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GloomyCafe

23 / M / Straight / Single

London, United Kingdom

His Details

Last Online
May 14
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m).
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Education
Working on college/university
Job
Student
Income
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Hello, I'm 22 and I live in Lewisham, South East London, but I'm originally from Newcastle-Upon-Tyne (or near enough). I have a north east accent, which some people love (I have no idea why).

I'm a bit awkward, and pretty grumpy, but there are lots of nice things about me too, I think. Maybe.
What I’m doing with my life
I study contemporary music at university (Goldsmiths). I sing mainly, and write music of course. I'm a lyricist too, that's my main 'thing' probably, but don't worry, I don't carry a moleskine notebook around with me all the time, or have any pretence about being a 'poet' or an 'artist' or something.

I'm in my first year of a music degree- I used to study English Language in Manchester, and before that I was pretty much unemployed for a couple of years, and did voluntary work, working with elderly people. Being unemployed in Newcastle and having to live off housing benefits and the dole is pretty grim.

Manchester was quite nice, but I like London a lot more. Since being here I've started going to the cinema a LOT (I usually visit the BFI twice a week), and I've started going to see plays too, which is something I'd never done before (since the BFI raised their ticket prices, I've been seeing many more plays than films). Basically I love all this cultural stuff. I like to go to galleries too but I don't know all that much about art. I go to gigs quite a bit too, when I can afford it.

I have no idea what I'm gonna do after uni (who does), but it'll probably involve either music therapy/community music work, or sound design for film or stage. Or going back on the dole. The dole is most likely, actually.
I’m really good at
Being interested in EVERYTHING. I really like going pretty much anywhere, learning new stuff, talking about vegetarianism/feminism/gender issues/human rights issues etc etc, going on train journeys, visiting museums, wandering around with no particular aims...

I found a good article about the 50 Best Unusual Museums in London (sadly it was in the Telegraph, but ignoring that fact for a moment..) and I plan to visit every single one of them. Who knew there was a bell making museum in Whitechapel? Not me.

I'm also really good at spotting wildlife. I've seen foxes, deer, badgers, hares, field mice and hedgehogs over the past couple of months.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music:

Belle & Sebastian are my favourite band in the world ever. I'm not really as into indiepop these days as I used to be, though I still love Orange Juice, Jens Lekman, Ballboy and Felt. I love songwriting with orchestral arrangements such as Owen Pallet, Sufjan Stevens, Tindersticks, Left Banke etc, lyrical stuff like the Mountain Goats, Pulp, The Smiths/Morrissey and also ambient/electronic stuff such as Tim Hecker, Julianna Barwick, Balam Acab, Emeralds and Loscil. I like loads of other artists/bands too; over the last year I've been listening to lots of Julia Holter, Big Star, Destroyer, The Caretaker, various Ghost Box artists, How To Dress Well and Arthur Russell.

Films:

My favourite director is Mike Leigh, especially High Hopes, Life is Sweet, Nuts in May and Grow-Ups. My life is a bit like a Mike Leigh film sometimes. An exceptionally boring one.

Other films I love: The 400 Blows, Wild Strawberries, The Third Man, M, The Loneliness of the Long Distance Runner, The Turin Horse, Stalker, Persona, Shadows, King Hearts & Coronets, Fear Eats The Soul.

My favourite film of all time is probably Billy Liar.

All this favourite stuff is getting pretty boring for everyone involved, but favourite poets/authors/playwrights include Norman Nicholson, TS Elliot, JG Ballard, Alan Bennett, Harold Pinter and Phillip Larkin. Also I like any good vegetarian food, but I especially like indian food.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I spend most of my time thinking about environment- I don't mean 'the environment' as in wind turbines and global warming, more the structure of the environment that surrounds us- architecture, roads, the layout of towns and housing estates, the whole 'feel' of a place. Psychogeography would be a sort of catch-all term I guess. I like to take long walks nowhere in particular (my favourite recent walk ended up with me finding some docklands near the Thames which had been turned into a city park, which then led to a small urban farm in the middle of a strange housing estate). That all sounds a bit strange written down, but basically I mean that I like to explore my environment.

I also think about moral/ethical issues a lot- I have developing socialist feminist views, I'm a lifelong ethical vegetarian, and I have strong views on class and elitism in education and the arts. I also question the role of instant gratification in our lives, specifically drugs and alcohol- whether we need it, whether our culture depends on it, whether our potential as human beings is harmed by it (I still haven't made up my own mind).

Right well, those two paragraphs make me seem like a bit of a fanatic, I assure you that I'm not. Sorry.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–24
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners, long-distance penpals
You should message me if
You are passionate! About anything at all- I love to learn about new things, and I also love it when people ramble on for ages about nothing in particular. If you're ambivalent and not really all that arsed about stuff, or if you wear baseball caps and live in Shoreditch and are "soooo into 90s fashion and Nirvana and old skool hip hop right now" then please don't bother to contact me, we won't get on. I'm sorry.

Also, I've never been on a 'date', and I never intend to. The whole concept is so forced, and I can't imagine it being very fun. I'd just like to meet some interesting people, and maybe go to some museums/the cinema/exploring London with them, and most importantly, become friends. If it develops into anything more then that's a bonus! But I always feel that if you go into a relationship thinking "there's some mutual romantic interest here.." (even if there is) then you're just creating false expectations, and you'll never really be able to relax.

I've just clicked all the 'I'm Looking For' options above because I'm such a versatile guy. Also, I like the sound of 'activity partners'- people to do arts & crafts with and stuff? Count me in.