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  • Ages 32–57
  • Near me
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Last online
Yesterday – 6:21pm
6′ 2″ (1.88m)
Body type
Mostly anything
Other, and very serious about it
Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from two-year college
Politics / Government
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Sign Language (Okay), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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OK first things pics added July 22, 2014. The newest pic is from May of 2014. So rather than start this the usual way, with lots of data and stats, like I'm 52, divorced, no children BLAH BLAH BLAH..or far worse,the ever lovable "I hate filling these things out..." because truth be told, I do not hate anything in life, I figure I'd start by just asking you some questions, and see if we are on the same path. So let's get started shall we? Ok so your first question is, Are you here hoping to find a man you can make happy in life? If so, I'm afraid this will be an exercise in futility for you here. You see, I AM HAPPY IN LIFE! Chances are if you're compatible with me on many levels, I will choose to be happy with you as well. So, moving on..Are you seeking, desiring a man that you can make whole and complete..and in turn will also make you whole and complete? Here again, I beat you to the punch. I AM WHOLE AND COMPLETE! Who amongst us is a truly incomplete individual? Are you at all interested in finding a partner who will love you and accept you for who you are? I may be able to do this, but first it is imperative that you can honestly say I LOVE AND ACCEPT MYSELF FOR WHO I AM! Expecting me to do something you aren't willing to do yourself?? Hardly seems fair now doesn't it? Are you looking for love in others? Chances are you're not going to find it. THE LOVE WE SEEK IS WITHIN OURSELVES! Lots of folks don't seem to get this concept. If I am devoid of love for myself, I certainly don't have any to share with you. As it is, I HAVE AN ABUNDANCE OF LOVE, PEACE, AND HAPPINESS TO SHARE WITH OTHERS! Many others as I'm non monogamous. Are you seeking a God-fearing "Christian" man? Well, I hate to disappoint but I REPLACE ANY FEARS IN MY MIND WITH LOVE AND FAITH! If you identify as Christian, I don't believe as you do at all most likely. As a Recovering Catholic, and spiritual being, I see no useful purpose but only harm in harboring feelings of guilt, fear, and unworthiness. I don't claim to be Atheist or Agnostic either though I do identify more closely with them. Same holds true for those who are Pagan and Wiccan. But..I have to be Something right?? I am something. I AM ONE WITH EVERY LIVING THING. I worship LIFE. All of life. Nature. Every tree, animal, insect, and yes even you humans who are hell-bent on destroying life. please stop doing this!! ALL LIFE IS SACRED! Yes this is truly how I live my life..with inner peace, joy, happiness, and love for all. I believe in the power of affirmations, like the above capitalized statements. I believe in meditation, channeling a positive energy flow, and removing negative thoughts from my mind. Ghandi_in_Lust was not just a name I picked out of a hat. I pattern my life after this great prophet..and others as well; Buddha, Jesus, and Muhammed. All great teachers who left incredible beautiful messages for living a rich divine life. As for the in_Lust part..Ghandi..In Lust?? Ghandi, I worship all of life. Is sexuality, sensuality, passion, not part of this?? Sex is to be revered, honored, shared, and explored to its fullest potential. Now please do not misunderstand. I'm not here just for sex or bootycalls. Rather I have the decency and intelligence to respect you and treat you as a woman, not an object. Funny how those who love a wide variety of sexual exploits are labelled as perverts. I enjoy many many different types of food. Does this make me a pervert? I enjoy many many different types of music. Does this make me a pervert? Or rather, a man with an adventurous spirit, willing to explore what all is out there, without judging or condemning the tastes of others? As with music and food, I have many many interests in the sexual realm as well. I'm kinky. I have fetishes. I also have an affinity for intimacy, sensuality, passion. Touching, caressing, long lingering kisses. Providing you with a soothing sensual massage. Back rub. Warm baths by candlelight with a nice bottle of wine. We all have our desires and they should not be denied, repressed, or hidden away, when sexual energy presents itself. I identify as straight but I accept and embrace all lifestyles. We love who we love. I love women. He loves other guys. SO WHAT?? If the "Christian" thing to do is to hate and demonstrate that hatred, I pass. I much prefer to accept what is, and love my neighbor. HMM Where have I heard that before?? I have many many interests outside the bedroom I assure you. Nature, the outdoors. Fairs and festivals. Anything artistic and cultural. Travel, weekend getaways.Bowling, pool, darts. Beaches. Good food, good drink, good intelligent conversation. Live music, movies..and someone to share them all with. Life is about experiences..let's start having a few shall we?? Namaste and Blessed be!
