I'm very kind, forebear judgment as long as possible, and will spin elaborate theories to explain how some real d*ck-wad moves could have originated from a good and pure heart (I pretty much assume everybody's got one, even if they may have lost it underneath a pile of sh*t).
In the same vein, I train myself to not overreact. Whether being cut off while driving or in a crowded room when the stove-top bursts into flame, my first instinct is to think twice before over-reacting. In a work environment, when everyone else is running around in a panic, I'll be the one holding down the stuff I always hold down, and trying to help out or contribute direction and insight at well-timed intervals.
Myers-Briggs INTJ (http://typelogic.com/intj.html), although I only took a rudimentary free test and I think I must be very middle-of-the-road on the Perceiving-Judging spectrum; INTP (http://typelogic.com/intp.html) has a lot of me in it, too, but doesn't read like nearly such a nice guy (to me: sorry INTP's). Apparently, INTJ's are supposed to be good companions with INFJ's -- and a search of OKC has born this out so far. ENTJ's seem like a good type for me (recommended as 'pals' on the typelogic.com site above).
I think of myself as a capacitor in a lot of situations; a kind of buffer absorbing extremes of positive and negative energy and releasing them again when they can be best put to use (or diffused most safely). For a very concrete example (pun not intended), when driving on the highway, I think constantly about managing following distance to absorb others' erratic speed changes and contribute to establishing the maximum CONSISTENT road speed for everyone around me. Thanks to my high-seated work truck, I can see like 50 cars ahead, and make adjustments before anyone else knows what's coming. As a city cyclist, I usually know what people driving in front of me are going to do before they do. As a bit of a wall-flower observer type, I don't analyze a lot but I rarely find myself totally surprised by the swerves people take in their 'road of life'.
I'm also the guy who puts the toilet paper on the roll spool when no one else seems to bother to figure this out. Granted, there are some unnecessarily confusing spool mechanisms out there, but how hard is this? What ELSE am I going to do, while I do the do?
Some quotes I like and that apply for me, from others' profiles:
1) "Someone who accepts me just as I am, yet encourages me when I choose to evolve further or face challenges -- alone and/or as a couple."
UPCOMING ACTIVITIES I'M UP FOR
*** Valerie June @ World Cafe Live! 10year anniversary Oct. 1st (tonight!) (sold out! got tix?) ***
*** Isaiah Zagar / Magic Gardens 10-year celebration Oct. 18th
*** Burger, shot, and beer at Rex 1516 on any Mon/Tues/Wed, only $15! ***
*** Afro-Cuban drumming jam most Sundays by Dickens statue in Clark Park (spring/summer/fall)(43rd betw Baltimore and Chester). ***
*** Kayaking (and/or canoing if you have one) anywhere in the region. Lock 60 on the Schulkill near Phoenixville is a low-key trip with no need to coordinate put-in and pickup (you can paddle the canal to get back up stream). ***