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GirlintheBar

24 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:02pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
Asian
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Leo
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English (Fluently), Chinese (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
UPDATE 2: Will be a minimalist for the next few weeks due to testing, so may be delayed in responding to messages. But definitely feel free to wish me good luck!

I don't usually respond to instant messaging, so PM me!

UPDATE : Hi guys! Thanks for the visit. Check out my music on sound cloud: https://soundcloud.com/stephanie-chen-music

Online Dating Motto: [In economic terms] optimally improving the quality of dates in favor of one's utility function in the long-run.

"When you don't have any money, the problem is food. When you do have money, it's sex. When you have both, it's health. If everything is simply jake, then you're frightened of death." - J.P. Donleavy

Do what makes you happy.
Won't stop until I get there.

MBTI: INTJ, Type A
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I completed my undergrad at NYU studying Economics and Chemistry (Yes. I am a nerd), in hopes of one day finding the missing link between the social and hard sciences. Currently, I've been placed at a company that uses neuroplasticity to help treat patients with ADHD, autism, dementia, Alzheimer's, and brain trauma damage. On the side, I'm working on a music project transposing pop music for violin. (If you listened to my soundcloud and had any suggestions or comments, please feel free to drop a line and let me know.)

I started using online dating just shy of a year ago after a string of long-term relationships that didn't seem to work out. Like most, at first, I was extremely skeptical of the idea of finding dates through a dating service. But, one of my close friends convinced me to sign-up and only after a few weeks in, online dating became one of my greatest assets for broadening my social circle. I went on some pretty wonderful dates, met a lot of great people in the city, and really got the chance to get to know myself better. Online dating sites don’t just give you the traditional experience of dating; they help you learn what really works and what doesn’t, and really quickly. I don’t think I’ll ever get over how magical a scientifically calculated algorithm can be, and for that, I find this to be truly amazing.

I'm always looking to meet new people. But, at the same time, I'm trying to grow as a person, so I'm looking for something that also works well and has the potential to become something more. Marsh gives a better perspective on the ideal lifestyle I'm searching for:

https://www.ted.com/talks/nigel_marsh_how_to_make_work_life_balance_work#t-475466

Message me if you want to hang out, grab coffee, drinks, or food, or, just to get to know me a little better. I’m usually up for anything, so let me know and I'll get back to you as soon as I can. :)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
If you have a serious question for me, you're going to have to meet me to find out :) I suggest we talk - preferably over coffee, tea, beer, or wine - when we meet. Locals. You're solution to this madness. I'm usually around midtown, so you know what to do...

However, for those of you who are hesistant to the whole meeting up thing, for starters, apparently, I'm fantastic at answering mass amounts of OKC questions. Ever seen anyone else with such a high number of answered questions? It took me the first month to get that done - Disclaimer: Not all answers may be accurate now. Life's always changing.

Regardless, if you do have a higher total for answered questions on this site (which, I haven't found anyone who has yet), or come close to the amount I have - first of all, congrats - and secondly, you should seriously message me. We'd probably find a lot of things in common: i.e. work-ethics related issues. At least that's my psych analysis on that.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Looks, height, relative intelligence, followed by the subtle but charming wit, and then the full character (generally, in that order). But, color me biased - someone has to sell me for me, right?

Nevertheless, you are free to come to the same conclusions on your own time. ;)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
TV Shows: Mad Men, White Collar, Lie to Me, Community, New Girl, Arrested Development, Pushing Daisies, Modern Family, 30 Rock, Greek, Grey's Anatomy, How I Met Your Mother, Law & Order SVU, Numb3rs, The X-Files, Doogie Howser, M.D., 90210

Movies: TiMER, Cafe, Original Sin, 500 Days of Summer, Inception, W;t, Under the Hawthorne Tree, House of Flying Daggers, Law Abiding Citizen, The Shining, 28 Days Later, Zombieland,Hot Fuzz, Shaun of the Dead, Suckerpunch, Kickass, Fantastic Mr. Fox,Moonrise Kingdom,Harry Potter, Up, Ratatouille, Cabin in the Woods (thanks to an incredibly persuasive debater usernamephobic

Literature: Rebecca, Speak, Stargirl, Flowers for Algernon, Catcher in the Rye, The House of the Scorpions, Hunger Games, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, etc...

Lately, I've been listening to a lot of alternative on Pandora and Spotify. However, I used to play in an indie rock band as the violinist, and I personally feel that it's the music you play for yourself that sounds the best. Classical is by far my favorite and I don't think anything will ever change that.

Food: Italian, French, Thai, Japanese, Korean, Afghan, homemade Chinese, and an assortment of desserts

However, I've been on more of a health fringe lately - which included a 6-week pescatarian phase, and a 8-month tea obsession phase - still currently under revisions.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
the 5 basic needs*, the ability to feel emotions, meaningful conversations, healthy and unhealthy obsessions, time, and second chances.

*Sadly, at the moment, I've traded in 4 out of the 5 basic needs for my laptop, laptop charger, pencils, and MCAT workbooks. I was willing to sacrifice the food, water, [clean] clothing, and shelter, but I needed to keep the O2 for when cellular respiration came around...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately, I've been reflecting on ways to apply and encompass all my abilities and passions towards making a meaningful and positive change in the world.

On a less serious note, sometimes I also wonder if OKC plots some sort of probability distribution for all the stats they collect on how many visitors each person gets on this site and if I'm representative of an obvious outlier point or not.

ANS: OKTrends
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
meeting up with fellow OKC members, going out with friends, at a bar, wandering the streets of NYC, relaxing at home watching my latest TV series obsession, staying in and studying up, or back in Jersey desperate for some unnerving rest.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Some of the most hilarious things said to me come in the form of OKC messages. I archive all of them into my inbox until I'm forced to clean it out to receive more new messages. Saddest day of my life;(

I use Locals very often.

I fall in love easily.

I have binge streaks: id est, those 40-piece McNuggets for only $8.99 are looking mighty delicious for tonight...

I eat my candy the way sick Americans pop pills.

Those 5 things all happen to be true. I'm not going to tease you. ;)
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 24–33
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you want to meet up, hang out, or grab coffee, drinks, or food.

Due to the recent busy-ness, tapered messages are much appreciated. :)

Cheers to you all and hope those in search of love find it.

-Stephanie