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  • Ages 26-44
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My details

Last online
Apr 23
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Judaism and laughing about it
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I write stories. i grow vegetables. i write down my dreams. i make my dreams real. i'm smart and a little crazy. i was raised by strong, smart women. i like to keep the company of strong, smart women. i'm good at finding magic in unexpected places.

A charmingly grandiose old lover used to call me "The Patron Saint of Positive Sluttiness", a title I had a lot of fun earning.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I grew up in New York City and I just moved to Brooklyn at the end of September after being gone for a bunch of years. I run an organization with my friends that is actively changing the way we talk and think and heal through what gets called "mental health" and "mental illness." These days that means I do a lot of strategic planning and national organizing with amazing and brilliant people. I also get to travel around giving workshops and teaching classes on how to lead happier lives and revision the world into a more beautiful and just place.

I'm getting my MSW at night at Hunter and writing a lot of papers about social policy and race and class and gender. I'm developing a clinical practice on a popular education tool I'm developing a group of badasses. I'm getting ready to go travel in South America for a month and give talks in jangled rusty but soulful spanish.

Also, I wrote a book last year about time travel and revolution and spent 2 months on book tour.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
creating new combinations of unlikely things. using a digging fork and a rake and a pick-axe. getting into trouble and getting out quick. crafting metaphors for others to jump into. knowing just where to touch you.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Whatever they want to see
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
pues, lo que pasa es que hay un chingo de libros, peliculas, musica, comida que me gusta pero por al momento no voy a decir nada.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
journal, pen, lithium, duct tape, swimming goggles, time machine

i'm adding meditation and something i just wrote for one of the questions: I lived in a yoga ashram for a year where we meditated 30 min in the am and 30 min in the pm, every day. It changed my fucking life. Before I started meditating I never realized it was possible to practice awareness; that it was possible to train myself to be aware of meta-levels of thought; that I could find the part of myself that is compassionate and wise, and consciously act from that part, and not the scared, freaked out parts. I am a way more whole, together person because I have a meditation practice. And lets not even get started on what it did for my sex life...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to rewrite the rules of the game so that the scales tip. how to shake shit up from behind the scenes. how to share power. how history will look back at my actions. shameless sex fantasies involving people i probably shouldn't be fantasizing about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I'm still figuring that out. At the moment it involves tracking down old friends and wandering the streets.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
answer#1: I’m the kind of person that secretly loves being packed onto a really crowded subway car just to have the excuse to be near so many strangers.

answer #2: After many years of perfecting the art of loving and casual romance, I'm realizing that I want to keep the loving and be less casual. But I don't even seem to have language for it in my mouth or fingers. (at the moment though i'm just looking for casualness and nursing a broken heart.(
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
a. You're interested in spectacular brilliant casualness.
b. you have the crystal shard and want to go on an epic adventure to save the world
c. You're interested in the radical mental heath work I do (I'll tell you more.)
d. You have a good story