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41 M Sacramento, CA

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Last Online
Today – 7:24am
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Trying to quit
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm a relaxed, subtle, caring guy that really just wants folks to simply be happy.

Things I've done:

Lived in England for a year. Made great friends there, taught kids music, traveled Europe. Developed a deep love for pubs.

Listened to opera auditions in NYC a few times with my last job.

Played drums/percussion most of my life. Did the whole marching band/orchestra/musical theater circuit.

Taught myself guitar.

Former high school music director.

Former casting director for an opera company.

Just got my own place in Midtown, getting to know the area now.
What I’m doing with my life
Raising a cat, job shopping, getting to know the Sacramento area, riding my bike when possible.

Left a job that I loved to do in the San Jose Area, but, the boss was an abusive, senile, ego-centric liar. Could no longer abide. Moved to Sacramento to be near family and start anew.
I’m really good at
-staying calm in tense situations
-playing guitar for nobody
-making homemade tortilla chips (better and cheaper!)
-making friends with animals
-being on time (pet peeve is constantly late people...rude, man, rude)
-I have amazing parking karma....really, it's uncanny
The first things people usually notice about me
Shouldn't you be answering this?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
MUSIC: I'll listen to anything once. Music is a storytelling device and I'll hear what folks have to say. That said, the recent things I've been into are:
Eels, Radiohead, Morphine, Peter Gabriel, Primus, William Elliott Whitmore, Asylum Street Spankers, Guy Forsyth, Gogol Bordello, Muse (it's like Queen and Radiohead had a baby! and called it Muse!), Verdi, Feist, The Beatles, Mark Sandman, Vienna Teng...

-I can dig on just about any kinda jazz. Be-bop being way up there, but, ya gotta love the legendary ladies like Billie and Ella.

MOVIES: Wes Anderson, Lars Von Trier (that dude really likes to torcher his female leads...makes me cringe but they are fantastic to watch), Dark Crystal, Restoration, Christopher Nolan, Johnny Depp is one hell of an actor, Lord of the Rings Trio, Stanley Kubrick, Once, Everything is Illuminated, Full Metal Jacket

COMEDIANS: Mitch Hedberg, Doug Stanhope, Louis CK, Ricky Gervais, Tig Notaro, Sarah Silverman, Mike Birbiglia, Tim Minchin

FOOD/DRINK: Sushi, stinky cheese, Belgian and Microbrew beers. Starting to get a taste for bourbon...slowly. Very slowly.

RADIO: I listen to a few podcasts like The Moth, Radiolab, This American Life and whatever I may have missed on the radio. I go back over the old Ricky Gervais/Karl Pilkington shows when I need a good laugh. Timeless idiocy, that.

BOOKS/AUTHORS: Christopher Moore, Mil Millington, Chuck Palahniuk, James Morrow, JRR Tolkien, China Mieville, Neil Gaiman, Richard Dawkins, Christopher Hitchens, Tim Sandlin, Ben Elton, David Rakoff, David Sedaris, Lev Grossman, The Mongoliad Series...

*I dig me some graphic novels from time to time, as well (Sage, Walking Dead, Y the Last Man, Preacher, Sandman)

TV SHOWS: Trailer Park Boys, Walking Dead, Breaking Bad, BSG, Can't wait to see Cosmos,
UPDATE: no longer have cable. Time to catch up on Netflix!

Go Sharks and Go Packers!!!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
-how unfathomably, bloody huge the universe is and how small we are (been watching too much Nova, man, but they tell me it's big. Really big)

-my family



-And there's always some sort of rhythm going on in my head, if not a piece of music. Rarely a dull moment up there in my noodle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Nothing typical about Friday nights.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I could not stand the Seinfeld TV show. Annoyed me to no end.

Never read or watched any Harry Potter. I'm not anti, just never got around to it.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–44
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
-You want to meet a guy that will yell profanity at the Sharks games one night and extoll on the virtues of the minimalist composers of the 20th century the next, then passionately defend his socialist/atheist views the night after that...

-You like a good pub

-You are liberal-minded, patient, non-religious, like a good beer and know a good wine

-Are kind and compassionate, but, fight for what you believe in when necessary

- You'd like to show the new kid around town