What I’m doing with my life
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Seeking, learning, living in the moment, the HERE and NOW. Some would say at 53 I'm over the hill. I completely disagree! I'm not over any goddam hill! Rather, you will find me on the top of the mountain of life at this age standing tall and proud!! I defy and dare you to come and join me! Always on the go. One adventure to the next. Please join me here as well..or kindly get the hell out of my way!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Maintaining peace and happiness whatever the situation. I see the good in everyone and everything! Meditating helps. I'm good at this as well. Providing soothing, sensual massages. I was told a few times I should do this professionally. Quite the compliment:) Providing amazing orgasms! Yet seeing you as a woman, not an object. A recent conversation indicates that I am apparently very good at just being used as a research project, or perhaps the subject for an upcoming paper, maybe a book. 1/15/2013 Apperently, I'm adept at answering questions on this site. OKCupid Staff robot just notified me I answered EVERY question!! I had no clue how many there were.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm tall, and humorous. I'm friendly, engaging and talk with everyone. I'm always helping someone, so if you see a guy climbing a tree to rescue a retarded cat or helping the little old lady who just fell, or the drunk, or the drunk old lady, it's probably me. Unless it isn't.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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**I don't have a favorite book or movie. Now Favorite TYPES of books are biographies, places of interest, books on art, books on spirituality. Current read is The Origin of Satan by Elaine Pagels, a favorite author of mine. .
**Favorite TYPES of movies are action, comedy, documentary, indie. I'm not oppsed to subtitles at all!!
OK will list one favorite movie, FitzCarraldo! Breathtaking film by Verner Herzog!
**Music isn't that important to me. However I wouldn't do without it as an art form. I enjoy it and love 60s, 70's, 80s rock, jazz. I was brought up on classical and it can be relaxing.
Instruments I love are cello, clarinet, good guitar. Yet none are as satiable as the human voice.
**Shows, I love Big Bang Theory, White collar, Burn Notice. Nat Geo, Discovery, History channels.
**Food..Italian, Mexican, Chinese, Thai, and Greek. Chicago deep dish pizza! Sushi?? No bait, please. I also pass on seaweed, kelp, freshwater fish, and mollusks. I also have no interest in dining on either testicles or tenticles!
Hmm how about fun sticky stuff to lick off each others' bodies??
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
WOW!! Great question here!! The universe offers so much..a vast unlimited amount of abundance..and I can only pick 6? 6 things I cannot live without? Vital to my very existence? Quite a daunting challenge here! I then require:
HAPPINESS/PEACE/ MY POSITIVE ATTITUDE (these 3 are tied together)
And above all..HONESTY!!

Rules shmules!! I'm adding a 7th item here..ART. Whether in a form that can be touched, seen, read, felt, expressed in any way, I need Art to survive. Those of you who can create artistically are held in a special place in my heart.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why is it, when I talk dirty to a woman it's called
Sexual Harassment, but when a woman talks dirty to me, it's called $3.99 a minute??
Also, Non monogamy. The environment. What is that on that tree? How women answer the question regarding 6 things they cannot live without, and why lip balm shows up far more often than honesty, compassion, or love. Gender, Race, and Gay issues, and why in 2015 they still exist.
To this end, when will people realize that gay marriage has nothing to do with politics or religion? It has to do with a force far greater than either of these..that force is LOVE!! If 2 people truly love one another why shouldn't they get married if they so desire? 2 PEOPLE!! Regardless of the lifestyle of these 2 people!!
Why does OKCupid's staff robot think I might like all these women in the Philippines?? Umm NO! I don't!
Why can't I meet a woman on my level of sexuality? Why can't religion just go away peacefully and die out? Which leads me thinking of this..
There seems to be a faction of religious zealots who take their religion very seriously, and wish to pass their views onto everyone. These people are wiling to die in the name of their deity and in many instances, even kill when they deem it necessary! Now have I just described Muslims? Or Christians??
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Coming home from work and immediately taking my pants the cleaners:)
O you dirty minded folks you!!:)
Typical Friday..I'm not at all typical. I don't expect my days of the week to be either. I might be home or out with friends or a date. I never know what I'm doing it until I am doing it:)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Well, I'm poly, kinky, a hedonist, an adventurist, some would say an ethical slut, and on fet. Fetishes are my friends:)
I'm much happier on beaches that are clothing-optional. I find clothes very confining. No, I'm not coming over and immediately stripping! I'm just more comfortable out of clothing than in them.
You should message me if
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Well first you SHOULD give me all your money, and a brand new car! And if it is as simple as that, just say what you should do, and expect that you will, hell, then by all means, you SHOULD show up at my doorstep completely naked! Truth is, you really shouldn't do anything at all in life unless you absolutely care to! I am very honest, open, and will never judge you, condemn you, or criticize you. I'll just accept you for who you are, regardless of whether you message me or not! :)
Now if you have a positive energy flow or want to know anything about energy flows, feel free to ask..or say hi:)
You may want to consider messaging me as I'm probably the one messaging you first:)
You are between the ages of I-Won't get-in-trouble-if-we-fool-around and You're-not-collecting-social security-yet! I'm open to anyone of any age, as long as you are an active participant in life. I'm sorry, but I'm not sitting in your backyard watching you play with your grandchildren. Let's take them out for an adventure somewhere, let them run around, explore that natural world.
Perhaps you desire to message me to discuss what we have in common:) Or to comment on any part of the above novel:)
If you are a right-wing conservative religious type you really shouldn't message me at all! (EDIT) Yes i'ts fine to message me, really! However if your intent is to preach to me or "save" me, no thanks! I consider these far too negative, and I just don't have room in the Garden of my Mind to be cultivating such weed thoughts!