Gods!)

2. Music
3. Daily bathing
4. Classic Film
5. Thoughtful Discussion
6. Cuddling & affection (thank goodness for cats!)
7. Laughter (Especially at myself!)
(OK, so it's 7!)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Personal growth.
How to make life better (both mine & all people's)
Finding my new (& likely last) home
How to enjoy my advancing age (so far it's a challenge)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Listening to music, playing on the computer (yes, I'm still on XP & pretending that I'm pc security conscious enough to get away with it; I actually just hate change!) or watching a movie at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Ask me!!!! (Once I know you I'm an open book)
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Ladies, if I sound interesting, please don't hesitate to write. I am not at all shy once I get to know you, but I am LAME at initially reaching out!